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I was at an event yesterday, doing lots of photography, at least trying to... A skijor event (horses pulling people on on skis or snowboards around a course)... I wasn't doing much if anything with the sports photography angle, but wanted some access to the horse trailer area...

But as always, because I don't have the right connections, I couldn't get there, I was stuck in the public areas, only "certain" photographers get into those areas, the areas that would have the best people photography, denied! I'll admit there was a brief argument and moment of frustration

Because I'm not a professional photographer, and don't really have enough connections, and struggle with that as an Aspie, thus I almost always get shut out of getting in behind the scenes

All I ever get is the crumbs from the public areas of events, which is never as good, I know they can't allow every photographer full access, and I shouldn't even expect that... But it frustrates me when it becomes a struggle to...

I've worked in office jobs since leaving college. There has been consistent aspects to these jobs - firstly, I'm good with computer programmes and I find that once I've learned a system or process I can work very swiftly and process a lot of work in a short space of time. On the flip side I make quite a lot of minor errors.

Slow down and double check - this is the advice I've been told multiple times in ever single job when supervisors and managers notice a pattern in my ability to work quickly but making such mistakes. I find even with double checking these errors can slip through the net.

In terms of success rate I'd say I'm making a mistake in about 1 in 30 jobs/tasks I do. However, the advice of slowing down or double checking can only be implemented in short bursts. I find double checking or slowing down is cumbersome and eventually I start to speed up again and work at my natural pace.

The main issue I feel is the lack of passion for my career path. This isn't what I want...

Hi, I need someone acedemically minded to help word my personal theory's on autism, it's memetic v genetic origens, the reason for its development and what caused it to spread amount the general populous. I believe the memetic v genetic divide is the cause and drive of not only human technological advancements but is also the cause of all/ or at least most known mental disorders. Autism is unique and the labels we apply are nothing more than labels we use to easily navigate the problem. Anyone wishing to learn more please message me and I will do my best to respond.

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Hi everyone.

I wrote an article on my blog that I wanted to share It’s my attempt to explain why NTs act like they do in relationship. Hope you like it. I’d love to write a follow up. Let me know if I left anything out.

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Dear All,

I am new to the forum and this is my second thread. To make it short (I have problem with that , I will try to not go into too much details. I am seeing a guy (since few weeks), with self-diagnosed ASD and I am trying to understand the reasons of some of his behaviour.

Just to make it clear, I know guys watch porn (not only guys to be fair) and some of them watch a lot. No issue with that. My question is - he is very open about watching it as well, and watching a lot.

What is different, he is doing it during random tasks, like e.g. cooking (not videos then, but just photos). My understanding of watching porn is that you do that when you are relaxed and put your full attention to it. It seems like pornography plays significant role in his daily routine and the reasoning for it is more complex that I would normally associate with it.

Am I overthinking it or is there a special connection between him having spectrum and being so much "connected" to the pornography....

Now, I understand that people DO care about individuals on the spectrum. However, in my experience, high functioning autism flies under the radar at times due to the similarities of neurotypical individuals, despite some differences.

Do you believe my statement or does it all depend how you act, along with the group of people who you interact with on a daily basis?

Procrastination......
You need to make a call to discuss sensitive matter- call and leave msg when you know they won't pick up.
Need to go to a meeting, tell them you will come to the next meeting but skip tonite , so sorry.
How many forum members practice this life skill and now have it to a fine- tuned and precision sharp? My first thought in matters, is determine the level of importance which then it flips into how long can l delay this event/issue/person/ problem etc.? What is your go-to life skill?

Dear Experts,
This is my first post on this forum and I hope someone will find some time to read it and give me some advice. I've read hundreds and hundreds of posts, watched uncountable videos about spectrum and still feel like I do not know anything...and I feel so lost and so frustrated and I do not know what to feel or think...I am sorry in advance for its length, I just want to give you full picture about my situation.
3 months ago I started dating an amazing man, not knowing back then that he is on autism spectrum. I knew him since 1 year prior that, but we were just meeting with common friends, as friends only. I haven’t expected he would be interested in me, so I was not making any first moves or anything like that. He did. One day he just asked me if I would like to go for jogging with him and asked for my number. We didn’t go jogging at the end (I am horrible jogger, so fortunately we didn’t) but we started texting a lot. He invited me to his home for a party with his...

#advicesneeded

I need your advices.

My husband is overwhelmed by social interractions, he never feels relaxed around others (only around me).
If he does not respect his schedule, he feels uncomfortable (Ex.: he eats at 7:00 pm; if he's late, he prefers to eat something on his way home rather than eat at 7:10 pm at home). He has a lot of routines, he has no friends, some hihgly-focused interests, he's oversensitive at being touched, he has some rigidity in thinking, and all this causes a lot stress.

He has no problem with understanding abstract concepts, jokes, sarcasm, etc.
He's very smart, funny, he has a good job, he is a very dedicate husband and dad, but o feel he is always stressed.

I am not interested into a diagnosis because is like putting a label i think, and that will stress him even more. In fact i see these things as personality treats, not as a "condition".

My only problem is the high level of stress that he experiences daily.

So, what are the solutions to...

Hi Everyone,

Wanted to share my latest blog post. I'm so excited about it.

Much of it is born from my personal experience. I have learned a ton from the amazing members on this forum! And I've also read my little heart out!

Hope you like it
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