Does anyone else here actually ENJOY some social interaction? [Warning: A NOVEL]

[Skittlebisquit]

I am very empathetic to my own harm.

I am very empathetic to my own harm.

I have no idea where they came up with that idea because most aspies I have met have echoed what @BrokenBoy said about WANTING to interact but messing it up.

I do crave being with friends but they don't want me around. You know, email people who never email back, etc. I have a small group of friends I can see as long as I don't let them see my aspie traits. Mask=friends.

Harder with those who see you every day and don't like it. Just recently, in fact, a person with whom I live spelled it out clearly. I had been trapped in my tiny room for 10 hours (where I must stay during the day) and went down to say hi and a change of scenery and all.....and they said, "What do you want?!"

So who has no empathy? If I knew someone had been trapped in a room 10 hours, I would say something to the effect of Are you hungry?! or hey! or something. Not, "What do you want?!" I have also been in mid sentence when same said, "Are you done?!"

So yeah.....it's a little late in the game but I think I am catching on that I care a heck of a lot more than others.

That makes me sad that people are so mean to you. The whole world is not like that. Alot of people are decent and generally good. I believe alchohol makes people bitter because it is a solvent

I have no idea where they came up with that idea because most aspies I have met have echoed what @BrokenBoy said about WANTING to interact but messing it up.

I do crave being with friends but they don't want me around. You know, email people who never email back, etc. I have a small group of friends I can see as long as I don't let them see my aspie traits. Mask=friends.

Harder with those who see you every day and don't like it. Just recently, in fact, a person with whom I live spelled it out clearly. I had been trapped in my tiny room for 10 hours (where I must stay during the day) and went down to say hi and a change of scenery and all.....and they said, "What do you want?!"

So who has no empathy? If I knew someone had been trapped in a room 10 hours, I would say something to the effect of Are you hungry?! or hey! or something. Not, "What do you want?!" I have also been in mid sentence when same said, "Are you done?!"

So yeah.....it's a little late in the game but I think I am catching on that I care a heck of a lot more than others.

 

[Sara3]

I love talking and sharing time with friends, online or in real life. With social interactions, I learn a lot. I interact online everyday unless I have to do something or I have an obligation that requires me to focus. Communication issues, misunderstandings, people coming and getting out of your life are normal events. They happen from time to time.
I agree that there are all kinds of people on the spectrum. I think I'm both an extrovert and an introvert. It depends on the situation.
I want to say something that I think is very important: All humans need to learn how to become better friends. We can't just expect friends to appear magically. Sometimes deep connections only happen with few people and that's fine.

 

[WolfSpirit]

Some. Yes. With the right people. A couple people even make me feel better when I interact with them. It's tiring though. Even the enjoyable and fun ones.

I've only ever, once, understood the concept of 'getting energy' from being around other people, or a specific person. And that interaction was a while ago, and I've forgotten who it was with, or when it was.