Markness

You're going to have to come up with a better pick-up line than that.
How about,
"You should be grateful that I haven't punched you, yet?"
[Notice: the preceding was an exercise in hyperbole...]

What I mean is you are saying,
"I have an excuse to be contentious, so count on me to be contentious."
GLWT

Are you familiar with the phrase,
"Shooting yourself in the foot?"

You need to relax. That may not be an aggressive approach, but (on the plus side) it is less repulsive. (And it will take some time to undo the damage that you are currently doing. Or don't)

I know many people with depression, and there's a definite pattern to mental health issues complicating relationships. You have to be willing to work on your own happiness - not dump all your problems at someone else's door and think it'll fix you. It won't.

Maybe it's well meant but you have to remember that that is your life, what worked and didn't work for you doesn't have to to be the case for him , it's really invalidating when you go up to someone and say: "well ur just depressed so it's all in your head". If anything you could be overgeneralizing yourself.

Not having any hope for romantic relationships is a very legit reason to feel depressed and frustrated, I am going to leave it at that.

Thank you.

I see. Thanks. I cdn't tell whether you meant that, or whether it was a completely sudden emergency surgery.

Sending prayers for him, nurses, surgeons, and doctors involved! Also sending prayers for the rest of your family!

@Nitro just went through this with his papa, and everything turned out good. I'm praying for you so much right now.

I actually use my phone to post here. Generally, I don’t like using my phone to talk because it hurts my ear but I’ll see if I can work something in.

I told a lady in group therapy being near her made me want to hug her and she happily hugged me. She’s a lesbian, by the way.

I also talked to a lady at a game store and asked for her name.

Alright, you are venturing out and talking to woman, this will give you more confidence. We all are told no, woman suffer from rejection too. But you are doing excellent!☺

More over-generalisation. Just because you get a handful of negative comments doesn't mean the entire population of the world dislikes you.

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/why-you-only-find-love-when-you-stop-looking-for.html

That's a common retort. Chris Chandler called it the "infinitely high boyfriend factor". Where I live asking a woman out is considered an insult, so I hardly ever see it, but the boyfriend thing is what women say to get a guy to buzz off.

I've had things like this & the way I deal with it is, if I like the girl, I want her to be absolutely living her best life. So if she's already found a guy she likes, awesome! Usually I end up seeing the boyfriend too & a lot of times they're a cute couple--all the world loves a lover so I like seeing everyone happy-

If they know you, and see that you're suffering from depression - they're trying to offer general advice. Dedicating more time to self help, than spending more time focusing on thoughts that continue to amplify your depression and other negative emotions. As with many things in life - the more time you spend dedicated to something, the better you become at it. Depression is no different.

Yeah. It is meant to be encouraging and supportive.

If a NT sees that somebody is "down" or depressed, they want to help, but usually they don't know how. But they still want the person to know they care, so they fall back on generic platitudes. They're not really giving real advice per se but just want to let a person know they care. NT's really didn't have a socially acceptable direct way of saying it until the mid 90s and "I feel your pain".

Depressive overgeneralization

A lot of times people don't catch anything. It has more to do with the water temperature and the fish than you.

Call the suicide prevention hotline, the number is in the sticky posts in Help and Support. You can always talk to us, but we are not licensed intervention counselors. If there is a regional hotline where you live (most major cities have one) you can call them.

No. You can always go to the emergency room and ask for meds to help you. Please don't let people beat you down.

I wish you could quit your job. They sound like jerks and they arent good for your mental status. I was glad to leave those places.

And who's calling you any kind of an idiot anyway--That isn't good.
I hope things go well.

They don’t say it. It’s just what they want me to become.

Well, you’ll prove them wrong.

I don’t know why it happened. It was out of nowhere and I needed both pain killers as well as a facial massage to make it stop.

I did feel sinus pressure.

Sinus headache can make teeth hurt terribly.

When people try to talk down to you thats gaslighting, don't fall for it. It's abusive, and you can call people on it or walk away.

They also will enlist other people to do the same. It's done to people at work and in schools.

I’ve been treated so badly lately that I refuse to put up with anything that looks like a jab against me.

That sounds reasonable.