Asperger's & Autism Forum

Last night I was upstairs - joined my son and daughter in law, her mom and sister and their almost grown kids. I like this group and feel fine with them. Her mom has become one of my best friends, matter a fact. But it's still a group and I still can't move about freely. To the point that I pay for it later. While, eating, my son was showing some videos from when we drove across Beartooth hwy - Wy/Mt border - one of my absolute favorite spots in the U.S. ANyhow, the way I'm sitting I'm having to turn my head and strain my neck to see parts of the video we're talking about. So today, my neck hurts, my head hurts, my left eye is not working right (nerve related) and dealing with the trigeminal neuralgia, but it's mild today. Knowing it was a mistake to strain my neck like I was, I still couldn't change my body position to prevent it because I just have such limited movement in groups.

Another group I would have been frozen, but even when I'm not completely frozen my...

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Do any of you have obsessions/interests that you can't afford? My obsession is with real cars, I like to buy them, buy parts for them, modify them etc but I do not earn enough money to do this. I have tried buying match box cars, model cars, Lego sets etc even though I like that stuff it doesn't hit the right spot. It causes me to be depressed and I'm not sure how to fix it. Anyone got any suggestions for me

The good:

I have a job.
The job can pay more than I expected to earn when I reentered the workforce (I was a stay-at-home-dad).
This year I earned the most that I have ever earned from a job (from overtime and sales bonuses).
They hired me because I passed the test to get an insurance license, and then performed.
I like my coworkers.
The company I work for normally doubles in size every year, and quadrupled in size last year to, I think, ~2,000 people last year in three cities (and then some).
In America ~10,0000 people per day are turning 65, are going on to Medicare, and this is good for insurance agents that sell Medicare (not me, but the company is going in this direction).
I am in a company that just raised $1,500,000,000.
We have new management (in my case at multiple levels), and we are doing quite well in the division that I am in (we are not Medicare, and Medicare earned a 1,600% profit this annual enrollment … that is gonzo nutso high!).
We might start getting raises.
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After having done through traumatic events such as abuse and being raped, my flash backs backed by having a good memory being autistic makes life hell, suicide come to mind time and time again paired with feeling worthless and wanting to die at times, recurring flashbacks, nightmares, at times unable to sleep, i wish i had no memories however sadly although a good trait being autistic having the memories at times keep my flashbacks coming, im not sure whether to put it here or serious discussion, just wonder if other Autistics have ptsd and how to cope with the memory retention bringing.the flashbacks back, how to shut them off.

I am finding that I get ridiculously cranky and depressed if I go without coffee for a couple of days. But after a couple of cups, I am back to my normal self.

I wonder how normal this kind of dependence on caffeine happens to be. I can still function without it, but it seems like it takes a hundred times more effort if I go without the coffee. When I was a child, I thought people were joking when they said they needed coffee first thing in the morning before anything else. Now I realize the feeling is very real.

I have a dependency on caffeine. I suppose there are worse substances I can be addicted to, but seriously, this is a billion times more addictive than alcohol and marijuana is to me.

I was crippled by Risperdal for a year...May 2018 thru May 2019. I stopped and a month later, I was magically able to do strenuous physical exercise. Gee, I wonder why? Now I weigh 170, I'm tall btw, and I'm doing great! I used cbd for a while. I would recommend that but in moderation. You use too much you won't be productive. I am even considering getting a job. I haven't worked since October 2017. That's just Crazy! I've also gotten a lot better at my social image. I stopped drinking. I was on the road to DEATH, and soon, too. Like, not an exaggeration I was within months of death due to health conditions due to drinking. Ask any questions you like. Stay positive guys!

I'm really sensitive to car horn remote keyfob honking. Is there anyplace affordable/cheap I should consider to escape this noise? Anyplace with older cars that don't have that, or just areas where most people shut that off?

Oddly enough, other sounds don't bother me: airplanes, ambulances, leaf blowers, etc. I'd appreciate any suggestions. I'm guessing it's a startle response for me, I feel like I'm hit, or having a heart attack each time, and no, I won't just get used to it. In my day, it was even frowned upon to honk a horn in NYC unnecessarily.

Obviously non-hurricane/tornado/flooding areas are preferred. I hate snow but I'd prefer that to noise pollution. I'm currently in Albuquerque, NM so a shorter/more local move is better/cheaper, but at this point I'd rather have some peace and quiet wherever it is.

Could use some help, assistance or advice either from fellow AS or NT's. Please forgive me as I am new to the whole posting forum and really sharing in general, so be prepared because this may get a little long.

Lately seems as things are just spiraling out of control and am finding myself in very unfamiliar territory. As a man with AS happily married to an NT for the past 8-years (2nd marriage for both of us) up till now I thought all was great. Started out as co-workers, grew into a blossoming friendship, and than husband and wife, purchasing a home, raising our two furry Labs, and love.

However, the "elephant in the room" for us is that our sex life has increasingly diminished and over the past several months specifically been for the most part non-existent. To the dismay of my wife and increasing frustration. The problem lies in (and if this gets to descriptive for anyone my apologies ahead of time--but SPOILER ALERT!) that I admittedly have had difficulty sustaining and...