My boyfriend is threatening to dump me because of me getting medical guardianship. Is that reasonable?

[Judge]

The key to this is how accurate is the diagnosis of 75 IQ. Based on replies so far unlikely OP has this IQ. she seems quite capable of making up her own decisions. Having once been labeled as having a sub typical IQ. how much is her autism confounding the way her parents view her capabilities.

Exactly. But then I'd take it a step further to imply that such a metric itself is too flawed to even be applied in such a manner. Let alone by a society or professionals who may treat it as "gospel".

In essence that ironically IMO an "accurate IQ score" amounts to an oxymoron.

 

[Aspychata]

These are all valid points, but the worsening economy has made things difficult in regards to financial fitness of raising even one child. And government funding for those who need help due to hardship has drastically changed.

 

[the_tortoise]

The key to this is how accurate is the diagnosis of 75 IQ. Based on replies so far unlikely OP has this IQ. she seems quite capable of making up her own decisions. Having once been labeled as having a sub typical IQ. how much is her autism confounding the way her parents view her capabilities.

People with lower IQ's than 75 may not need guardianship, and be very responsible and independent.

IQ alone is a very unreliable predictor of real life ability and capacity.

 

[Tired]

The key to this is how accurate is the diagnosis of 75 IQ. Based on replies so far unlikely OP has this IQ. she seems quite capable of making up her own decisions. Having once been labeled as having a sub typical IQ. how much is her autism confounding the way her parents view her capabilities.

I just read that an IQ of ~75 is often described as borderline intellectual functioning (it’s not the same as an intellectual disability).
There is no single way such a person talks. Speech and writing varies a lot depending on education, life experience, confidence, and environment. They usually speak and write normally, with normal grammar and vocabulary for everyday life.
And about decision making:
Decision-making ability is not determined by IQ alone.
People with IQs around 75 commonly:

• Live independently or semi-independently
• Work regular jobs
• Manage money (sometimes with help)
• Choose relationships, hobbies, and goals
• Understand right vs. wrong etc
  
  Just what I read online and what AI also confirmed.

 

[Judge]

These are all valid points, but the worsening economy has made things much worse in regard to financial fitness of raising even one child. And government funding for those who need help due to hardship has drastically changed.

It's particularly a crushing issue for autistic children in my state of Nevada, With so many children and their parents dependent on such funding that has been politically rescinded. In a very large state with a very small population where revenue cannot be so easily raised.

 

[the_tortoise]

I just read that an IQ of ~75 is often described as borderline intellectual functioning (it’s not the same as an intellectual disability).
There is no single way such a person talks. Speech and writing varies a lot depending on education, life experience, confidence, and environment. They usually speak and write normally, with normal grammar and vocabulary for everyday life.
And about decision making:
Decision-making ability is not determined by IQ alone.
People with IQs around 75 commonly:

• Live independently or semi-independently
• Work regular jobs
• Manage money (sometimes with help)
• Choose relationships, hobbies, and goals
• Understand right vs. wrong etc
  
  Just what I read online and what AI also confirmed.

So do some with clear intellectual disability and IQ between approx 50 and 70. i have known and worked with people having IQs in that range.

Ability exists along a gradient contiuum, it's not like a slanted ladder or set of stairs -- it's like a veeeeeeeeery gently angled ramp.

 

[Judge]

So do some with clear intellectual disability and IQ between approx 50 and 70. i have known and worked with people having IQs in that range.

Ability exists along a gradient contiuum, it's not like a slanted ladder or set of stairs -- it's like a veeeeeeeeery gently angled ramp.

Agreed. Though it also reflects that such a metric is a disaster when applied on a blanket basis of a single numerical score that can have devastating consequences on people who are functional in whole or in part within every society.

Something I've seen one too many times here in on occasion this forum. Good people who must struggle, yet likely make it in society, continually pulled down by a single numerical designation.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

My older brother most likely had an IQ well over 160 he married never had a family divorced his mental health issues and autism probably precluded him having a family, I could not imagine my parents or anybody else interfering with this. A friend of mine who gave the avatar years ago lost his kid when his autistic girlfriend, sister and mother colluded against him, I figured out that he also was on the spectrum he passed from a brain tumor. When he realized what they had done the relationship with his girlfriend and family fell apart He was so angry, went from atheist to deeply religious, His only friends were my wife and I. So well meaning does carry blow back.

 

[dancerxoxo123]

The key to this is how accurate is the diagnosis of 75 IQ. Based on replies so far unlikely OP has this IQ. she seems quite capable of making up her own decisions. Having once been labeled as having a sub typical IQ. how much is her autism confounding the way her parents view her capabilities.

Yeah I don’t think my iq of 75 is that accurate.

 

[dancerxoxo123]

You may be capable of making your own medical decisions but incapable of taking care of a baby from birth to adulthood. I suspect that is what your parents are worried about.

Have you told your boyfriend that your parents claim that they already have a medical guardianship? What did he say? Did he leave as he threatened to do?

Yeah he didn’t leave when I told him I was going to get medical guardianship but I’m capable of making my own medical decisions so this means medical guardianship isn’t necessary for me and I should stop it as soon as possible ?

 

[dancerxoxo123]

Yeah I don’t think my iq of 75 is that accurate.

Why would the phycologist say my iq is 75 when it’s not accurate?

 

[Poppy98]

I should stop it as soon as possible ?

Not necessarily. I would definitely figure out if you can afford to care for the baby first. Having to give up a baby because you can't afford to take care of them would be really hard.

If you can find ways to save money across the board for your current costs, that could help a lot.