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My nature is to avoid conflict at all costs. Conflict doesn’t feel good. The adrenaline that comes with anger makes me feel physically ill. I try to please others and go along to get along. I’m a pushover. One of the observations made by the counselor who diagnosed me was that I never advocate for myself.
But I just had a big blowup at work. My code for a big project is being reviewed by a very demanding and overbearing co-worker. So for three weeks - far longer than most reviews last - I have been making every change suggested. Suddenly, yesterday, I just had enough and I blew up. I managed to make it through the work day, but by 5, I was just holding my head between clenched fists because if I allowed myself to move at all, I was going to start throwing stuff. My boss saw me and asked what was wrong and I ranted and yelled for about ten minutes. I’ve mentioned so many times on this site how hard I work to be the nicest guy around, but I failed spectacularly yesterday....
My mom was definitely cold, l don't remember a huggy caring mother. l remember that l didn't feel accepted, almost a burden in some respects by the teenage years. What does your childhood bring up in your mind.
I'm sure this has already been discussed somewhere but I've not encountered it yet. The autistic stereotype is inappropriately under-responding, but do some of you sometimes over-respond? Are you sometimes too friendly or too touchy-feely? In what situations does this happen to you?
College biology is so god dang hard! It's like I'm the only dumb kid in a class full of GENIUSES! I can barely understand a thing, and I'm always the only one who needs help or has a bunch of questions! Could this be due to my mental disability? Cause I'm tired of staring angrily at these nerds with jealousy all the time. For once, I want to be the smart one. I feel like I should be in special ed! I'm always the last one to finish! It's enough I have non friends in any of my classes, and I'm not really worried about that. But when I'm the only dumb kid in class, and I can't get the teacher's attention, I'll fail!
Can someone shed some light or insight into this person! Here are some things that describe them:
has no empathy, cannot relate to what others are feeling at all
can not think from another's perspective
does not pick up on social cues on what is appropriate to say
blurts out offensive things
hard to regulate emotions, with large outbursts, regularly, at everyone
cannot articulate why hes feeling a certain way, or defend emotions
focused on emotions of self, rather than acknowledging others
stays mad for weeks or months
no tolerance for anything not his idea
Most arguments/him exploding are because of facts that contradict his own view
gets irrationally upset, if you disagree on what he is passionate about
forces his view onto everyone, everyone should like what he likes and think how he thinks
does not seem to realize things that would make others upset
struggles with imagination, art, creativity
struggles with abstract, needs visual cues
struggles to express self in writing or...
Hey, i haven't posted in awhile.. My birthday wasn't long ago, and as the day of my birthday passed. It's only just hit me, how cruel the world is. I have "Friends" but half of my text messages are just either seen or ignored. And i need to mentally learn that this is normal. I just can't deal with this non-sense. I'm too honest and too good-natured to just ignore someone. It's really just flatout evil, like i see it as just.. Well, unnecessary and because i'm so introverted with life. It just causes me to get depressed, and i bloody know the person on the other end isn't busy. They're just being a prick.
Doesn't anyone else want to talk about this issue?.. And maybe help me find a better way of dealing with this problem? Cause it is unsettling... I hate it. I really do.
Are you comfortable with yourself at this junction, what can you tell the rest of the clan that helped you?
I have mild Aspergers. Recently, I have taken on the roll of trying to organise social events with other aspies, at an Aspergers support group that I attend.
So far, the attendance of the events have been dismal, with usually only 3 or 4 people coming to the event. When I message the group members most people don't respond.
As a person who is quite shy and social anxious, this lack of response or reciprocation is quite disheartening!
Anyway, I arranged a day trip this weekend to a major city, two other guys said they'd go. One couldn't get his train tickets booked, but seemed up for it. However, he's went on to radio silence from Monday.
I have messaged him on two separate occasions, after Monday trying to find out if he is still coming. Most recently today, where I offered to book his tickets. He read the messages, but did not respond. He also did not attend our social group this week, which I thought was odd.
The other guy is coming, we both booked our tickets yesterday....
I'm 15 turning 16 in April, and I'm in love with a celebrity. I think she is absolutely beautiful and feel like we have a lot in common. I'm fully aware that chances of me ending up with her are slim to none, so I want to get over it. I've been trying super hard to do so but no success. What do you guys think I should do?
I was filling out several applications over the internet and one of those applications was for a computer technician job in the US Army. A few minutes after I submitted my application, the army called me and told me I had to join the military in order to get the job. I told them I was thinking about joining the army and they said I would have to pass some kind of an aptitude test and go through basic training in order to join. They already sent me one of the required tests and I completed it. Does anybody have any advice that could help me be successful in the army?
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