Parenting & Autism Discussions

Hi, I'm new here. Today my 3 year old was diagnosed to be on the spectrum, with mild to moderate symptoms. I was also recently diagnosed this past year as an adult with the same. With my son, he mainly has problems in these key areas: communication (still not talking clearly nor understanding when asked questions, etc), fine motor skills, and aggression. He has great eye contact, is very social with peers (although at times inappropriately) and good academically. He's also super hyperactive and has a hard time sitting still and falling asleep, and is unusually loud. He has started pre-school and is already fallen behind in some aspects and his teacher has mentioned some of the behaviors which were somewhat disruptive but that they were working on it. Now I'm trying to think of what to do next, including their recommendations of ABA therapy. As I am still a newbie to all this, I wanted to hear different opinions.

I've seen a lot of negative reactions and testimonials and read...