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AprilR
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AprilR

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Is it normal to act a little bit different than you are to find a common ground with a friend? Sep 29, 2020 at 3:58 AM

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    1. AprilR
      AprilR
      Is it normal to act a little bit different than you are to find a common ground with a friend?
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      3. Rexi
        Rexi
        I notice you are acting for their sake, but where is the enjoyment for you? You will exhaust yourself and give up eventually if you don't take care to do enjoyable things for you with her. Worry less about her and take care of your needs in the friendship for now. Having friends should be fun and enjoyable for you.
        Sep 30, 2020 at 4:42 AM
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      4. Aspychata
        Aspychata
        Secrets are okay. There are somethings that are your business only and most friends are on a *need to know basis*. Sometimes we trust to easily, so a boundary of not over-sharing is important to our surival.
        Sep 30, 2020 at 7:32 AM
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      5. Joshua Aaron
        Joshua Aaron
        The only friend I didn't to do this with when I wasn't open about my Autism very much was with my friend, Nate, who was in the same sped class as I was in middle school. I started to do this less as I began to accept myself more.
        Sep 30, 2020 at 10:34 AM
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    2. AprilR
      AprilR
      I have always acted different to gain friends, but then felt lonely with them.
    3. Streetwise
      Streetwise
      Has thinking about what I asked made you panic less:*)
      1. AprilR
        AprilR
        I think i am able to block the panic either way, because if i don't drive the public transport situation will make me stressed. I will panic about having the virus and passing it to to my parents.
        Sep 26, 2020 at 1:53 AM
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    4. Streetwise
      Streetwise
      Do you think thats enough to block out panic,it was for me it wasn't stressless though and I was 27 at the time
    5. AprilR
      AprilR
      I will start learning to drive in a week. I am so scared..
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      2. Streetwise
        Streetwise
        The reason I tried to learn to drive was because my mother was paralysed, why are you learning to try to drive?
        Sep 24, 2020 at 4:44 AM
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      3. AprilR
        AprilR
        Because when i start working i don't want to use public transport as it is too crowded/ risky.
        My parents are also getting older and i don't want to depend on them to take me everywhere.
        Sep 24, 2020 at 7:13 AM
    6. Crossbreed
      Crossbreed
      Are you April_Rose on CF? I am Sabertooth over there. ;)
      1. AprilR
        AprilR
        No, sorry.
        Sep 12, 2020
    7. AprilR
      AprilR
      It is okay though the people that amount to smth have no conscience.
      1. Aspychata
        Aspychata
        Hey. It's okay. I support you.
        Sep 13, 2020
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    8. AprilR
      AprilR
      I feel like i will never amount to anything.
    9. AprilR
      AprilR
      Idk how to explain this but i want to be away and safe from people. I feel like everyone can read my emotions and i hate it.
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      2. AprilR
        AprilR
        Maybe i should try that too. It feels so uncomfortable to look at people's eyes.
        Aug 7, 2020
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      3. Ella Spell
        Ella Spell
        Time to make a pillow fort.
        Aug 8, 2020
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      4. AprilR
        AprilR
        Another great idea!
        Aug 8, 2020
    10. AprilR
      AprilR
      I prefer being naive and idealistic to being a debbie downer
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    11. AprilR
      AprilR
      Nothing's gonna change my world
    12. AprilR
      AprilR
      I can't sympathize with illogical people
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      3. Karamazov
        Karamazov
        Undoubtably.
        My mother-in-law interprets everything she’s aware of in the world as messages from god to her and her church... Not very logical (and pretty obscene when it comes to wars and famines and so forth), but she’s happy in her own little world.
        Existence as a story book that confirms one’s sense of self-worth I guess.
        Jul 28, 2020
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      4. AprilR
        AprilR
        I don't think being a religious person automatically makes someone illogical, but Yeah there seems to be a lot of religious people like that.
        Jul 28, 2020
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      5. Karamazov
        Karamazov
        No, religion in and of itself is not necessarily illogical, nor is religious belief required to be illogical... just the illustration that occurred to me in the moment. ;)
        Jul 28, 2020
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    13. AprilR
      AprilR
      I am soooo confused i feel like i am not capable enough for this job!
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      2. AprilR
        AprilR
        They didn't talk about a trial period, and i am not sure if there will be someone who helps me. Although my cousin's friend does work there, and my cousin told me that he is a nice person.. But i still don't want to bother people.
        Oh and there is a cat in the office! This is one of the reasons i am seriously considering the position haha.
        Jul 21, 2020
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      3. BenderRodriguez
        BenderRodriguez
        LOL I hear you!

        Maybe it would be possible to ask them if they can assign someone to assist you in the beginning? Phrase it as not so much as needing help, but them being able to make full use of your abilities faster if someone gets you up to speed with things ;)
        Jul 21, 2020
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      4. AprilR
        AprilR
        Good advice! My cousin did say her friend can help me at first, and she would support me too. (she is also a lawyer)
        And the person who interviewed me also seemed very nice.
        Jul 21, 2020
    14. AprilR
      AprilR
      I live for myself!
    15. AprilR
      AprilR
      They didn't call so maybe that's for the best..
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      2. Karamazov
        Karamazov
        Have you had the call?
        How did it go?

        (It’s 7am Tuesday where I am... so in my head it should definitely have occurred ;p )
        Jul 21, 2020
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      3. AprilR
        AprilR
        The interview is scheduled for today there is literally less than one hour! I'll let you know how it goes.
        Jul 21, 2020
      4. Karamazov
        Karamazov
        Ah! Okey dokey: good luck :)
        Jul 21, 2020
    16. AprilR
      AprilR
      Why are some people unnecessarily mean?
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      3. Karamazov
        Karamazov
        Yes: I was never directly bullied.
        What happened was I was told I didn’t need to attend meetings which everyone else was going to, and given “advice” on my projects that was actually sabotage.

        So, yes... always attend meetings, and never do anything on the advice of someone who may see you as competition for the next promotion that comes up.
        Jul 17, 2020
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      4. AprilR
        AprilR
        Well, the law offices here are not really like companies. The offices i worked before had only 3 or 4 people and there were all lawyers. Some offices have a secretary and that's it.
        There are large companies that have their law department but they are very few, even if there is i don't think there are any people concerned with bullying.. .
        Jul 17, 2020
      5. Karamazov
        Karamazov
        That’s about the same size as the construction design company I worked at: 4 technical designers, one financial secretary, one general secretary, one site manager, one engineering consultant and the manager/owner.

        It was only one of my fellow three junior designers who set to undermining me with those tactics.
        Jul 17, 2020
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    17. AprilR
      AprilR
      About to have a (kind of) job interview?? Maybe??
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      3. AprilR
        AprilR
        Thanks! We'll see what happens!
        Jul 15, 2020
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      4. Aspychata
        Aspychata
        Good luck. There are a lot of success stories here!!
        Jul 15, 2020
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      5. AprilR
        AprilR
        Thank you so much!
        Jul 16, 2020
    18. AprilR
      AprilR
      A life unlived.
    19. AprilR
      AprilR
      I love whom i love
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    20. AprilR
      AprilR
      Trying not to have emotions. Emotions suck!
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      3. tree
        tree
        Maybe pushed around by something that is hard to control. Like you are being manipulated?
        Jun 19, 2020
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      4. Aspychata
        Aspychata
        I am so in agreement. Sometimes l hate feelings. Too much muck. To much thinking.
        Jun 20, 2020
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      5. AprilR
        AprilR
        Yeah i sometimes logically understand i don't deserve to feel this way but can't help it.
        Jun 20, 2020
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    Jan 2, 1991 (Age: 29)
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