Asperger's & Autism Forum

Does anyone notice that regular people will make a “promise” or say they are going to do something and then not fulfill it.. and act like it’s alright to make false promises to people?

So, for example, say a friend says “hey, will see you next week, how about we go out to Italios for lunch bat 2:30”... then you agree on it. The day comes around and it’s radio silence.. no message to say “sorry I couldn’t go” nothing. (I have an acquaintance that sometimes does this)

Another example is... I have been put on an Internship - I was told that they would be flexible. I have to book accomodation. The leader agreed to contact me on the 24th for dates that I would need to book.. the 24th comes round and what happens? I receive an email discussing about my interview with no mention of dates.He then states that he will tell me at the group meeting.

And i’m thinking “you just said that you were going to tell me dates on the 24th, but you haven’t and you are denying that you said you would?...

I'm a strongly visual learner and have always considered myself to remember names better than faces, which is half true, but it wasn't until I saw a post on tumblr the other that was like 'when you forget who some people look like when you haven't seen them for a while but remember every detail of your favorite character in a show and can describe it perfectly' that I thought things over a bit more.
I'm not entirely sure if I have face blindness (prosopagnosia) but is this a thing commonly linked to ASD and does anyone else here struggle with this?
-Basically don't ever ask to me 'age' somebody be they young or old, man or woman.
- I struggle to pick somebody I know- even family I live with - out of a crowd.
- I've met someone once, twice, and then they've greeted me the next time we've met and I panic for a second because I have no idea who they are. (Sometimes it clicks after a minute, sometimes not, in which case I just awkwardly go along because how can I mention I don't know...

Saw my psychiatrist yesterday and feel very thankful to my husband and teaches me, that when one does not have a "voice" and others "step in" and be that voice, acceptance comes along.

I feel let down by me, the fact that my voice is nothing; that I cannot make much of an impact; that my words are worthy of checking because of weakness of merit.

Anyway, my husband yesterday explained to my therapist that I experienced two meltdowns, with the idea of going to work, even for half a day! That my anxiety was so high, I could not cope and that I am unable to work and be a housewife. He explained that one day away from the house, causes several days of virtual panic. I guess, with my husband being my advocate, despite how I presented myself, the therapist made no arguments and phoned someone regarding financal support and then said that the form which needed to be filled in, had actually already been done! He said that it is quite obvious that I am unable to function in the work...

Do you have issues with social skill like the tone of voice and facial expression?

If yes
Is it that you don't have the capacities to see them(blank), or there is too much going on for you to pick the cue(distracted|overloaded), or you never figured out it was important to focus on these.

If you are introspective, what is on your mind when you are in a social situation(feeling, though, a pattern of thought.

Do you mind having this issue, do you try to avoid these situations where you would need these skills?

I am trying to figure out how both asp and nt perceives social situations
Feel free to put details, I love them and I will read them all

Does anyone else absolutely despise power tools? I have ever since I was little I remember my dad would get mad at me for it (mechanic and plumber). He'd always try and get me to use them. The loud screaming noise scares the crap out of me and put me on edge/high alert. I used a power tool with my husband for the first time this year I felt safer using it since it was just a spinning buffer instead of like a nail gun or drill.

Are people okay with someone inviting someone else along that they don't know?

Both my sisters were always bad about having me come visit or doing a sister weekend and decide, while we're out shopping or whatever, to stop by a friend's house that only she knows. Then I'm uncomfortably sitting there frozen to the couch. We'd plan a trip and they'd add someone else they knew (that I didn't) into the mix. I'd decide I wasn't going.
Actually maybe that's why they would never tell me ahead of time - knowing I wouldn't come?
Even not knowing about the autism, my sister's always knew I was not comfortable and didn't like being around people I don't know. And being a friend of my sister's does not automatically make them a friend of mine.

But it's always bothered me when I would be somewhere and they'd have someone else join us that I didn't know. Like I'd go to spend the night with my cousin and she would have her neighbor friend come over, too. Then I'd end up quiet and...

Now that I am socializing much more going out and meeting people at the Church meetings I attending I am having an terrible time at remembering there names. Thing is they all know my name but I only remember about 3 people's names.

So is this another Aspie trait?

I received my diagnosis a while back and I still keep getting appointments scheduled for therapy, etc. I am starting to have a problem with having 3 (three) different doctors and appointments with each of them per month. Here's where things get sketchy. One of them says ASD, one says OCD with mood disorder and the other just talks non-stop for 50 minutes while thinking ASD, Schizoid personality disorder and mood disorder unspecified. They do not communicate with one another. I raised a question to the only one with an MD and he had no clue what I was talking about until he logged in to my case. Keep in mind these appointments average 1.5 to 2 weeks apart.
My official diagnosis reads Autism Spectrum Disorder. Why am I seeing 3 doctors? None of them specialize in ASD but have not referred me. This is a circus. Has anyone else had this kind of...........(I guess I'll call it) "health care"?

Hi, i would like to ask a stupid question..

Why people on the spectrum, especially aspies, always have anxiety? 24/7 anxiety?

I'm not sure whether this analogy is suitable or not..

Is it like, MS-DOS (people on the spectrum) having trouble/burn-out because it's expected to perform like, for example Windows 10 (NT people)?

Of course managing to do everything with command prompt stuffs like in linux (?) is awesome. The disadvantage is it lacks the 'social skill' that a graphic user interface has.

Also, seems like people on the spectrum needs line-by-line guidance, like how a programmer must tell the computer how to do something by writing every single line.. Or else it cannot perform.

Or like it needs to be fed with lots of data then it can do machine learning. Similar to how people on the spectrum learns by mimicking, but having trouble in new situations. And difference is, computer will always accept the data, while a human might refuse to learn..

Anyway, is it the...

Hello all!

I hope you all are having a wonderful day so far. I am new to this community. I have a financee that I suspect is on the spectrum. She is extremely smart in the area of academic but she struggles in social settings. She fits all the criteria in the DSM V for ASD. However, she is not diagnosed. I need your help with the following:

This coming summer, I will be traveling with my family to my home country that I haven't been to since 25 years. I invited my fiancee to company me on the trip with my family. She agreed to go. She is a graduate student getting her Master in Psychology. In order for her to graduate, she will need to take a comprehensive exam this coming September. Our trip is from July to August. We had a big fight yesterday because she was upset that I told her that we will be staying with my family while we're on vacation (which I invited her to join our family). We are renting a 4 bedroom house while we are on vacation. She is upset that she will not have...