Asperger's & Autism Forum

I don't want to put everyone in a box but I've heard from many people that when an aspie breaks up with you it's written in stone for them, that their feelings will NOT change no matter what and that they forget you even existed after a few weeks. Is this true? Is there any hope for us in the future? She says she doesn't hate me and have no bad feelings for me, just that she doesn't feel the same way anymore. The breakup was very spontaneous. For now I'm leaving her alone..

Dating between doctors and patients, between psychologists and clients is controversial. Well, I'm aiming to get the law changed in the UK so it's allowed. I've written an article that's been published which explores the issue. I'm considering getting a petition started at some point.

Someone for Everyone? by Ashley Formby – Asylum Magazine

I could tell you some stories. I've had professional women flirt with me, one of them who was helping me had a Freudian slip that indicated she had sexual thoughts about me. In a hospital one time a psychiatrist while interviewing me rubbed my stomach while smiling mischievously. Another female psychiatrist I saw asked me a string of questions about sex and how I felt about women unprompted, when I hadn't been talking about anything related to that at all, asking me questions like "I bet you'd like a woman, wouldn't you?" I had a therapist who would cry during sessions with me and would comment on the clothes I was wearing, she also smiled...

Hi all,

I'm 40 in a few months. I've been referred by my therapist for an ASD assessment. While I wait to be seen, I've begun experimenting with letting my body do what it wants to do and not letting ingrained social expectations get in the way. Taking off the mask.

Sometimes this feels like a relief, like with (more visible) stimming, and other times I am very conscious of how others are responding to me, particularly people who knew me when the full mask was up. Like my therapist and my voc rehab counselor, for example.

How long did it take for the mask to come off? The latest for me is paring down eye contact (I was one of those who would stare as a way of showing that I was listening. Most friends and family remarked that my gaze was intense). I realize now that when I make eye contact, I feel ...overconnected? Like the relationship is unbalanced and I am in an intimate exchange I didn't ask for. And when I don't make eye contact, I feel more comfortable most of the time....

Does anyone think, in the 80s, there were mixed messages regarding drugs?
On one had there was grange hill
The 1986 cast released Grange Hill: The Album, with two singles: "Just Say No" (tying in with a character's heroin addiction) and "You Know the Teacher (Smash Head)". The album was re-released on CD on 12 November 2007,
But there was this song

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Hi. I created this thread to ask if anyone has ever lost what they had considered to be their lifelong special interest.

I was a 3D animator at one point, between the ages of 13 and 18 (I am 25 now.) The process of animating soothed me and brought me immense joy. I considered 3D animation to be my destined career.

At age 18, I moved to a big, horribly loud city with people I barely knew, and had to share a room with a boy which felt incredibly wrong, so already there's a massive change in routine which I did not handle well. Meltdowns were frequent.

At the same time, I had attempted to take a course in Animation Mentor. I passed the first course but didn't bother taking the second one because I felt none of the joy I once did. It didn't soothe me, not even if I did it has a hobby. It just felt like work.

From this point, I felt lost. I suddenly no longer had an outlet, during a time in my life when I needed one the most.

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My NT daughter in law is always showing me pictures or telling me about trips and stuff of people I don't know. Because she knows how much I love the western U.S. she tells me about anyone she knows that is talking about or has taken a trip out there, will share their pictures with me and keep me posted. I'm afraid if I tell her that I really don't care I'm not sure if it'd come off rude so I just smile and let her go on. But I really, really, really don't care to hear about strangers and what they are doing. I don't care what other people are doing. No, I don't feel excitement for them like she does. She gets excited over people she don't know getting to do something fun. Why? I don't care to see pictures that some stranger has taken when I might have that same picture that I took. I'm not begrudging anyone for getting to do things they love, but does it excite me? No. I'm not the least bit interested. It actually drives me crazy because I know she is genuinely...

I'm not diagnosed yet but I suspect I have either ASD or ADD or both. I relate to both in many ways. Anyway.

Nobody knows or suspects anything although many people around me think I'm weird/naive/cloudheaded, etc..but nobody knows why.

I grew up as a good and 'smart' child. Everyone around me expected things of me because of that and because of my ease to learn things by heart and therefore get away always with medium to good grades with very little effort due to my lazyness. People and teachers always thought I'd do incredible things if I tried a bit more. I never thought I'd go to college but I did and I graduated with a degree of something I chose for the wrong reasons and which I ended up hating and working at for only 3 years before quitting because it made me wanna turn to pills.

I did several other jobs in the meantime to have an income and all of them I hated too because they were the kinds of jobs that expected all sorts of things I neither could nor wanted to give...

Some of us on the spectrum never learn to drive a motor vehicle. Some can't handle the timing, sensory processing, etc. I did learn, but it was difficult and I still struggle with it. Two qualifiers on me first I have Aspergers and am relatively high functioning. Still learning to be aware of more than what was immediately in front of me was very hard. Second, I live in the USA. We have a car culture here and learning to drive is easy and cheap compared to some other countries. For example, you don't need a professional instructor, anyone with a licence can teach
you. Most Americans learn to drive in high school in a driver's education class taught by your physical education teacher.

I'm wondering how many here either don't drive or like me learned late in life.

I have Aspergers, and as such I did not have any of the speech development issues seen in other forms of autism. I met my milestones on time, have no trouble verbally, and have even been told that I am an outstanding public speaker. However, I usually am very quiet by choice. I hoard words like they are being rationed one person told me. To people also on the Aspie end of the spectrum I'm wondering if you are the same.

I have a coworker who seems to have a personal vendetta against me. I have heard her complain about me before, but as long as it was just words, who cares.

Lately, though, her grudges for me seem to manifest in concrete actions. She has been making me jump hoops by citing company procedures that aren't imposed on other employees (eyerolling-worthy, but whatever), delaying processing my requests (annoying in its obvious passive-aggressiveness), sent me an email that was intended for me to give a "gotcha" response (I ignored the email), and just today told me she didn't want to move forward with my requests because "there's so many of them" (?!? but it is literally your job to process my requests!).

Her manager is aware that there are problems between me and the employee, but maybe not the whole story. I don't really want to bring my manager into this because I don't want it to turn into a big thing, the problem employee won't be fired and my relationship with the entire...