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I was reading AskAmanager.org. AskAmanager dot org and the woman there said we are supposed to start and end work emails with a greeting. Other places on the Internet say the same.
I asked my boss and he said "Hello Hetta", is more formal than just launching into the subject matter. I had thought the opposite, that just launching in to the business kept the email focused on business.
It is almost like small talk, having to put a greeting and a goodbye. But I am willing to do because the boss does it.
Hello Whoever seems okay. And Thanks at the end seems okay. But if you aren't thanking someone, then what to put instead ? One article said stuff like:
Best [best? really?]
Warm regards [which does not sound business to me]
Goid bye [too cutesy?]
Talk with you later [but what if we talk primarily through email and texting? 'Communicate with you later' is more accurate but they all sound weird to my ears.]
I really do not understand why hello goodbye is a thing in business email...
Seems the majority of us on the spectrum is honest to a fault. I see it in a lot of threads and I've definitely seen it in my own life. You know, I always thought and told people that you can say anything to anyone if you use the right tone. I'm starting to think maybe I was wrong. lol
For one thing I'm not as clear as I think I'm being - I've learned that being on here. When I think I have made a point and the majority responds in a way that I realize I have not made my point - which I actually appreciate honesty and being made aware (most NT's just kind of ignore you and go on but never question anything like we do). I really do like that - that we question things and are honest because how will you otherwise know the truth and I'd much rather base anything on truth than pretense.
But my question is why doesn't anyone believe it when I make a statement? When my kids were teenagers I would tell them, ie: If you go somewhere without asking first I will take away your...
Where are you on these parameters?
My nature is to avoid conflict at all costs. Conflict doesn’t feel good. The adrenaline that comes with anger makes me feel physically ill. I try to please others and go along to get along. I’m a pushover. One of the observations made by the counselor who diagnosed me was that I never advocate for myself.
But I just had a big blowup at work. My code for a big project is being reviewed by a very demanding and overbearing co-worker. So for three weeks - far longer than most reviews last - I have been making every change suggested. Suddenly, yesterday, I just had enough and I blew up. I managed to make it through the work day, but by 5, I was just holding my head between clenched fists because if I allowed myself to move at all, I was going to start throwing stuff. My boss saw me and asked what was wrong and I ranted and yelled for about ten minutes. I’ve mentioned so many times on this site how hard I work to be the nicest guy around, but I failed spectacularly yesterday....
My mom was definitely cold, l don't remember a huggy caring mother. l remember that l didn't feel accepted, almost a burden in some respects by the teenage years. What does your childhood bring up in your mind.
I'm sure this has already been discussed somewhere but I've not encountered it yet. The autistic stereotype is inappropriately under-responding, but do some of you sometimes over-respond? Are you sometimes too friendly or too touchy-feely? In what situations does this happen to you?
College biology is so god dang hard! It's like I'm the only dumb kid in a class full of GENIUSES! I can barely understand a thing, and I'm always the only one who needs help or has a bunch of questions! Could this be due to my mental disability? Cause I'm tired of staring angrily at these nerds with jealousy all the time. For once, I want to be the smart one. I feel like I should be in special ed! I'm always the last one to finish! It's enough I have non friends in any of my classes, and I'm not really worried about that. But when I'm the only dumb kid in class, and I can't get the teacher's attention, I'll fail!
Can someone shed some light or insight into this person! Here are some things that describe them:
has no empathy, cannot relate to what others are feeling at all
can not think from another's perspective
does not pick up on social cues on what is appropriate to say
blurts out offensive things
hard to regulate emotions, with large outbursts, regularly, at everyone
cannot articulate why hes feeling a certain way, or defend emotions
focused on emotions of self, rather than acknowledging others
stays mad for weeks or months
no tolerance for anything not his idea
Most arguments/him exploding are because of facts that contradict his own view
gets irrationally upset, if you disagree on what he is passionate about
forces his view onto everyone, everyone should like what he likes and think how he thinks
does not seem to realize things that would make others upset
struggles with imagination, art, creativity
struggles with abstract, needs visual cues
struggles to express self in writing or...
Hey, i haven't posted in awhile.. My birthday wasn't long ago, and as the day of my birthday passed. It's only just hit me, how cruel the world is. I have "Friends" but half of my text messages are just either seen or ignored. And i need to mentally learn that this is normal. I just can't deal with this non-sense. I'm too honest and too good-natured to just ignore someone. It's really just flatout evil, like i see it as just.. Well, unnecessary and because i'm so introverted with life. It just causes me to get depressed, and i bloody know the person on the other end isn't busy. They're just being a prick.
Doesn't anyone else want to talk about this issue?.. And maybe help me find a better way of dealing with this problem? Cause it is unsettling... I hate it. I really do.
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