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My boyfriend is threatening to dump me because of me getting medical guardianship. Is that reasonable?

Poppy98 said:
Agreed.

She might be telling you that (lying to you) so that you don't take matters into your own hands before she can attempt to get a guardianship.
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Which may also legally compromise the parents' intention to obtain legal medical guardianship. Something to clearly convey to her legal counsel.

Things will get ugly if they aren't already...but it's a civil action and there's nothing cordial about it.
 
Wish we knew the parents' side of all this. I am afraid we all will now make the parents look like devils, when maybe irl they are trying to protect her from unneeded pregnancy and other stuff we maybe don't know about.
And that boyfriend instead of helping with the situation is threatening her... that just doesn't sound like a good husband and father material.
Don't know, I will just not add anything more in this thread. Wishing you all the best, dancer.
 
You could get the list of phone numbers to call and what they are for written down or saved tonight so that tomorrow the only thing you need to do is call them. It takes a long time to get everything taken care of after you make the phone call, so if you want a good outcome start making calls by about 10 am tomorrow.


Did your parents tell you about any type of court date or any time you'll have to appear in court?
 
dancerxoxo123 said:
Omg my mom said to me the medical guardianship is finalized now. This isn’t right!! What should I do now? I don’t need this! I can make my own medical decisions and understand what the doctor is saying to me. This is wrong!!
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Even if your parents truly have obtained a guardianship order for you already, you can probably still challenge it if you have a lawyer.

Your lawyer can apply to the court to ask
to revoke the order.

Revoking the guardianship order cancels it -- and would give back the right to make your own medical decisions.

Your lawyer can also help you find out the truth about if there actually is a medical guardianship order that gives your parents the right to decide for you.

If you want to find out the truth about the guardianship order -- or to ask a judge to revoke it, you need to do the following things:

First thing: Call or email the intake team at Disability Rights New York.

(All the info below I got from this page on their website:
Disability Rights New York - Contact Us)

They can do an intake interview with you over the phone or in person.

They are open from 9:00am to 5:00pm Monday through Friday.

You can call either of the phone numbers below to talk to the Intake team:

(518) 432-7861 ​

(800) 993-8982 (toll free)​


Or, you can email them at this email address:


When you call or write to them, you will need to tell them what you have told us. The most important things to say first are:

1. Your parents told you that they filed for a medical guardianship order for you and that is has been finalized -- that it is already in effect.

2. You do not want your parents to make your medical decisions for you. You want to make medical decisions for yourself.

3. You would like to know if they can help you get a lawyer to appeal the order and ask for it to be revoked.

The intake team will probably ask you a lot of questions during the intake interview. This is just to help them to understand your situation so they can decide if they are able to help you.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do!
 
Tired said:
And that boyfriend instead of helping with the situation is threatening her doesn't... that sound like a good husband and father material.
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Agreed.

Someone who will raise a child with you and will stay "in sickness and in health" doesn't threaten to leave because they're not going to "get laid" anymore.


However, with the rest of it, a guardianship hearing is not something you want to go into without your own attorney. Ever. Too many people have covertly abusive parents for a start. Sometimes abuse starts back up in those types of situations.
 
Poppy98 said:
Further, it is generally harder to get sterilization for someone who has a low IQ than for anyone else because reproductive rights are harder to remove.
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I am seriously horrified that's even possible. That's an atrocious and inexcusable human rights violation, imo.

Its flat out illegal here to decide for someone else to sterilize them only because they lack capacity to make medical (or all major life) decisions and the guardian doesn't want them to have a child.

The only reason a person under guardianship who cannot provide or refuse consent can be legally sterilized in my jurisdictions is as an unavoidable consequence of actually-medically necessary surgery for something like cancer.
 
the_tortoise said:
I am seriously horrified that's even possible. That's an atrocious and inexcusable human rights violation, imo.

Its flat out illegal here to decide for someone else to sterilize them only because they lack capacity to make medical (or all major life) decisions and the guardian doesn't want them to have a child.

