So I have been using a social media/dating app to try and meet new people. I've been lonely, I don't have a lot of dating experience but just want to try putting myself out there.
So long story short, this guy and I have been DM-ing each other back and forth. I was kind of hoping I'd be a week at least before he asked for the first date, but such was not the case. But I'm okay with this since I'd like to meet him too.
He asks me at one point what sort of things I like to do for a first date and I reply, letting him know that I have no preference given my history with dating. I figure he'll pick something easy, something nice and inexpensive, like coffee--hopefully nothing like noisy, disorienting bowling. After all I think, how popular is bowling?
Nope! First thing he suggests is bowling.
I feel like a dork for wanting to come here and ask for help, but I just really don't know how to tell this guy that I don't want to go bowling. I'm afraid of having to explain my situation with bowling and how much it would suck as a first date (maybe like on the 3rd or 4th, when I feel more comfortable around him, I'd be fine since I'd have someone familiar around me.) I'm afraid of looking like a fuss pot and making him loose interest. I've been on enough first dates as it is where all interest in me seems to be lost within that first hour. It once took me several months of being 'ghosted' over text messages to figure out that the guy was not interested in talking to me, even as a friend.
I did put on my profile "aspie". Idk if he read it at all or even bothered to ask himself what it meant.
What should I do?
So long story short, this guy and I have been DM-ing each other back and forth. I was kind of hoping I'd be a week at least before he asked for the first date, but such was not the case. But I'm okay with this since I'd like to meet him too.
He asks me at one point what sort of things I like to do for a first date and I reply, letting him know that I have no preference given my history with dating. I figure he'll pick something easy, something nice and inexpensive, like coffee--hopefully nothing like noisy, disorienting bowling. After all I think, how popular is bowling?
Nope! First thing he suggests is bowling.
I feel like a dork for wanting to come here and ask for help, but I just really don't know how to tell this guy that I don't want to go bowling. I'm afraid of having to explain my situation with bowling and how much it would suck as a first date (maybe like on the 3rd or 4th, when I feel more comfortable around him, I'd be fine since I'd have someone familiar around me.) I'm afraid of looking like a fuss pot and making him loose interest. I've been on enough first dates as it is where all interest in me seems to be lost within that first hour. It once took me several months of being 'ghosted' over text messages to figure out that the guy was not interested in talking to me, even as a friend.
I did put on my profile "aspie". Idk if he read it at all or even bothered to ask himself what it meant.
What should I do?