Asperger's & Autism Forum

I have an extremely volatile relationship with my father.

Get along with him one day and ignored the next.

Here’s some things that he does:
- Will always say the opposite of what I say in a debate or an argument.
- All of his discussions with my mother must be private. If I come into the room and they are talking, he walks out.
- sometimes ignores me in a discussion.
- Anytime he talks to someone about something that i’m not privy too. He refuses to tell me what they were discussing.
- Does not like me being “right”.
- Anytime I have an argument with him and mother gets involved he has a hissy fit saying “you cannot back him up”, so mum has to listen to him and agree, even if his view is daft.
- Thinks that I should pay more bills if I have savings. Will not allow me to get ahead financially.
- Lashes out when mum, I and sister go on holidays. Despite telling us that he doesn’t want to go.. so basically he wants mum to stay at home because he doesn’t want to travel.
- He is...

I have a lot of T-shirts with geeky slogans or math references on them. Because of that, people like to tell me about other geeky shirts that they have or they saw.

Someone did that to me today and I smiled and said, "Oh, that one sounds great!" After I walked away, I realized that I was doing it out of habit, and not because I was actually interested in the other shirt.

I've been responding this way for a long time because I recognize that the other person is trying to relate to me and socialize, so I should reward their efforts. So I smile and act interested and try to make the other person feel like they've connected. It usually leads to more positive interactions in the future. (Look, fellow human! I, too, can socialize!)

So, I just realized that I do this reflexively now, without thinking. I'm left wondering - is this real socializing, or is it just me getting good at faking it? To paraphrase Arthur C. Clarke, any sufficiently advanced masking is indistinguishable...

I have been wondering what means others utilize in your efforts to manage social anxiety.

Thank you very much, in advance, for any words of wisdom or remedies you may have to share!

Although not yet diagnosed I'm on a journey to discovering whether or not I have aspergers. I have odd experiences in childhood that I'd like assistance in decoding. As a child I would hardly ever converse to my friends parents because I feared them. I had an abnormal fear of adults. This fear made me very driven to be liked and I never wanted to be seen as a bad kid. Maybe it derived from my strong desire to please people. I'm not exactly sure. All I remember is being sensitive to adults and their criticism. I hated when adults were angry with me because I can't stand yelling or even slight raise in voice when depicting anger. I never was able to. My Mother took pride in the fact that she hardly ever had to discipline me because talking to me meanly was enough. I also remember my friends parents disciplined us for being rude to a girl. I tried so hard not to cry even though they weren't even my parents. I just was so upset at the concept of getting in trouble. Still to this day I...

What is the likelyhood that I am autistic based off of these notions. I took the aspie quiz online and scored 172 out of 200 on aspie and approximately 40 to 50 on the nuerotypical. It said that I have a "very likely chance of being aspie". I also score a 36 on the autism test. My mother has ADHD. Which I think should be noted due to the obvious link in some symptoms.

I stumbled across the unofficial checklist for women with aspergers now known as HFA. It was nearly exactly me (not kidding) I'd say out of the extremely long checklist I agreed heavily with 80 to 90 percent of items. My current standings on diagnosis is bipolar, borderline personality, ADHD, OCD, dyscalculia, and severe social anxiety.

I'm very bad at math but excel in language. I always have been bad at math but my mother would never believe me because I was able to get decent grades. I took the ACT on the math section I scored in the bottom 50 percent of people but in the language section I scored in the top 20...

Does anyone find coloring or drawing relaxing ?

I used to draw a lot now I don’t draw as much but I still color a lot

I’m trying to get back into drawing but it’s difficult

It’s the same thing with writing stories I use to made a lot of short stories or a fanfiction or two.

I wrote two first drafts of non published books one fiction and one non-fiction .

I hope this is the right section, as it's a housing situation rather than an employment one.

I'm in the super lucky position where I could potentially buy a house or an apartment with my partner. The issue is that I am really sensitive to noise from neighbours. I don't know if this is a sensory processing issue (I have some other issues in this regard, but I don't really struggle with it.), or if I've just had bad experiences that have made me hyper aware and hyper anxious.

Right now, I live in my partner's mum's house. The neighbours are pretty noisy. Not LOUD most of the time, but you can almost always hear them, whether it's their talking, laughing, playing music. Occasionally they have parties, and I have a base level of anxiety every day that they will have a party that night.

I would say this anxiety really lowers my life quality. I've been through periods with it where I couldn't work (I work from home, so no escape from the noise) and just generally have been miserable,...

I am an NT woman and I really like an Aspie man. I can normally read people very well but this one is puzzling me. I can't help but believe he likes me (it is based on my intuition only, which usually is pretty correct for me) but he is not really giving many of those signs I am used to from NT guys. I am myself very shy and thus I am not sure I will be able to just tell him about my feelings or ask him about his, or at least not before I have some strong kind of indication he actually likes me too.

He never ever starts talking to me first, but when I start talking to him he seems happy to chat (mostly about his special interest which I do not mind as I am involved in it also), is very nice and smiling,....although I can say he is very nervous when talking to me. But he hardly ever asks questions about myself (that's why I think maybe he does not like me as guys who like a girl will ask questions, right?). Often he takes ages to reply to texts from me that are more on personal...

I broke up with my ex bf last week. We are both 3x in age. The reason was the relationship made me gone mad which exploded and ruined everything. I even feel depressed now. But I wanna ensure if he is an aspie?

I had known him for a few years and the impression was "he is introvert and shy but a nice guy" before we were together. He chased me and we were together last year. He has a routine that he goes to library after work until 11pm Everyday. He either continue his tasks of work or study for exams in library. And he doesn't care about any stuff at home. And he has No friends.

For the first few months our relationship was quite good and stable so due to my age (I am a few years older than him) I mentioned that I hoped to get married these 2 years, he said he will marry me but did not take any action for a few weeks, then strangely we had no contact (even phone and msg) for 2 whole days. We usually meet on weekend. Then on Friday I asked "where will we go tomorrow?" Then he...

https://www.cbc.ca/parents/learning...-positive-traits-that-people-with-autism-have

1. Autistic people are extremely passionate about what interests them.
An attribute that translates to hyper focusing and researching those interests until they have a deep understanding of the subject matter. They also have a wide variety of interests.

2. They are straightforward, direct and honest.
They mean what they say and aren't afraid to tell you what they truly think.

3. Autistic people perceive the world differently and process information in unique ways.
As a result, they are independent and creative thinkers.

4. They are detail-oriented and they pay attention to the finer details that others often miss.

5. They love routines and will happily maintain those routines with great success.

6. People with autism have a good memory and an amazing ability to recall facts.

7. Autistic people also tend to be visual thinkers.
As a result, they can visualize...