To be fair to Tony, all the blame should not be just on him. I think many single women in general are a lot more picky and judgemental of single guys who sit next to them or talk to them because they either fear the guy's intentions too much or are more concerned about getting their needs met or worry about their image with who sits next to them or talks to them, if they quickly have some initial negative opinion or assumption of what they see, or if they worry about gossip spreading. They may worry about atypical guys harassing them, or trying to eventually get too close before they even remotely would consider that, and they do not want to either waste time getting to know others that they assume are less or not able to fulfill their needs, or have to explain maybe to their friends some atypical guy was trying to socialize with them. That is not good for them or their image perhaps.
Regardless what people say here, the average woman is far needier than the average guy, in terms of needing more things. If the guy is not financially able to support her, or have higher income than her, is not reasonably successful, or with a good stable job, those are big strikes against that guy. The stats vary, depending on the sites you research, but between 85-93 percent of single women value strongly a partner who is financially able, preferably through stable work than inheritance, from what I read, as that shows responsibility and other stronger traits.
This does not mean all women need a guy with a good stable job or some guy of professional social or financial status, or will get such a guy, but just that could be a big factor in convincing many of those women to give some single guy a chance or at least it could determine how a guy is at least initially treated by them. Some women who are less typical or judgmental, and less needy financially and less fearful, or more empathetic, may be open minded to meeting or talking to more single guys, even if they appear different, but these guys may have to show some other good traits more, whether it be confidence, humor, positivity, communication ability, physical looks, style of clothes they wear, kindness, some skill, talent, etc. Most people do not want only a partner project to dream of fixing many things up. They want to see benefits or compatability in the other right away.
Personally, I do not see Tony and Marks looks as a turn off, if I were a woman, as you look decent to me. Just be aware guys that if you cannot talk about or show the other sides talked about more, then the main type of woman you may find that gives you the chance are the ones with either strong empathy or self esteem in not needing to impress their friends, or ones with poor self esteem or desperate for a partner too, ones who will not just superficially be nice then backstab, but who truly do not see atypical guys who have needs as bad; those women who have much love and positive energy to give or are not too picky. As many women get self esteem not just through their looks but through the quality of their friendships and relationships, you may need to find secure and kind woman instead, or one who admit to having many issues themselves; those who are not embarrassed at one with lesser job or income, or with some guy seen as different or Autistic; ones who do not see themselves as better but see positives in talking to you, and wanting to get to know you as a person, instead of comparing you to others that society says is more attractive.
There are guys with conditions without jobs that date and are married. There are guys who are really shy and who do not have the best confidence, initiation and communication skills that date and are married too. Will they have less chances than the confident, positive, financial well off social guys? Yes. More guys would date unemployed or disabled woman than women date unemployed and disabled guys. It is partially because of negative stereotypes and societal expectations. Women are allowed to be home more, express negatives more, be seen as weaker. Times are changing there, with more women working and more guys staying at home, but still if you want more chances, you either have to focus on showing your good traits more, better certain things, or be yourself and find the places where those kinder and stronger women would be, or find those women with other needs that you feel you would love to help with, with abilities there.
In my case, I dated a few to several woman eventually in my thirties, but it was only after realizing I was giving off negative vibes, through nonverbal cues I gave off, and by avoiding others too much which is just as bad as pushing others to give us a chance too much, and when I knew I could not change women, culture and their needs, but just highlight the better version of myself more, and through some years of self improvement , as we all have personality traits or skills that can be endearing to many, that can be developed or shown more, instead of wasting time by showing us as a victim. I chose not the first woman I dated, as I sensed the first few would not work out, but I chose the friendlier and kinder and wiser-woman who knew I was a great match for her needs and who believed in me, yet who she provided me with the energy, humor, creativity, non-judgemental and non-materialistic needs I was looking for too. It had been hard then finding that match, but I did so through researching the right group/ forum places then and resorting to writings online first, where I could express and show best those positives about me, and only then would I initiate being friends with some of those past persons, realizing many women want less vulnerable or more indirect ways to talk, or if they have conditions themselves or would be talking to atypical guys who did not immediately ring the "I want that guy" bell upon quick judgement.
