Mrshabi
Well-Known Member
I am a mother of a 20 year old son with Asperger’s. Finding help is like finding a needle in a haystack. Anyway, we have a dilemma coming up and we, (My husband, myself and our son) don’t know what to do. We are retired military so until he turns 21 he is considered a dependent with all benefits. We have figured out the medical side, because we just have to pay a small amount extra to keep him on our plan. However, his job currently is working at the base grocery store bagging groceries for tips which really for now has been ideal. As long as he is a dependent he can continue to work once he turns 21 he loses his id card unless of course he is enrolled in school full time. He doesn’t know what he wants to do, he does know he doesn’t want to waste any more time in school. He spent 3 semesters in school and $40,000 and failed 90% of them. He doesn’t seem to see the importance of us taking action now and not in December when he turns 21. I have tried to explain to him:
1. If he doesn’t go to school he must pay rent, therefore he must have a job
2. He doesn’t have to have his whole life “career” figured out right now, just something to make a decent wage.
3. He does have choices, he could sign up for full time classes and retain his id and his current job or find a new job.
Any ideas????? Those of you adults Aspies’s, please give this old NT mom some grace, I am just wanting to help him and I don’t know how. ;-)
1. If he doesn’t go to school he must pay rent, therefore he must have a job
2. He doesn’t have to have his whole life “career” figured out right now, just something to make a decent wage.
3. He does have choices, he could sign up for full time classes and retain his id and his current job or find a new job.
Any ideas????? Those of you adults Aspies’s, please give this old NT mom some grace, I am just wanting to help him and I don’t know how. ;-)