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I do tend to pull people up on forums if their spelling and/or grammar is not very good, and most people don't like it.
Is it just me though or is it a common Aspie trait?
Ran across an intriguing article about it.
Grimes, Cheek, and Norem developed a four-factor model of introversion, dividing it into Social Introversion (prefers solitude to people); Thinking Introversion (reflective and introspective); Anxious Introversion (shy and ruminative); and Inhibited Introversion (resists new experiences).
That's interesting enough, but where Grimes went next in her exploration of introversion is compelling, likely to be controversial, and quite possibly right on the money---research (someday) will tell.
In her master's thesis (read it here) Grimes posits that introversion is not the opposite of extroversion, but that they are two different traits altogether. And she proposes something that has come up here from time to time: That introversion actually is on the autism scale.
It's quite the thought-provoking article, and I ran across it because my own feeling (and now I know I am not alone in it) was exactly so: both the Highly Sensitive Person theory...
Everyone wears a mask.
Neurodiverse to fit in socially.
Neurotypical to fit in socially.
The neurodiverse mask can often not be very good,slips and thoughts,deeds become evident.
The individual can then be made fun of,ostracized even.
The neurotypical - the same.
There is a stress to maintaining the mask in the real world.
I'm wondering about the different purposes of the masks between neurotypical and neurodiverse.
How that behavior manifests in the only world.
Gross generalisation arrival time : next sentence.
The neurotypical relief of acting without a mask can reveal the inconsiderate yahoo manifesting in a you tube comment, the thought without consideration.
Neurodiverse can be the same, but can it also be something more?
Ie people who are used to being honest direct ,normally, does their online behaviour (by this i mean sort of their level of thought and consideration towards others) change much in an online context?
The online world can be sort of a 'schools...
Oh, no. I don't mean it in a depressing, oh, I am so lonely, I need a girlfriend type alone, but the kind where you get home from work to a nice empty house all to yourself free (you're never free) of societies expectations. I am a completely different person when alone. I am hyper, unfocused, and just loligag around, chasing every thought, indulging in every impulse, not holding back, and enjoying the time. I am free to be the autist I aught to be. I have taught myself this. I am not forgetting about my self hatred when I say this, but that feeling is derived from the inclusion of other people, not when I am alone. I have trained myself to accept the weird, quirky, erratically un-normal self. When I get home, I take of the mask of perceived personality, I don't have to act, I don't have to do anything right or wrong, no one will judge me if I do wrong, so I just... Be me.
And my god am I a fun person to be with when I am alone.
Just an afterthought before I post. I enjoy the...
It seems likely that you are like me: indifferent to "objects for status."
And yet, this seems to be an intrinsic element of the species:
“Humans evolved in small social groups in which image and status were all-important, not only for survival, but for attracting mates, impressing friends, and rearing children. Today we ornament ourselves with goods and services more to make an impression on other people’s minds than to enjoy owning a chunk of matter — a fact that renders ‘materialism’ a profoundly misleading term for much of consumption. Many products are signals first and material objects second. Our vast social-primate brains evolved to pursue one central social goal: to look good in the eyes of others.”
Consumerism’s Dirty Little Secret: Are We Buying All the Wrong Things?
But perhaps our view of this is evolving as a species. Because we don't have to be held in thrall to our instincts. Especially when those instincts are standing in the way of survival; not helping....
Do you ever find yourselves laughing in situations you shouldn't?
I have been doing this my whole life. It never really bothered me, until recently.
Let me explain. I was talking to this NT teacher recently, who doesn't know I'm on the spectrum, and she told me that she has this student who is autistic.
She told me "it's really creepy, he suddenly laughs out of nowhere and I don't know what to think". I tried to explain her it's not something to be creeped out, but I'm not sure she changed her mind.
This made me feel bad, both for the student and me.
So, lately, I've been trying to justify myself when laughing.
I usually find something funny to say about the situation I'm in, although it's not the thing I laugh about. It works fine. But I'm not sure it's the right thing to do.
What do you do in these cases?
Ok so to cut a long story short, the day after Christmas day 2016 i had my first one night stand. I wont go into to much detail because there's to much to say regarding how it came to happen. I went out, I met a girl (I've met her before she is a freind of a freind) and she came back to my house. Ive had relationships before but this has never happened to me.
In the taxi i was super nervous, not because what was about to happen, but because of all my geek items in my room. My rock collection, my stone sculptures etc. And how immaculate my room is. I thought she'd be put off by everything but she wasn't, she loved my room.
In the morning i woke up first. I just lay next to her thinking how awkward its going to be when she wakes. But it wasn't awkward at all. She rested her head on my shoulder and we started chatting about life and so on, I made her a coffee and she hung out with me for a while and for the first time in a very long time i felt normal, like an actual real human...
I don't know if anyone else has this issue, or if I'm just absolutely crazy, but I'm no stranger at all to having sensory overload.
I didn't use to have much of an issue with sensory overload that I remember when I was younger, but as I've gotten older it has become more common, I don't really know what the cause of that could be.
Some of the situations/things that have caused an overload for me are brand new, like being in a room with absolutely no one else, but the room is crowded with furniture and other items like that.
Going to the mall where there is a ton of people going every which way constantly and the ear destroying hum that is their various conversations drives me to the point to where I've had to leave and have someone else do my shopping for me. (I'll probably get flak for that one.)
Don't even get me started on strobe lights... those are an absolute nightmare.
It's hard for me to even keep it together being in a room with just a few people that are talking all...
Another possible reason the US has gone "full spectrum" and I am really a High Functioning Autistic:
The publication of a new history of autism called In a Different Key, by John Donvan and Caren Zucker, has reopened an unsettling question about the pioneering Viennese pediatrician Hans Asperger: Was he a Nazi sympathizer, or a man who paid lip service to his bosses' murderous ideology in order to save the lives of as many of his young patients as possible?
Was Dr. Asperger A Nazi? The Question Still Haunts Autism
I am currently reading the book referenced here, which is heartbreaking and fascinating. I did not know that Dr. Asperger's bona fides were in question before he got the honor of getting a syndrome named after him. It is undeniable he worked with, and for, Nazis.
In Donvan and Zucker's view, Asperger was an ambitious opportunist who uncritically spouted Nazi ideology in his first public lecture on autism in 1938, and enthusiastically signed letters "Heil Hitler!" Most...
My brother put my rebounder together for me, and I bounced for ten minutes. It was highly enjoyable! In fact I was surprised how it made me feel better at the end of a day where I was feeling not too good.
It is 40 inches across and supported with bungies, so it is also quiet and stable.
It is all part of sensory support, and while one of these days I would love to have a swing, I am very happy with this. It is stable, I bounce and “walk” without letting my feet leave the surface, and so my husband’s worries about me bouncing off it into the wall or something should be alleviated.
Considering what a cold and messy winter we have been having, it should be an excellent way for me to have some exercise, too.
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