Asperger's & Autism Forum

The most hurtful name I remember being called was "Mr. Scientific". I was being mocked for giving information, being pedantic and exact. It felt natural being this way but the other kids startling reaction gave me on of my first feelings that who I was, was a problem for other people. They would think I was weird. It hurt my feelings and scared me seeing this reaction.

Until I heard myself called that I never thought there was anything unnatural about me, I felt fine. But after, I never forgot that who I was wrong for everyone else. The loneliness started.

Were you called names?

I went to the psychiatrist today because for a while I've been thinking that I may have autism. Although they didn't tell me "you have autism" or anything, after talking to them and saying out loud what I wanted to say, I'm now sure that I do have autism.

I'm happy I'm sure now because I've never related to anything so much, and it's really reassuring to just put together all those aspects of different sizes into a group and have a name to call it. I know I don't really have to label everything, but it just feels really comforting now.

The next step is to do a neuropsychological test so I can get an official diagnosis. I'm kinda nervous about it, though. Wondering what if something goes wrong and they tell me "well, you don't have autism after all" even though I'm so sure about it. Have you ever thought something like that too?

I have decided to write a detailed essay on ASD to possibly present and inform my therapy group with, but I need ideas, and points to touch on in this essay. If any of you could tell me something that neurotypicals NEED to know, or to inform them on. I would deeply appreciate some resources I could use, or stuff from personal experience you feel is important. <3

This might be trying to make friends, being accepted at work, relationships, etc. Rumination can also be obsession.

Re: my photography

It looks to be another season of camera club futility, low scores again, even social media generally seems to ignore me, my latest in a photography Facebook group, three or four likes, all the people doing landscape, nature, etc... get more than enough attention compared to what I get... Perhaps because because it's "prettier" than urban photography which isn't often very pretty...

I know I've ranted before, that few people seem to buy into my photographic/creative vision, which means I don't get much attention from anyone...

I want to pursue my vision even as an amateur, non-professional photographer, just not feeling much love in the process, like a fish swimming upstream (maybe a bad analogy ), just frustrated once again...

I guess I could just quite competing, but I'm on the executive as treasurer, so I'm not quitting the club anytime soon, being loyal... I do know some people who have simply stopped competing while staying involved in the...

So, i’m currently in a Southern Europe with my family. My cousin is getting married, my parents were invited to the wedding I was not.

Obviously my family will be out all day and probably into the early hours of the next day. If I could just explain my issue:

I have got a lot of anxiety over this day. I don’t have a car or any transport, my parents are taking the car for the day.

I do not speak the language here. I am staying in an apartment that is in a secure area but there is no security personal stationed here.

The area that i’m in is a sort of town but there’s not a substantial amount of things to do here. You need a car to get about or to get to other towns.

I’m quite anxious about staying here on my own, primarily due to a lack of things to do but also weariness over my safety, particularly with the language barrier and lack of familiarity with the area.

I’m not quite sure what I should do here, other than walk about a bit or sit inside all day. I was thinking of...

Hi everyone.

I am a 29 year old male with Asperger's from San Francisco, California, USA who has never been able to have a girlfriend and am still a virgin despite not wanting to be. I turn 30 in October. Since as of today there is only one month and one week left before my birthday, I am naturally quite concerned that I will be turning 30 next month being in this state.

I have always been a shy, introverted, anxious and awkward person. Perhaps I spent too much time studying, focussing my entire life up until my mid-20s on studying. I studied two degrees at an American university--mathematics and pre-med molecular biology, thus having twice the courseload of a regular student. I then went to the UK to study chemical engineering.

At that time, I neglected my entire social life, and had no dating life to speak of. I spent basically the whole day trying to stay afloat with my studies. My only other serious hobbies were and are introverted activities, such as competitive chess and...

My oldest has autism. He is high functioning. How can I deter him from having a “girlfriend” and have children and at the same time encourage my younger son who is neurotypical to have girlfriends?

Hi, I am new here and I hope I will be accepted, while I am really a super weirdo.

Anyway I want to ask if you hate when people are around. I don't talk about the common "I am a misanthrope" thing.

I'm talking about people outside, that are not assumed.

An example: I am in a big city, so I assume it's full of people, thus it's totally OK there are crowds of people. I am not happy about it, but neither upset.

But when I am on a stroll in the middle of the night in a small village that is situated in the middle of nowehere, and I have never met anybody, or maybe only few people, then I meet a whole crowd, it totally ruins my mood. I mean - objectively speaking, they have the very same right to be there as I do, but still... I am always like "Hey! Why do they HAVE to be here? Can't they just go away?!"

Another example. Yesterday I went for a walk into the deep woods and I have never met anybody there, but yesterday... A whole family with three children showed up on the way. What...

Does anyone else have a really bad sensitivity to touch? Especially when other people touch you?

The only person I really like to hug is my boyfriend, no one else. I still hug people if they initiate the hug but usually I try to avoid it at all costs. I also HATE people putting their hand on my back.

What is your experience with touching in a relationship? I feel like I've told my longterm boyfriend (10 years) too many times that I'm just sensitive to touch but he still tries to be rough sometimes. I don't think he realizes that I am really sensitive. I hate it when he grabs me in places just randomly. Like in the kitchen or when I'm just standing there. He does things that are turn ons for him, but they are complete turn offs for me and then he expects me to be in the mood for stuff. I feel like every time he does something, that feeling of jerking away when he randomly touches me grows.

I've tried to tell him to stop doing that before, but I don't think he really understands....