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There's something that most Aspies like, swimming. I do love my swimming and I like being in water and I am a very good swimmer. I usually use local pools, at the age of 38, my pool has a hydro-therapy warm water pool that ban children under age of 16 unless accomplished by a legal guardian.
How many like swimming and like swimming in pools?
Some Aspies do have discomfort like they want to wear goggles since they're sensitive to amount of chlorine used in the pools and even the salt+sand can effect the eyes of the Aspie.
Through my enjoyment of swimming, the most unusual discomfort I have with pools is swimwear. The management at the pool let me swim in my full length tracksuit pants instead of conventional swimwear, I feel more comfortable in my trackpants instead of shorts. Most Aspies do like swimming in t-shirts I gather.
Are there any Aspies who like water, swimming? What water or swimming discomforts to do you have?
My situation at work is about par for an aspie: Why can't you remember stuff? Why do you talk to yourself when you're concentrating? Why don't you say hi and bye? You don't like sports? You don't wanto play fantasy football with us-- The whole office does it every year! I am talked about behind my back constantly and people are either too nice or outright rude and insulting to me. I am middling at my job, maybe quite strong in some aspects, but my tendency to disorganization and forgetfulness lowers my stock considerably.
There's that One Guy at work. Obnoxious, loud, arrogant, proud. Been with the company a long time, makes decent money and has been doing the same job for decades so hardly ever screws up. He mistakes his second-nature familiarity with a fairly simple position for excellence on his part, and never stops reminding eveyrone of how great he is, and they aren't.
This afternoon, the favored employees were all standing aroud talking, including Mr. Wonderful, instead of...
A friend just told me about this:
"The people you might see sitting in a chair, rocking back and forth are ones with severe autism. Just remember this. If you ever see someone with autism who is rocking back and forth, and is unable to communicate audibly via their mouth and or hand gestures. Don't be surprised if they are smarter that you and me put together . There is this one guy who is like this. They thought he was unable to think. Turns out that for some reason he lacks the ability to speak like you and me. Yet has the uncanny ability to think and reason far better than most people and has published many books."
I saw a video of a guy who didn't speak, from the outside one would say he looked handicapped. He would speak in ways you see toddlers do when they learn to speak. But when he sat down at the piano, he was a master. It was like an ability he had was just getting unleashed. I though maybe he is unable to think like us, but he has abilities superhumane. I'm so...
WereBear and Fridgemagnetman made great points that I think need exploring in their own thread.
What do you do to help the "aspie inside" to have an easier time in the world?
It's so easy to learn to fight it, but we should be embracing and helping everything that we are.
I agree with @Gracey that we can keep silent out of respect for others, but we should never lie to ourselves.
I had a wonderful meditation at the end of last summer. In it, I met my "other self," the Aspie-me who had been suppressed in many ways. I now work with her, like last night.
I have a big conference day, with lots of crowds, uncertain break times, and inadequate food sources. I was going to head for a favorite coffee shop and treat myself to a tasty coffee and breakfast... but that would mean a rushed up-and-out experience. I asked Aspie-me, who preferred a slow ramp up, and that is what I gave her. Time at home to get ready.
We have to be a team here
I like that, I do a variation when certain...
Hello, my name is Niall and I am new to this site.
Although I was tested during childhood for autism and came out negative, I am still fascinated and interested in the Autism spectrum and want to learn more. This is why I came here.
Many people, like myself, are still not sure how to identify between a person with Autism or Asperger's and a simply socially awkward, quirky, and introverted person. Maybe if you can answer these questions and clarify things, it would really help me.
I have some questions:
-What key features, if any, make people with Asperger's stand out from introverted and socially awkward people?
-Do the symptoms of Autism or Asperger's intensify or diminish over time?
-Can people on the Autism spectrum be very social, have many friends both on or off the spectrum, and be a trend follower?
-Can people with Asperger's or high-functioning autism maintain eye contact during a conversation, or does this depend?
-If someone has a limited number of interests, can you...
Hey all, I was just wondering about methods via coping mechanisms, pharmaceuticals, or alternate methods you use for coping with anxiety? I've tried various medicines, breathing techniques, and so on, all with minimum, to zero effect. I seem to live in a pretty constant state of mild to pretty severe anxiety, so strong, that unless I have to go to work, I rarely leave the house.
For me, the things that help me the most are being in nature, gardening, and music. The best overall was spending 10 months in the mountains with 2 dogs in a tent. Its was one of the most difficult, yet healing periods in my life. There were times there that my anxiety was just not a factor. The shame is that I can't live that lifestyle anymore. I have a wife and son to look after.
What are some of the things that help you with your anxiety? Any thoughts or techniques are welcomed.
I hate the social code that inow have to learn to adopt into my way of being i have to make a social face and and mask to use to even be considered normal and functional... i hate that iam treated different and things are assumed about because i do not act like the code says - where did this code come from.. the evolution of it is completely illogical and full of contradiction but many are too emotional needing approval/wanting cnnection to ever consider these things i think. Most people are sheep that just want there needs met without the deeper contemplation of all of it. How on earth am i going to manage a life with this kind of ridiculousness
ive been slowly going through every encounter i have and depicting it until i find the understanding of their reaction then having to sort it out morally so i can respond in a manner that will suit the situation, im exhausted and dont want to play these games anymore. i feel hopeless and on the verg of jumping off a bridge i dont think...
Looking for some perspective here.
So, my boyfriend who we suspect is Aspie, and I have slowly been overcoming our communication barriers.
One thing that became pretty apparent to me is that he doesn’t often validate my point of view or give compliments. In my NT world this is something I’m used to and have always taken for granted in My non-Aspie relationships.
It took me a while to realize the root of this disconnect between us.
So, he has been slow to realize that this is something that I need, just like somebody needs food or water. I know that sounds dramatic but it’s just true.
He says that he shows love through deeds.
My question is if it’s really a challenge for people on the spectrum to do this. I’m asking because we’ve gotten to the point where I’m flat coming out and asking him for feedback.
Like last night I said “what do you appreciate about me as a person?” He just looked at me with the most adorable smile. Then I could...
So today the weirdest thing got me really irritated for no reason. I don’t know why I got so worked up about it because it is just a silly little thing.
So it is spring break and I’m home from college, my parents as a treat got my siblings and me some muffins, blueberry and chocolate chip. I can’t stand the texture of blueberries so I never eat them, and my family knows that. Anyways, there were two left and my younger sister purposefully took the blueberry one and left me the chocolate chip one for the next morning. She said that she was saving it for me. I thanked her and planned to save it for later. Anyways, later my older brother sees the last muffin and just says,” that looks good, I think I’ll have it for breakfast tomorrow.”(same time I was planning on eating it). I don’t know why, but this made me so frustrated, and it seems like such a little thing. Note that I haven’t said anything to my siblings about my suspected aspergers/autism. I was really conflicted because I...
when i first heard my dignosis two years ago, i didnt agree with it. i have done research in the past to try and disgnose myself with something, to give rhyme and reason to why school life was so horrid. autism was suspected, but i couldnt line anything up.
soon, like my childhood, i started to line things up.
the memories had to be interpreted, and with so many to choose from, i didnt see anything right off the bat. first thing i remembered that linked up to me being autistic where trains. lining up wooden toy tracks, listening to the locomotives pass by, and even memorising all of The Polar Express.
after two years of sitting on this diagnosis, the memorise that link me are now plentiful. there are those media portrayed stereotype autistic kids, but i am more interested in the real stories.
what are you autistic childhood quirks?
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