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My boyfriend is threatening to dump me because of me getting medical guardianship. Is that reasonable?

dancerxoxo123 said:
Yeah definitely. How could the guardianship go wrong? And my parents are controlling. So I likely won’t get guardianship?
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Sadly none of us here can answer that question. It's a civil- not a criminal procedure where justice doesn't always prevail. A case of where the party putting forward the most convincing argument often wins. When all the details for better- or worse spill out in court.

-When it may pay to find an attorney who may specialize in such cases.

Personally I think you've clearly demonstrated that you are competent enough to aggressively pursue and stop such an attempt by your parents. That in discussing your case with an attorney, hopefully they will come to the same conclusion, along with the court who must deal with it.
 
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Judge said:
Sadly none of us here can answer that question. It's a civil- not a criminal procedure where justice doesn't always prevail. A case of where the party putting forward the most convincing argument often wins. When all the details for better- or worse spill out in court.

-When it may pay to find an attorney who may specialize in such cases.

Personally I think you've clearly demonstrated that you are competent enough to aggressively pursue and stop such an attempt by your parents. That in discussing your case with an attorney, hopefully they will come to the same conclusion, along with the court who must deal with it.
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Yes I definitely am competent enough to stop the attempt of the guardianship of my parents. You are right. Thank you so much for your help 😊
Judge said:
Sadly none of us here can answer that question. It's a civil- not a criminal procedure where justice doesn't always prevail. A case of where the party putting forward the most convincing argument often wins. When all the details for better- or worse spill out in court.

-When it may pay to find an attorney who may specialize in such cases.

Personally I think you've clearly demonstrated that you are competent enough to aggressively pursue and stop such an attempt by your parents. That in discussing your case with an attorney, hopefully they will come to the same conclusion, along with the court who must deal with it.
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Yes I agree I am definitely competent enough to stop the attempt of the guardianship by my parents. It’s completely unnecessary the guardianship for me and I am going to make the right choices going forward so I don’t get the guardianship. I am not that disabled as people may seem. Thank you so much for your help I really appreciate it. I really hope that I won’t get guardianship because I clearly don’t need it!
 
dancerxoxo123 said:
Yes I agree I am definitely competent enough to stop the attempt of the guardianship by my parents. It’s completely unnecessary the guardianship for me and I am going to make the right choices going forward so I don’t get the guardianship. I am not that disabled as people may seem. Thank you so much for your help I really appreciate it. I really hope that I won’t get guardianship because I clearly don’t need it!
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Frankly I suspect you have been literally "victimized" by your IQ score. What I consider to be an unfair- and often an inaccurate metric to judge one's intelligence and abilities by.

An issue I have posted about multiple times here in this forum. Reminds me of one particular member who was self-conscious about his own IQ, yet carried on excellent knowledge of automotive issues as a mechanic. Hope he's doing well...
 
Judge said:
Frankly I suspect you have been literally "victimized" by your IQ score. What I consider to be an unfair- and often an inaccurate metric to judge one's intelligence and abilities by.

An issue I have posted about multiple times here in this forum. Reminds me of one particular member who was self-conscious about his own IQ, yet carried on excellent knowledge of automotive issues as a mechanic. Hope he's doing well...
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Ok so I shouldn’t go by my IQ score of how my parents and what people think of my decisions? They should just assume I am like everyone else and treat me like an adult instead of a child?
 
dancerxoxo123 said:
Ok so I shouldn’t go by my IQ score of how my parents and what people think of my decisions? They should just assume I am like everyone else and treat me like an adult instead of a child?
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Well, in all honesty that may be a hopeless proposition. Hard to tell if or what it might take to get them to see and treat you as a peer instead of a dependent. That so many parents can act in an overprotective manner of their children, adults or not. Autistic or not as well.

