Lilacleia16
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I was told that autistic people like myself have no capacity for empathy. I wonder what other autistics think? Is this true about us? If so, why? And what are examples?
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And this one.I was told that autistic people like myself have no capacity for empathy. I wonder what other autistics think? Is this true about us? If so, why? And what are examples?
This was very helpful because my friend cried the other day because she was moving across town and I gave her space and didn’t hug her but when I saw people hugging her and approaching her I approached her afterwards and asked if she could tell me how I should respond to her because I do care that she is sad but I didn’t know how to show it to her. She said I did fine but generally I do leave people to cry alone and without touch because it is what I would want.I'm too tired today, to write out a post to rebutt the claim, so I'm posting up some vids to answer, instead
IMO it's an NT myth.I was told that autistic people like myself have no capacity for empathy. I wonder what other autistics think? Is this true about us? If so, why? And what are examples?
Yep. A theory of mind proponent would say that that proves their theory, and they do have a point that is backed up by plenty of research. BUT, a lot can be learned, so their tests measuring cognitive empathy (like the Empathy Quotient, EQ) tend to also measure social skills that can change over time.I think some.autistic people might have a deficit in understanding other people's motives.
I don’t understand what you mean. Which word implies pandering?So many people get confused by this. Empathy does not mean Sympathy.
Just because I'm sensitive to what you're feeling does not mean that I'm going to pander to it.
I think that's probably how I understand it too. It's like "he/she doesn't perform the usual cultural norms of our social group at this point. QED he/she feels nothing". Which, of course, is a load of rubbish. That's doubly so when the NT performing the actions doesn't actually empathise, but is just going through the motions of some sort of demonstrative empathy. e.g. the judges on talent shows flapping their hands before their eyes to "stop" the squeezed out tears. In those situations you can be judged as not having empathy despite the NT involved actually having none at all, and knowingly so. For me that kind of settles it that it's actually about adhering to rituals rather than having actual empathy.When the reality isn't that we actually lack empathy, but rather that we lack a way to project it in a manner that NTs are accustomed to observing or understanding.
Well...I was told that autistic people like myself have no capacity for empathy. I wonder what other autistics think? Is this true about us? If so, why? And what are examples?
My brother has ADHD and he is one of the few people who gets me. I have ASD but he doesn’t mind. I think the two are compatible; ADHD and ASD.Well...
I think some of the people on here are some of the most empathetic I have met.
I am an empath and definitely have adhd.
My cousin Tim has Asperger’s
I have an empath brain that is a mystery and works in many different ways with many different threads.
That is why I am a genuine empath because I live like an empath
Not sure I have ASD yet though but I do have some limitations
Perhaps I didn't describe what I was trying to say very well. Many times in my life I have been accused of having no empathy. It's not always easy to describe different social situations but this example might help.I don’t understand what you mean. Which word implies pandering?