Asperger's & Autism Forum

Hi. My name is Timothy, I am 21 years old with Asperger's and ADHD. I'll try to cut straight to the chase. I can't make myself go to work most days. I Hate most jobs I've had. The job I'm working now should be good and i like the people I work with, yet I still can't make myself go to work most days.

When I'm at work I Feel trapped and it feels like time just drags by, and its all i can do to stop from just running out. I've been doing some research and have found that this is not uncommon for people with Asperger's which really helped me, knowing that I'm not some lazy useless freak. However, my parents are running out of patience and the people around me do not understand really why or how I'm struggling and I can't explain it any better than I am here.

I have been searching for quite some time to try and find a program or group in my area that helps with this, like an AS support group or a work training program. The problem is I live in Wyoming, we have a total of 2...

I don't know what to do to improve this situation or when my son will be able to do it on his own. So I wanted to ask the community since I can't be in his head or understand what is going on in his head. I wanted to get an ASD perspective.

A little background...
My wife and son both have ASD+ADD. Very mild. My wife holds a high paying job. I take care of the rest of the family needs and have a business of my own. We both work from home. My son's condition is less manageable than hers. They are both geniuses.

My son has a weak executive function. We moved to the best school district in our state with services to help him. He is 2 grades ahead in school. He is medicated with anti-anxiety and ADD medication, as is my wife, which make him functional. He is in advanced classes. But...

I have to micromanage so many things in his life it is exhausting. If I don't the situation escalates and deteriorates to the point it explodes into meltdowns.

Food - He won't make food for himself if...

Do you ever get that feeling that because I am so messed up with Phobias and not being able to socialize good that my life is no good.

I could not get a job because I never was able to complete College but that's a long time ago.

Never had an relationship with a woman no never. Then I have to hear from most of my married friends that I am not ready.

I try to fake it socializing which I was getting better at until everything shut down and went virtual which was 13 months ago. Now it's worse to socialize especially when if any show up virtual or something if we meet physically are guys and couples or soon to be couples.

My uncle says I am worthless since I never moved out or accomplished anything unlike my cousins who are mostly married.

I try to get up everyday which I usually sleep until the late afternoon no thanks to anti anxiety meds. I try to make it out to the parks but all I see is successful happy people.

I still feel better someday but being cheered up by my friends...

Hey all!

I am so stoked about the gardening season already in progress and also coming up. I recently built two raised bed boxes from recycled wood. One for a heirloom tomato plant, sweet basil plants, 2 zucchini plants, 2 marigold plants, and a lavender plant. I THINK the tomato plant has sprouted already, but I won't know for sure until the plant develops more. At this stage it could be anything, but it did come in right where I planted the tomato seed.

The second box I built was for strawberries, I planted 5 different kinds of strawberries (11 plants total) they are so happy in their new home and a few of them already started developing runners! I also had to create a sort of mesh tent for them to protect them from birds, but the main menace will be my son haha. I'm hoping it keeps him out, but you never know, he's a crafty guy!

Anyways, coming to the main subject of this thread, another one of my special interests are birds, but where I am living you simply cannot find...

Sheldon is a character on a TV program in the USA. It aired for many years, and is still broadcast in some areas.

The Big Bang Theory is the name of the show, and its a sitcom about a group of young professionals. There are three young men who are really smart, and all work at a university, and a fourth young man who is idle rich. All of the male characters are pretty socially inept, nerds basically. These boys like comic books, and video games, and playing dungeons and dragons, and they eat alot of takeout.

Sheldon is the most socially inept male character, and seems selfish to the point of narcissism, is described as a child prodigy, often displays OCD types of character traits, seems very insecure, doesnt drive a care, etc. Sheldon is always very rude towards everyone else.

I know it is just a TV show, and one no longer in production. There is a laugh track that accompanies the dialogue, and the various character's social faux pàs are the main scource of the humor. I like to...

(I'm not sure whether I'm aspie/autistic or not, but I feel I'm weird compared to other colleagues).

Sometimes at work or in the internet, there are some things I found inefficient, or just plain curious to know about it. So, I sometimes ask stupid questions or voice out blunt opinions, which might be perceived as "negativity" or "having attitudes".

But I'm just asking, or saying my opinion. Maybe there's better wording to my words, or I should've kept quiet. But also my job to take those seriously so that's why I'm asking/voicing out - heck why would I spend my energy to participate and think deeply about those.

Although not addressed to me, the leader even said, "Better leave than having attitudes because it's disrupting the organization" - something like that.

Is voicing out unconventional opinions bluntly considered as "having attitudes"? Sure, I could've word my questions/opinions better, but I dont automatically know how, it takes time, inefficient - why not people just...

Hello autismforums!

I'm a 18 year old guy who's neurotypical.

I've been seeing a girl who's on the spectrum on and off for around 7-8 months now. We've had a couple of hiccups where we stopped seeing eachother, due to misunderstandings. A lot of the misunderstandings revolved around me not knowing about her mental illnesses, and hence I thought her behavior was her rejecting me or letting me down slowly. She's currently diagnosed with: Autism, epilepsy, anxiety and dyslexia. She used to be depressed and had an eating disorder that was coming back, though it is under control now. She also has severe trauma from bullying which has pretty much ruined a lot of her self confidence.

However, nearly two months ago we started seeing eachother again. I'd like to note that it was first now when we started seeing eachother that she told me about her autism, I had no idea up until now. I'm adamant that I want to make things work this time, and I don't want to leave for anything now that I...

I'm diagnosed with autism, but I dont have a special interest. I dont have any interests. I go to my job then I come home and sleep, I do nothing in between, as it gives me a great deal of anxiety. On weekends, I sit and look on my phone. I do nothing. It's a sad life, but I think it's my depression that keeps me from enjoying things. So I feel I don't have autism because I don't have a special interest, but the doctor says I do have autism. Hmm. This confuses me. Can you have autism and NOT have a special interest? I'm new to this, so I know very little. I'd like to be informed.

Has the diagnosis of Asperger's (or a similar diagnosis) ever explained anything about you?
This diagnosis doesn't explain anything at all really if you think about it.
It really says things we knew anyway. Issues with meltdowns (or shutdowns) or issues with social situations. I think we already knew that before the diagnosis.
Diagnosis is really only something you need in order to get some services (or meet other people with this diagnosis).
I have tried to use the diagnosis to explain a lot but it did not work very well for me.
The diagnosis only really states what is obvious. It is too broad, less concrete. What we really need is to go to professionals who can meet us where we are and tell us what our concrete issues are. We need to know our very concrete issues. What we on a concrete level struggle with. Diagnoses don't tell much about our concrete situations.
does the diagnosis really explain anything at all? Does it really help you see your concrete issues/difficulties?...

I went to work today and had no idea I was supposed to take the day off.

I was wondering where everybody was and it finally dawned on me that today was the Friday before Easter, which the company celebrated.

I guess I could still use the "it's covid, I have no weekend plans" excuse, but most people would still know the big days just by talking to other people anyway... which I clearly don't do.