It's a consideration that makes a number of us here openly in doubt about organizations like "Autism Speaks". Which functions as an advocacy organization representing not autistic children, but rather the interests of neurotypical parents of autistic children. Another consideration in how some parents are enabled to treat their own kids as something less than they are.

But what really counts is what I think you've demonstrated here. That you can and will stand up for yourself. That YOU think about who and what you are counts the most. :cool:

That sometimes the only real alternative to our issues to seek out help from our own who best understand and can relate to the plight of being autistic in a neurotypical world. When more often than not we must prove we are more than so many may assume.
 
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Judge said:
Well, in all honesty that may be a hopeless proposition. Hard to tell if or what it might take to get them to see and treat you as a peer instead of a dependent. That so many parents can act in an overprotective manner of their children, adults or not. Autistic or not as well.

It's a consideration that makes a number of us here openly in doubt about organizations like "Autism Speaks". Which functions as an advocacy organization representing not autistic children, but rather the interests of neurotypical parents of autistic children. Another consideration in how some parents are enabled to treat their own kids as something less than they are.

But what really counts is what I think you've demonstrated here. That you can and will stand up for yourself. That YOU think about who and what you are counts the most. :cool:

That sometimes the only real alternative to our issues to seek out help from our own who best understand and can relate to the plight of being autistic in a neurotypical world. When more often than not we must prove we are more than so many may assume.
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Yes definitely you are right. Thank you so much for your help!
 
Judge said:
Frankly I suspect you have been literally "victimized" by your IQ score. What I consider to be an unfair- and often an inaccurate metric to judge one's intelligence and abilities by.

An issue I have posted about multiple times here in this forum. Reminds me of one particular member who was self-conscious about his own IQ, yet carried on excellent knowledge of automotive issues as a mechanic. Hope he's doing well...
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I.Q. tests can be biased in favour of some traits over others.
There are other mitigating factors, such as the influence of ADHD on someone's performance.

Can I.Q. tests be biased in favour of some traits over others?

Absolutely — IQ tests can be biased, and psychologists have been debating this for decades. The key point is that IQ tests don’t measure “intelligence” in some pure, universal sense. They measure performance on a specific set of tasks, and those tasks inevitably favour certain traits, backgrounds, and ways of thinking over others.
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Judge said:
Thanks. But actually it reflects my autistic stims. Given to me as a child by an adult for walking around with a sober look on my face and my hands in my pocket, pacing around. My bad! :p
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As I have said previously, I consider you to be one of the intelligentsia of the forum. :cool:
 
Jonn said:
I.Q. tests can be biased in favour of some traits over others.
There are other mitigating factors, such as the influence of ADHD on someone's performance.
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So basically what caused my iq to be 75 when it doesn’t show my full abilities? I feel like it’s not accurate clearly. I don’t have ADHD. So weird to me.
 
dancerxoxo123 said:
So basically what caused my iq to be 75 when it doesn’t show my full abilities? I feel like it’s not accurate clearly. I don’t have ADHD. So weird to me.
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Stress, anxiety, you name it. All kinds of factors that can skew one's IQ at the time of testing. Yet a single test and its outcome can be treated as if it's some form of intellectual "gospel".

Reminding me of my higher IQ which does nothing to improve my interview skills. :rolleyes:
 
Yeah definitely so I am not going to go by that iq score anymore. I know I’m smarter than that and not mentally challenged. Therefore I am going to get my freedom back 😊
Judge said:
Stress, anxiety, you name it. All kinds of factors that can skew one's IQ at the time of testing. Yet a single test and its outcome can be treated as if it's some form of intellectual "gospel".

Reminding me of my higher IQ which does nothing to improve my interview skills. :rolleyes:
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dancerxoxo123 said:
And I don’t want anyone to think I am mentally challenged anymore. I want to be treated like an adult for now on and not be controlled just like everyone else.
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And you don't think I'm like a child right? That's what my boyfriend sometimes thinks of me as. And some other people. How can I make them stop thinking that? It's not true am I right?
 
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