On the Inside
Well-Known Member
I was doing some searching through old threads to get some perspective on commitment in long term relationships on this and another ASD forum and came across a distinction I hadn't heard before.
There were people who said they attributed their success in relationships to they or their partner being analytical Aspies rather than emotional Aspies. It is easier to deal with someone long term who is more cold and unemotional, than someone who is up and down emotionally, or has meltdowns.
Now I consider myself very analytical. I will deliberate and research and discuss way beyond what is necessary to make a decision. Sometimes I can zero in on an accurate analysis rather quickly. I have been able to work out some very complex issues, problems and puzzles. But I am also pretty emotional, and sometimes I throw out all the analysis and let the emotions take over, usually with disastrous results, or at least less than ideal results.
So this difference, that I have emotional regulation problems, keeps me from being purely analytical, and therefore, I have trouble with long term relationships?
There were people who said they attributed their success in relationships to they or their partner being analytical Aspies rather than emotional Aspies. It is easier to deal with someone long term who is more cold and unemotional, than someone who is up and down emotionally, or has meltdowns.
Now I consider myself very analytical. I will deliberate and research and discuss way beyond what is necessary to make a decision. Sometimes I can zero in on an accurate analysis rather quickly. I have been able to work out some very complex issues, problems and puzzles. But I am also pretty emotional, and sometimes I throw out all the analysis and let the emotions take over, usually with disastrous results, or at least less than ideal results.
So this difference, that I have emotional regulation problems, keeps me from being purely analytical, and therefore, I have trouble with long term relationships?
Last edited: