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Analytical Aspie or Emotional Aspie?

Harrison54 said:
When I tried to be purely analytical it ended up in WWIV (gave up on that)
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I don't want to be purely analytical. I feel removed enough from humanity at times, thanks. I like emotions, more often than not, I'd just rather they be positive ones. [I was going to say "productive ones", but realised how unemotional that sounds. :rolleyes:]
 
On the Inside said:
My problem is her analyzing me and my issues, reactions and non-reactions which are usually fear and anxiety related. She asks questions and I am unable to answer them. I seem unable to look closely at my emotional impulses, to analyze them, I am too close to them. I can try to go back to them after the fact and piece them together, but there is still this foggy mysterious space that is a big blank. That space seems to be the rather large gap between the logical, rational mind and the impulsive, emotional mind.

How do these two minds interact, if they can at all? How are NT's able to reconcile and regulate the interaction?
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It seems to me you have the basis for understanding, in that she is fairly analytical, too. She may just have to wait to analyse you until you have something to say for yourself. There has to be feedback for her to ever be accurate.

I took up journalling to move my feelings out of me, into a form I could review and learn from afterwards. If I detailed the situation, and the aspects of my internal reactions I couldn't identify, later on I could make better sense of them. I started to see patterns, etc. It's helped me tremendously. I am my own sociologist! :p
 
Suzanne said:
Lol I guess for both but at that point, I was thinking of just me!
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I had a short relationship with an aspie not long ago, too short to really count it (so I don't). We brought out the logic in each other is the best way to describe it.Our break up went like this -

Her - 'I really don't think this is working'
Me - 'You have evidence of this?
Her - 'Of course'
Me - 'I see, so there is no point in arguing against your evidence?'
Her - 'No, it is well grounded'
Me - 'OK, I'll see you to the door'

Honest to god, that was it. Afterwards I regained my emotional core and I'm keeping it ;)
 
I used to journal religiously when I was in my teens and twenties. I used hard bound sketch books because a large part of my thought process is visual. The hard binding made me feel like this was important work I'm doing here. After a while I noticed how circular the patterns were, and felt I wasn't getting anywhere with it. I've tried to get back to it, but can't seem to find the time or inclination to keep it up.

Wow, Harrison. That makes me want to try a purely logical relationship sometime. I'm sure it wouldn't last long, how could it, logically?
 
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On the Inside said:
I used to journal religiously when I was in my teens and twenties. I used hard bound sketch books because a large part of my thought process is visual. The hard binding made me feel like this was important work I'm doing here. After a while I noticed how circular the patterns were, and felt I wasn't getting anywhere with it. I've tried to get back to it, but can't seem to find the time or inclination to keep it up.

Wow, Harrison. That makes me want to try a purely logical relationship sometime. I'm sure it wouldn't last long, how could it, logically?
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I found the same problem, and being visual as well, starting charting ways out of the pattern. If I could find an exit in a diagram, I could apply it to myself. Just an idea. May not work for everybody.

I'm fairly certain that conversation Harrison outlined was literally the entire relationship. A quickie in a club would've lasted longer.
 
Harrison54 said:
I had a short relationship with an aspie not long ago, too short to really count it (so I don't). We brought out the logic in each other is the best way to describe it.Our break up went like this -

Her - 'I really don't think this is working'
Me - 'You have evidence of this?
Her - 'Of course'
Me - 'I see, so there is no point in arguing against your evidence?'
Her - 'No, it is well grounded'
Me - 'OK, I'll see you to the door'

Honest to god, that was it. Afterwards I regained my emotional core and I'm keeping it ;)
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Actually that sounds like a perfect end; clean cut and just the way I would love it ie a man responding like that: so you have evidence of this? Of course! No point in arguing? No, ok bye (whoa love it hehehe) in other words, you took that her reasoning was good enough, even though she didn't explain. I should have married an aspie ;)
 
Well, it would have to last long enough to gather the necessary evidence, right? And if one is just elusive enough, it could stretch it out a little longer.
 
Suzanne said:
Actually that sounds like a perfect end; clean cut and just the way I would love it ie a man responding like that: so you have evidence of this? Of course! No point in arguing? No, ok bye (whoa love it hehehe) in other words, you took that her reasoning was good enough, even though she didn't explain. I should have married an aspie ;)
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If the point of marrying an aspie is to leave them cleanly... there's no point (I think?) :eek:
 
On the Inside said:
Well, it would have to last long enough to gather the necessary evidence, right?
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Unless he cut off the following first bit:

Harrison: "You're kinda cute. Smart, too. Interested?"
Girl: "I'm an Aspie. Sure, let's try it."
Harrison: "Really? Me, too."
Girl: [Silence]
Harrison: [Silence]

:D
 
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nurseangela said:
Oh lordie.
I read that Aspie men aren't emotional. Now I'm confused again! :confused:
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Aspies take things to extreme. So, for example, an Aspie can have a sensory hypersensitivity, or a sensory hyposensitivity. The same person can be hypersensitive or hyposensitive to different stimuli, or to the same stimuli at different times.
Same thing goes for the emotions. An Aspie can be extremely unemotional or extremely emotional.
Same thing goes for other things-
In the intellectual area, for instance...Temple Grandin talked about how the autistic brain will tend to be extremely strong in one area, but weak in another area.
NTs seem to have more balanced brains.
Neither is better or worse, I think. Balance, being good overall in life, is a strength of NTs. The extreme nature of Aspies is both a strength and a weakness. I'm glad our world has both types of people.
 
Nadador said:
I don't want to be purely analytical. I feel removed enough from humanity at times, thanks. I like emotions, more often than not, I'd just rather they be positive ones. [I was going to say "productive ones", but realised how unemotional that sounds. :rolleyes:]
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I'd like to keep the emotions but be able to process them effectively and in a timely manner.
 
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