General Autism Discussion

So this is an issue I've come across a few times now, since my diagnosis. People sometimes tell me that I don't seem autistic or I don't act any different than others. I have a hard time trying to understand what to say in these situations. Hmm, let me give an example.

I am in a work program and the boss of the place I work at knows I am autistic (she is a partner in this program). I had been working for her for a few days when she asked me if she could ask me a personal question. She wondered when I was diagnosed, and when I asked why she wanted to know that, she told me I was a model employee and didn't seem to have any issues. I didn't know how to explain to her about my difficulties.

By the way, I can hide some of the more disruptive behaviour when I am not stressed or overwhelmed, especially for the 5-hour shifts I get. Probably why I seemed neurotypical to her.

People close to me, those who spend more than a couple hours at a time with me, notice my behaviour (even if...