I realize that my english has realy turned bad xD sorry if you cant understand !
Well i got my licence before i realized i might be on the spectrum.
After that i casualy drive my parents' car with them, and thats it, i am a bit anxious about driving on my own and somewhere i dont know to be honest, but now i know myself a little bit better so i know what not to do before driving.
But yeah it was realy realy hard, my parents paid all my lessons, and i think i needed maybe 2 or 3 times more lessons, i had to try 3 times and basically the main reason why i got it the 3rd time was , i think, because the driving examiner took time to reassure me , she said that she wasnt going to trick me etc and it realy helped me.
Well i am not sure yet if i have asperger or not so dont take what I say for 100% granted...
I had to deal with my stress in order to be able to realy "learn" , I had good moments , and i had moments when i suddenly felt realy realy difficult to focus on everything and was realy clumsy .
So,in order to learn effectively, a proper sleep, no cofee or anything energizing; doing nothing stressfull ( like running or biking before going to the lesson, or even sport etc) is recquired.
I know it can be hard if you also have a busy life, my life is almots empty so all i had to do was just sleep , stop cofee, and not using my bike to go to the lesson.
+ I suggest you to spend some time with someone that knows your condition and can maybe help you in learning some tricks, or just driving in a parking lot in order to get used to the very fact of being in a car as a driver ( well at some point you will need to stop because changing car is also a problem for us).
It is a realy a personnal feeling , but, i would say that , driving for me was like driving but on hard mode( like a video game)
You realy need to create habits as a driver, and that's actually something that we like. you need to look around a lot and all have that can be , i mean , each action can become a part of a "process"
I mean, i dont even think, in town, when im near an intersection, ( i mean 2 streets crossing) , i just reduce my speed before everything else, well even before that, i watch behind if i can reduce my speed, you get the point, you need to learn an overall plan of all the basic things
I mean, maybe NT can be more "responsive"or instinctive" , we need to have in mind a "what i have to do" plan for each of the most common situations , I think NT need it also but for use it is more elaborated.
But first, i would say that you need to master realy everything that is related to the mecanical aspect of your car, i mean, first, you need to take your time to know exactly how to take your place in your car.
Then everything that is mechanical , i dont know how to say it well in english, but everything that you do in the car, using the signals, changing speedn shifting braking etc, ecerything need to be automatic for you.
Never look inside of your car while you drive, well during the first lessons you will, but, real soon you need to do that automaticly in order to keep your eyes on the road ( i think an NT can refocus faster than us)
What else can i say...
Well dont be pissed off when you dont drive the same car during different lessons, i mean even if it is the same model they will feel different because they are not in the same state, so dont get pissed by that...
Try to think out loud the less you can, because, maybe it helped me i dont know, but during lessons and even know everything that pops in my head i just cant help it , i say it, but during the examination it can be a problem so try to control it a little.
Overall i think it depends on how much time you can spend, and how much you can afford so i think it can be quickly complicated especially if you fail your first try.
Btw, i am even more certain that my dad is on the spectrum , and he is a realy good driver, that is one of his interest ( he likes car in general, he knows a lot about it even if he never worked in a garage, younger he repaired motorbikes and cars on his own.) Sometimes I just feel that he is a bit harder on the commands but thats it, realy a good driver.
And if the driving school that you have near is blocking you just got somewhere else, personnaly, my parents decided to make me learn in the " most professional" school near, i mean, you know , some driving school are more amateurs than others, i suggest you to avoid them, you need professional that can give you an in deepth method , and you need to learn step by step ,this is very important.