Asperger's & Autism Forum

I was wondering if anyone autistic on this forum has created a product?

I am trying , but my executive dysfunction makes it difficult to map out all the things I have to do to get it to the product line.

Any stories or suggestions would be useful. I’ve already looked in to designing, it’s a fashion item.

I want to pose this question separately from the general eye contact post in the other thread. I'm very curious what you guys think.

Because I absolutely loathe confrontation, I am generally almost hyperaware of the people around me. I get overwhelmed by the emotions of others very easily, especially if they are directed at me. Eye contact is a big part in this, though bodylanguage is as well. I have noticed that when I meet other aspies, the eye contact feels less intense. Their whole persona is a lot more quiet than what I get from neurotypicals. I am much less anxious around them. Interestingly, this amost works as a sort of aspie-sense.

I know that much like sensitivities in general, aspies can be very empathic. Has anyone experienced something like this?

I initially got my learner's permit when I was 16 (in December 2005, three months before I turned 17), but after some lessons with my parents I realized I wasn't ready to drive then and I put it off for about three years. My permit expired and I had to take the test again. I got a new permit when I was 20 (in August 2009), and got my license when I was 22.

I have five other close friends who, like myself, have Aspergers Syndrome. The oldest one of us, who just turned 33, got his license when he was 17. Another one of us, who was born in 1988, got his license shortly before his 20th birthday. Another one also got her license when she 19. The other girl in the group was probably 24 when she got her license. The last of us to get a driver's license is three months older than me and got his less than a month ago at the age of 30.

My mom always tells me that statistically, only 50% of people with Aspergers Syndrome drive. I'm proud to be in that 50%!

EDIT: I guess what I am trying to say is that I want woman who' got herself together and knows what she wants in life. I could care less if they have Aspergers.

I've only had two girlfriends in my life and both were Aspie. The first one I met in college in 2013, and we bonded over a love of cars. She was 19 and I was 24. However, she was a bit more lower-functioning than me. She was nice enough, but also came across as an arrogant know-it-all. A few of my friends did not like her very much. She remained in my circle of friends until her family moved to Florida.

The second one unfortunately still lives with her parents within walking distance of my house. We were introduced by my friend and neighbor. She was 22 and I was 29 when we met. She initially seemed to be a perfect fit, but the fact she did not have any of "The Big Three" should have been a red flag; For me "The Big Three" is:
Driver's license
Steady job
Either has a degree or in college

I have all three of those things,...

Does anyone find it easier to maintain eye contact with people you are comfortable/familiar with i.e. family and friends? I definitely do. Usually I can look them in the eye when they’re speaking and be able to focus on what they’re saying, whereas with people I’m not completely comfortable with I will comprehend maybe every third word they speak because I’ll be focusing on trying to look like I’m listening while also enduring the discomfort the eye contact is causing me. In both cases, though, I still have to look away when they finish speaking so that I can let what they said sink in and try to organize my thoughts and decide on a response.

And as with listening, I maintain eye contact better when speaking to family and friends.

Also, has practicing maintaining eye contact helped anyone become better at it (“better at it” meaning that you can maintain it and still listen and speak without too much difficulty)?

I was wondering, what will you be for Halloween 2019?

I will be a male pink fairy. My outfit will consist of a light pink interlock polo shirt, light pink chino shorts, a pair of light pink fairy wings, a light pink baseball cap, and a pink glow wand from the dollar store. I once had a dream that I was a handsome male pink fairy with a beautiful fairy wife; my outfit will be what I think would be the ideal look for myself as a male pink fairy. The pink interlock polo is the perfect outfit for a male fairy to wear due to its soft smooth texture.

Hi all,

I have looked around the forums for a few days and there is something I noticed. Many people here don’t like to be touched, apart from people they know well.

For me, it’s the other way around. I like being touched when a connection to me is not the point of the action. Things like running a hand over my arm because my shirt looked soft or over my back because I was wearing a fake fur cape for Halloween are acceptable to me.

The people closest to me don’t get to touch me. I will hug people I meet through hobbies (dancers are super huggy) as a greeting ritual. Once they know me better, I ask them to greet me differently. I do this because I have an extremely low tolerance for awkwardness. Asking people not to hug me right away tends to get really awkward. They usually worry that something has happened to me in the past.

Emotional intimacy and vulnerability are things I that make me extremely uncomfortable. The closer someone is to me emotionally, the less they get to...

Just wondering, while making big and small decisions on a day to day basis, do you prefer thinking or intuition?

Personally I like to think about the cause & effect of everything before deciding on what to do, but I've seen way too much people around me repeatedly making decisions based solely on their gut feelings. Most of these occasions did not end well for them.

Hi all,

Please may I ask, if the phrase 'Things not quite right' is acceptable to describe a person on the autistic spectrum? I ask, as a member of staff at the aspie drop-in centre where I attend, was conversing with two people from a group who offer support to parents, partners, siblings and carers of adults (over 16) on the autism spectrum, who use the drop-in centre too. One of the persons from the group used the phrase 'things not quite right'. A member of staff from the drop-in centre then said the person who made this comment was referring to his Daughter who is on the autistic spectrum, I then asked another member of staff from the drop-in centre if he thought some Aspies may be offended by this comment, he answered 'Yes'.