Someone literally told me in all caps what is in the title of this thread.
self-fulfilling prophecy. it feels like you waited for someone who said this and now you are like "YES, someone did! all my thoughts were true! here, look! that´s the proof!"
the probability that someones says something like that after you mentioned that you want a girlfriend around 300 times here in this forum is really high and it does change nothing.
you could keep the forum busy forever with your posts, but I don´t know what this would change in your life. even so many people answering your posts and try to help you, I´m not sure if anyone besides a therapist really could help you.
I don´t want to be mean, but it´s stressing that you ask every day (nearly) the same question and you always get answers, but still ask the same questions.
it makes the impression that no matter what someone says, it´s impossible to change your thinking and maybe some people loose their patience or energy and give up.
you seem to be in a time loop. I could set my alarm glock to you. it would always ring each day. every day the same question:
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
"why I don´t have a girlfriend?"
sure I don´t have to read and to answer and did not in the beginning, even when I not dislike you.
but slowly I get a stroke when seeing these question every day. but you can write what you want.
I wonder if some people loose their mind when they see this question every day. it´s like hypnosis.
"is he asking these question really every day or is something wrong with my mind?"
maybe it´s a long coordinated secret psychological strategy to demoralize the mind of the members and to powder it to dust, just by asking the same question every day. so subtile and noone conscious realize it´s.
I think in my case it works.
I´m not sure if I should either hit my head repeatedly against my desk or if I should go into the city and should scream "WHY MARKNESS GET´S NO GIRLFRIEND! WHY!", until the police catches me up and puts me in a psychiatry.
and they would say "who is this markness he is talking about the whole time?" and the other police officer would say "he is just crazy. this markness only exists in his mind. poor guy."