theporgsnest
Well-Known Member
Or perhaps this should be more accurately phrased as 'do you ever get told you don't ask the right questions'
I do, and feel like this is a daily occurrence in my home. It will either be in a group conversation (on zoom or other platforms right now obviously, but previously too) and be told afterwards something along the lines of "why didn't you ask them 'x' when they said 'y'. Or asking how the person I'd met up with for coffee is and 'how is their job' and then I don't have the answer because I didn't ask that one, nor its subsequent leading questions. And it's not that I didn't ask any questions - I wouldn't have had a conversation at all if that had been the case - but I'm guessing that I went 'off script' i.e. I dropped my mask
A while ago when I was having occupational therapy, my therapist used a mnemonic/acronym to help me with said script: FORCED: Family/Friends, Occupation, Recreation, Current events, Environment, Dreams (the idea behind the acronym being that eventually conversations won't feel 'forced' if I regularly use this pattern.) It does help somewhat but only really in highly mask-dependent situations and the subsequent questions that follow still make me draw mental blanks quite a lot.
I mean I'm guessing this is definitely an autism thing because the handy handbook I was given by said therapist is mostly dedicated asking the right questions in any given social setting.
I do, and feel like this is a daily occurrence in my home. It will either be in a group conversation (on zoom or other platforms right now obviously, but previously too) and be told afterwards something along the lines of "why didn't you ask them 'x' when they said 'y'. Or asking how the person I'd met up with for coffee is and 'how is their job' and then I don't have the answer because I didn't ask that one, nor its subsequent leading questions. And it's not that I didn't ask any questions - I wouldn't have had a conversation at all if that had been the case - but I'm guessing that I went 'off script' i.e. I dropped my mask
A while ago when I was having occupational therapy, my therapist used a mnemonic/acronym to help me with said script: FORCED: Family/Friends, Occupation, Recreation, Current events, Environment, Dreams (the idea behind the acronym being that eventually conversations won't feel 'forced' if I regularly use this pattern.) It does help somewhat but only really in highly mask-dependent situations and the subsequent questions that follow still make me draw mental blanks quite a lot.
I mean I'm guessing this is definitely an autism thing because the handy handbook I was given by said therapist is mostly dedicated asking the right questions in any given social setting.