The only reason a person under guardianship who cannot provide or refuse consent can be legally sterilized in my jurisdictions is as an unavoidable consequence of actually-medically necessary surgery for something like cancer.
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Wait they can be forcibly sterilized if they can’t make medical decisions? That’s terrible !
 
Ye
the_tortoise said:
Even if your parents truly have obtained a guardianship order for you already, you can probably still challenge it if you have a lawyer.

Your lawyer can apply to the court to ask
to revoke the order.

Revoking the guardianship order cancels it -- and would give back the right to make your own medical decisions.

Your lawyer can also help you find out the truth about if there actually is a medical guardianship order that gives your parents the right to decide for you.

If you want to find out the truth about the guardianship order -- or to ask a judge to revoke it, you need to do the following things:

First thing: Call or email the intake team at Disability Rights New York.

(All the info below I got from this page on their website:
Disability Rights New York - Contact Us)

They can do an intake interview with you over the phone or in person.

They are open from 9:00am to 5:00pm Monday through Friday.

You can call either of the phone numbers below to talk to the Intake team:

(518) 432-7861 ​

(800) 993-8982 (toll free)​


Or, you can email them at this email address:


When you call or write to them, you will need to tell them what you have told us. The most important things to say first are:

1. Your parents told you that they filed for a medical guardianship order for you and that is has been finalized -- that it is already in effect.

2. You do not want your parents to make your medical decisions for you. You want to make medical decisions for yourself.

3. You would like to know if they can help you get a lawyer to appeal the order and ask for it to be revoked.

The intake team will probably ask you a lot of questions during the intake interview. This is just to help them to understand your situation so they can decide if they are able to help you.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do!
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Yeah I am going to call them as soon as possible thanks for your help!
 
Poppy98 said:
Agreed.

Someone who will raise a child with you and will stay "in sickness and in health" doesn't threaten to leave because they're not going to "get laid" anymore.


However, with the rest of it, a guardianship hearing is not something you want to go into without your own attorney. Ever. Too many people have covertly abusive parents for a start. Sometimes abuse starts back up in those types of situations.
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Yeah I’m going to get an attorney no matter what
 
dancerxoxo123 said:
My mom said she was getting medical guardianship over me because she didn’t want me to take out my IUD out just yet because she doesn’t think I am ready yet. She said I could take it out when she sees I am ready and stable. What do you think about that? Because I have a habit of wanting kids when I am not ready.
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Can you provide some more context for this?

Not too much detail. I'm just wondering about your parents' motivations.

Might they be concerned they'd they'll finish up being responsible for raising one or more children for the next 18-odd years? Assuming they're 60ish that would be asking a lot.
 
Hypnalis said:
Can you provide some more context for this?

Not too much detail. I'm just wondering about your parents' motivations.

Might they be concerned they'd they'll finish up being responsible for raising one or more children for the next 18-odd years? Assuming they're 60ish that would be asking a lot.
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Yeah they dont want me having kids just yet for some reason. But they shouldn’t control that. I’m an adult. Is this a dumb reason? Mabye they are preventing me from having kids now because of my autism? I don’t like that they are doing this.
 
In New York State, individuals under medical guardianship cannot be forced to undergo sterilization unless there is a clear danger to their physical health. The law requires that the decision to sterilize be made with full understanding and consent, and it is not possible to force a sterilization procedure under guardianship. The legal framework surrounding sterilization and guardianship in New York State ensures that individuals have the right to make informed decisions about their reproductive health, even when they are under guardianship.
 
Yes that’s true so I can’t be sterilized forcefully at least that’s great news!
Aspychata said:
In New York State, individuals under medical guardianship cannot be forced to undergo sterilization unless there is a clear danger to their physical health. The law requires that the decision to sterilize be made with full understanding and consent, and it is not possible to force a sterilization procedure under guardianship. The legal framework surrounding sterilization and guardianship in New York State ensures that individuals have the right to make informed decisions about their reproductive health, even when they are under guardianship.
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