Asperger's & Autism Forum

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I am antisocial as opposed to asocial unlike most autistics. I'm still fairly introverted though.
I have the memory of a goldfish.
I'm horrible at math and hate it.
The only good thing that comes out me being autistic is that I can use my autism as a "Get out of jail free card". Otherwise there is no perks that come from me being autistic at all.
I can usually detect sarcasm.
I have a huge sense of humor. So much so I can sometimes be seen laughing out loud for seemingly no reason because I constantly think of funny thoughts in my head.

hello - My husband and I have been together for about 10 years now (married 4). Two years after starting our relationship we bought a dog, Lucy, who was 3 at the time of adoption. She recently had to be put down on May 9th due to lung cancer that had spread throughout her body. We only found out a week before we had to put her down that she had lung cancer. We were always told how healthy she was. For those eight years of having her, my husband and I always fought because I wanted to give her up. I struggled with the constant responsibility, the vet costs, and she wasn't a very social dog towards other animals. So living in an apartment and having to walk her was difficult and embarrassing the way she acted. Barking and pulling I took it as a direct reflection of me. Three years ago I called a rescue foster care to take her in, but when it came to it, i couldn't give her up. With her passing it was the most heartbreaking thing of my life. I haven't ever felt any emotional grief...

I've recently went through an awful break up with a man (24 years old) with Asperger's. I am hoping you can help my understand which of his behaviours are/were typical of someone on the spectrum.

When we began dating, he told me he had not had a serious relationship and (when things got more intimate) that he was a virgin. After some time, he also told me had suffered child abuse - which I'll come back to later. After a couple of months he told me he viewed our relationship as casual and that he wasn't ready for a serious RL. He then said: 'Could we just take it slow?'. So we did. But then another month later, he had a meltdown and we broke up. He hated me seeing him like that & I thought I'd never hear from him again. Lo and behold, he contacted me the very next day and we were like best friends, spending all our time together & on the phone.

After a few months I said I still liked him romantically & would he like to give things another shot between us. He said yes, he wanted to...

This evening I was on the bus back to University from Town. We pulled up to a busier bus stop, the main one if you like.

A guy who was moderately Autistic with maybe another disability scattered in there, got on and sat in front of me..

He dropped his wallet.. I piped up and said 'that's your wallet, you dropped it', he looked at me with a deer in head lights look and didn't say anything.. someone else then got the same treatment a minute or so later. (For a while I did wonder if he stole the wallet)

So, we proceed on down the road. He then starts singing and opening and slamming the window. Everyone was staring at us and I was quite concerned that he was going to draw attention to me, so I moved down the bus.

He then, started shouting and jumping on his seat. I got up and moved downstairs, to which he shouted 'i'm going to ring the police on you mate'.. everyone upstairs and downstairs stared at me!

Trivial I know, but it's not a great experience to go through when you are a...

Hi guys, I need help. Please. And I know this post will sound crazy...

I have been working (maybe obsessed?) with a project for months. Finally got a break from school and time to build it. Set up yesterday to do so but every time I was ready to start I would get interrupted. I'd have to shut the tools off, wash my hands before I could deal with the minor problems. The interruptions were totally innocent, but after this happened several times I just totally lost it (out of control feelings of frustration? or anger? rage? Sorry I have a hard time with feelings.) It was in private, no one knows.

I feel so ashamed and guilty. Even worse, the fact that the interruptions were so innocent makes me feel like such a freak. I didn't destroy the project.

Now my question: The idea of going back and trying to work on the project is very upsetting. I am in emotional pain just thinking about it, it hurts but I don't know what this feeling is. It's sadness... but overwhelming. Have you ever...

Bit of a weird one today. I live next door to people who smoke both cigarettes and weed for most of the day. I was woken up at 4:00am this morning by the overwhelming smell of weed. It was gross and kept me awake for ages.

Has anyone found anything to deal with issues relating to smell? I know closing the windows would be an obvious solution, but 1) the windows don't do a lot to keep out the smell, even when closed, and 2) my girlfriend has breathing troubles that means she likes to have windows open.

I was thinking a face mask like some people use for allergies and air pollution, but I have no idea if these would reduce gross smells. Any input for what anyone else has done about similar issues would be greatly appreciated.

Hi All,

Been obsessing over this forum since I first joined. I had this very strong shock and emotional resonance realizing that I might be on the spectrum a month or so ago. I identified with just about everyone here to some degree or another and just felt like OMG THAT'S ME! and YES! THAT! to basically everything that people were saying. It was a great feeling to finally find people who are like me.

But as I've been reading more and the initial shock is wearing off, I'm starting to feel like maybe I'm not autistic enough? On the one hand, I don't want to be disabled. I don't want to play life on a harder setting. I don't want to live every day knowing that I will never be able to check my mail in a timely fashion and that I will forever be a slave to my routines.

But then, on the other hand, I don't want to be alone. I don't want to go back to being that weirdo who just has all these things that are hard or that have to be a certain way or that other people just don't get and...

Other people that I encounter have preconceived ideas about autism, that are not based in reality. They often react to our behavior or responses in interactions with others, and assume things that are not exactly accurate.

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Don't assume I'm not listening because I'm not looking directly at you.
The fact that I don't always maintain eye contact doesn't mean I'm not paying attention or ignoring you. I hear most things people say, and can probably recite them back to you verbatim.

See if you can add anything people!
The idea came from this article: https://www.cbc.ca/parents/learning/view/8-things-you-should-never-assume-about-autism

Ok, so Disclaimer. I know I create a lot of threads, I am doing this so that I can improve my understanding of body language and social situations. I can’t ask these kinds of questions to others.

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I started an Internship a week ago. The Internship is managed by my University and is for disabled students.

At the moment I am trying to get my head around the social standing of the group.

The group is composed of six other members. Two of which have gone and are doing their Internship remotely.

The rest have a combination of Dyspraxia, ADHD and Deaf. They don’t appear to be Autistic or have social issues.

So, some of the problems I have noticed socially.

I). The Dyspraxia female talks a lot (Does Dyspraxia make people talk a lot?) She constantly interrupts everyone and doesn’t allow anyone to really get involved in group discussions. She volunteers for everything and will not let anyone else get ahead of her. (Volunteered to go to a meeting representing the...

I seem to remember reading somewhere that 66% of people with autism are not employed.

I find this baffling because of the high level of intellect, deep thinking, and well presented thoughts and feelings that are so eloquently expressed on these forums. Most contributors seem to have far greater than average intelligence.

Why is this? Is the typical autistic individual more intelligent than average, or does this forum only attract the most intellectually elite among the autistic spectrum?

I would be shocked if only 34% of the people of these forums were capable of gainful employment.