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I've read a lot of comments about Aspies "faking being NT". Where would you draw the line between faking being NT and learning and adapting?
For example, I have a lot of odd behaviors (e.g. always having something to fiddle with, compulsively counting and recounting things) that I (try to) hide because I don't want to look "weird". That's probably faking being NT.
Over 20 years ago, I learned that making eye contact when talking to someone was "good communication", so I practiced, observed others, and now make eye contact when I talk to people (though I'm still not sure exactly what eye contact is supposed to communicate, besides "I'm aiming my words at you"). I call that learning and adapting.
Everyone, NT or ND, has to adapt to some things in this world. So, what's the line between faking and adapting? If I am functional enough to adapt to something, shouldn't I try? Where would you draw the line?
I was thinking the other day while feeling generally left out and suffering a serious case of the blahs about what a social failure I am. And then I thought about the people on this forum who want to be hermits. And then I realized I couldn't very well be a hermit, I have 4 friends and don't want that much alone time. So I fail as a hermit, too. And then I starting thinking some more. Yep, over-thinking as always. Except this time it turned out ok and I realized that I was being far too extreme in my thinking. Like it's only ok to be really social or really isolated. Can't I be a moderate hermit or recluse? A weekday hermit? A social minimalist? Can't I consider myself quite good at achieving that instead of feeling stupid all the time? Maybe I am actually fairly socially successful by only having 4 friends (a huge amount for me). Maybe other people are being friend hoarders and suffering as a result. Anyhoo, sorry for the little ramble, I'm finally getting some downtime to think...
i often find myself talking about facts or history.
Then notice that this isn’t really a conversation.
The other person is just listening to a historical repeat.
I realise it’s a bit odd for them but I can’t really just stop before I’ve completed the section.
To me it’s sharing a bit of linked information to a topic.
But I do notice they don’t really want to know .
I’d want to know the extra information. I’ll talk on quiet a few subjects so I can’t really see it as boring
Does anyone else suffer from dysphagia or pseudodysphagia? I am wondering if there is a link to swallowing issues and autism. I know a lot of autistic kids are particular about food, so there is at least the possibility of a connection.
Dysphagia = painful or difficult swallowing
Pseudodysphagia = fear of choking
I'm not sure exactly which one of these I have. My problem is that I absolutely cannot take pills without chewing them up. Please don't tell me how bad that is for me; I already know. If I could fix this I would have done so already, though I am open to tips from anyone else who has gotten past this.
I have been this way since I was a little kid. I remember the first time I tried to swallow a pill at the doctor's office and just couldn't do it. Even the smallest pills cause me an issue. I stopped taking all medication earlier this year, so at this point in my life I only need to swallow pills if I get sick.
Does anyone know if there is a link between this issue and...
I love my grandfather to death, but I can only take him in small doses. If I am around him for too long, I feel really anxious and burnt out.
My grandfather and I are polar opposites. I'm quiet, he's loud. He's also rather opinionated and stubborn. He's not one to admit he's wrong, even if he is wrong, but is quick to point out other's flaws. I hate it when he gets into his lecturing mode. He'll go on a lecture about certain things, such as religion and politics. He'll go on and on about his opinions and how he is valid in them, but won't really ask others for their opinions or input, thus conversations with him tend to be pretty one-sided.
He likes to annoy me too. He'll embarrass me in front of other people and talk to me loudly. Just this Thanksgiving he made fun of how I talked, being that it was too quiet for him. I know that he is not doing in on purpose, but it still drains me out when he insists of bothering me even if I've made it clear I don't want to be bothered. He...
I must say I am not an expert on biology or philosophy for that matter.
First, to answer the nature or nurture debate from a radical point of view: it is always nurture, no matter what. What is called "human nature", is the result of something else, because humans did not exist 10 millions years ago. Their existence comes from preexisting law of physics that were "left to work", creating new "pseudo laws of nature" from their interaction. Problem: how to reconcile this with quantum physics and the existence of random happenstances, meaning some pseudo laws would emerge at random, meaning you couldn't really deduce them from preexisting laws?
The answer I found: If you had infinite calculating capabilities, even if there are random happenstances, this randomness is still bound to some rules. You would be able to calculate every way fundamental laws could interact with one another, even if they could interact at random, you should be able to know when they can act at random. You...
I thought I would post this on the forum and see what other people's opinions are.
I've been not-quite-dating this guy I met online a while ago. It isn't serious and we started out just as mates, so I had no expectations of anything and don't really consider it a relationship as we don't live close enough to see each other very often and it's still very early days. We are both currently single and can't really find anyone compatible, so we ended up going on a few dates over the last couple of months as a 'see what happens' arrangement. We don't really see eye to eye on a few major things (he's an only child and wants tons of kids one day, whereas I come from a big family so don't), but he isn't looking for a long term thing right now and I've been single for a while so it's just nice to have someone to go out with.
When we first met up, he wasn't skinny (which is normally my type) but he wasn't overweight either. Just what you'd call 'average' build and not very toned. He said he...
Recall learning words as a child, and how I thought each word, the more complex it was, the more magical/special. Learning long words, more than shorter concise ones, caused me a world of pain from my peers and family. Yet I carried on, carting around my gigantic dictionary, as it was and still is an adventure to learn new words. I know many but don't use them out of fear I suppose, of being called smarty-pants and four eyes as I was called as a child, especially with the online climate as it is, where concise even abbreviated words are the norm.
Aspies and auties learn language differently than others. Hence the epithets. Yet recently, this explanation has unearthed some long held misunderstandings of smarty-pants and little professors:
Unlike people with “classic” autism, people with Asperger syndrome typically do not appear to have any significant delays in the development of language. Some of us even speak early, but the quality of our speech is...
I've started taking small doses of prosac just a few days ago. The first thing I noticed was I don't feel as much of an anxious feeling in my belly. I still get chills down my spine but the feeling isn't robbing me of my decisions anymore. One of the side effects is a little bit of drowsiness. Made me immediately paranoid first day that I was turning into a zombie. So I started to test the waters and try doing what I do normally. Then I added in decisions I wouldn't normally do like go on a run by myself. For the most part I have started to do this form of hyperfocusing again. I used to do it all the time in school. Like daydreaming I guess. I just float away, body on autopilot.
I did this on the workout while excercising. Got a good workout. My room is being loud. That is another scenario where the med is working. I usually start freaking out when I hear all that noise outside my door.
What are your experiences on anxiety meds if you take them?
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