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This goes against conventional wisdom and I can get into trouble for sure. In fact I already got kicked out of a Zoom seminar for basically saying what I was doing in my life. I vacillated back on forth on why I was kicked out (asked to leave by instructor, a suggestion, not mean spirited in anyway, but the referral she gave me was revealing to say the least) and talked to many people about it, so not what you think (if you ARE thinking that).
I hit on idiot/savant. I found someone whos brother was crazy successful in business who has the same talents as me, but maybe quite a bit better. I had two questions my whole life: 1) why don't people believe I can do what I do, despite doing it in front of them? 2) why do people give me no creditability, and often look down on me?
My understanding is complex, but my idiot phase triggers a sense I am incompetent. I come across as not credible. My savant phase is beyond what anyone believes someone can do. It is met with disbelief or anger,...
It happens for me already for years, but is getting more often last few months, here are the examples.
1) It comes to my mind to say something to someone, althrough I know it's going to hurt them, but I have an intensive fear I will say it and hurt that person and feel like I'm fighting with myself strongly.
2) Yesterday I saw my father's bike in garage that he likes a lot. I had an intensive fear I'll break it, either intentionally or accidently and I didn't feel safe to even pass next to it.
3) It came on my mind to eat things that are not food and I also had a fear that I'll do it and that I have to control myself strongly not to do it.
4) i'm afraid that I'll injure or kill people that I love.
5) I rememberd some near accidents from my life and imagined what would happen if there was an accident.
What could this be? Did anyone have it? How do you cope with it?
Why do some people talk about how many aspies are good at acting and that it is related to the diagnosis? Sure there are aspies who are good at acting and singing but I don't see how this is specifically related to ASD. All I know is that some aspies practice acting and singing. This is why they get good at it. Perhaps having problems with social situations can lead some people to go into acting. I myself like acting and singing but it is not that much related to ASD other than that I am very good at certain skills but have issues with other skills which is common in ASD.
What do you think?
Apologies for the length here, and the mood of despair contained within too. I'm kind of freaking out a little and hard to abridge. Much appreciation for any who take the time to read it all.
I haven't visited here for a minute so please excuse if some of this is old news.
I am an old man so I've had decades to learn how to cope with living in the world. 40 years ago my autism was pretty obvious, but today I am actually pretty good at conversation even though it wears me out and I am now good enough at the "social graces" that I can get by. My stims are restricted to private rooms, etc. In other words, I have learned to acceptably mask and cope. I eventually found a job that pays pretty well, allows me to just do my work virtually alone all day long and leverages my advantage of being able to concentrate better than most on small details.
I have always been quite a bit better than average, possibly very good (difficult to self-assess), at, with no fear, taking complex things...
The autism charity I'm registered with (which had drop-ins before
covid) have a facebook group, different members of staff post information on it and from time to time ask how everyone is doing, a service user replied with a swear word in his message, I'm confused why that's allowed but, on occasion swearing during the drop-in a service user would be asked not to.
In my country we have a lot of working from home and distance education due to covid-19.
I have heard that many people with ASD don't do well in distance education. It's bad for people with ASD. To me this sounds crazy as people are different. I mean, some people probably despise whereas others like it. Not having to deal with a lot of social situations in a classroom must be a nice thing for people with ASD. Getting rid of a lot distractions must be very nice.
I take music lessons online and the only really problem is the physical aspects. It is easier to learn physical skills with a teacher who is in the same room. I must say that it is nice to be able to have music classes without leaving my home. A friend of mine who also have ASD says that he moght actually get more done at home than at other places. I feel the same.
I myself sometimes like and sometime hate the classroom experience. Small groups are ok but big groups with a lot of distractions is terrible.
Why would people...
Is anyone else good at killing conversations (real life) or discussion threads (online)?
Colleague: That's a nice lunch you have there Vic. Did your wife make it for you?
Me: Uh, no. I made it myself. It's leftovers from dinner last night. And I don't have a wife.
Colleague walks away.
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