Asperger's & Autism Forum

I find that commitment in modern society is a way to self destruction.

I suppose if there were 2 couples who are a good match between each other but bad in other ways it would make a sense to bond forever per se.

Then I have had a realization that if we had no need for actual pairing forced upon by a society I would be free socially. It is like no morals but the actual care towards each other.

So am I reaching for polygamy or serial monogamy? I have nothing against those two. Am I one with those preferences? I prefer not to label myself. It is more like what makes everyone comfortable not just myself in the moment. In the moment ethics seems to me the most sincere and uncomplicated. Why make it complicated? I'm sure Kant would not formulate my thoughts like this altough I also put a lot of faith in his imperative. Logical guidance paired with sincere ethics. Yes, if flimsy commitments creates plausible problems for you snd others then do not do it. There are great apes who seem...

I would like to know, what colors do you wear the least?

For me, the three least are orange, yellow, and gray. I only have one yellow polo shirt. I think the only gray item I have is a gray hoodie. I have only one truly orange polo, but a few that are pinkish orange (salmon).

I am fat. I've always been fat.

I think I am fat because of my autism... Ha ha what? No, I am fat because I am lazy and I eat trash food. However I think the connection between autism and obesity is interesting. Also I think my autism definitely puts many obstacles between me and my way to lost my fat.

I don't want to bore you to death with huge pile of text, so let's just put six or so paragraphs:

• I've been always picky eater. Since kindegarden I hated many foods. I hate certain foods with certain taste or texture. And if I don't like how it looks like, I usually don't eat it. My relationship towards food always been a pure horror story for me.

• It's almost imposible for me to stick with some good eating habits, to eat regularly, to follow meat plans, to count calories and so on. Also every single tiny little thing really breaks my motivation. For example I want to make some healthy food, but I live in a small village and they don't have a half of ingredients in the...

Lately I've been wondering if perhaps my psychiatric medications could be making my sensory issues worse. They just seem too severe. Is this a thing? Anyone else have experience with this? If they were in fact making it worse would I likely be having over side effects too?

If you are the type that has to put a reminder in their phone for everything and then still forget, we are very much alike.

Do you accept this inevitably or do something about it?

So I have these vivid memories of asking my mom not to congratulate me since I was a little kid. Now with me being on the spectrum being a very real thing, I'm trying to make sense of such behaviors.
Have any of you had similar experiences growing up?

I'm 38y old Aspie, have a job and two kids (3y neurotypical, 6y Aspie). Typically days are tiring due to work, but the really difficult part is evenings. When I come home, the kids run around screaming and fighting all the time, so I just get some food and drag time until the kids go to sleep at around 9pm. Typically by then I'm already exhausted due to sensory overload, so after putting them in bed just pour myself a glass of whiskey and spend the rest of evening randomly surfing web, with few more drinks during that. I have been doing this self-medication for last 10 years.
The whiskey helps in the evenings, I can really feel my brain releasing tension sip by sip, to go from like a tense muscle to a peaceful sea. But in the mornings I feel not well slept and hangover I need to find an alternative evening decompression method.
Please tell how do YOU decompress during evenings?

I don't know about everyone else but I like my privacy

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Anyone else confused why people call non living thing things she? Like a boat. Why sometimes people call the ground the floor? As the floor is indoors and the ground is outdoors

It's various definitions describe:

A feeling of pleasure and/or sadness when you think about things that happened in the past.
A sentimentality for the past, typically for a period or place with happy personal associations.
Recalling the past in a rosy, positive light, even though the true past is more complicated. It’s a sentimental or wishful emotion that makes us reminisce, or recall past times.

Do you think the past is better than the present? I am sometimes reminded of the past with a scent, say of apples or smell of long grass in the sun. A time when there were few responsibilities and a different sort of freedom.

I've noticed that some like to collect items such as trains, dolls, seashells, toys and games to mention a few. Are these collections related to nostalgia about childhood? Is this hearkening back to the past a way to remember it or celebrate it or both?

Because really when you consider life in general, it's about loss. Loss of childhood, home, place,...