@Judge
The thread, starting with the OP, has been
shaped by semantics, and arguably is
about semantics.
The assumption that the proposed discussion was inherently misogynistic is entirely dependent on adding in those "all" classifiers. Doing that to a statement like <Category> has <Property> is normal in Logic and Math.
But not in human matters - it can't be, because hardly anything is 100% true in the human domain. If people are involved, the "all" has to be prefixed, because "All X are Y" is an unusual case, and "Some X are Y" (or Many, or Most) is the norm.
So in normal speech, interpretations like this have to be considered among the options:
>> An XY human has found one or more XX-humans close to them to be self-righteous and judgmental on occasion, and they are finding it hard to have a neutral discussion with those people so they can resolve this communication issue.
They like to talk with others with more understanding and experience to get a better understanding of what they could do, and perhaps what they should do.
That is, they seek either to (a) refine their understanding (perhaps they are misinterpreting what they hear), or (b) resolve the issues that cause the style of speech (perhaps they are are unknowingly the cause of a genuine problem), or (c) perhaps the XX speakers are simply being rude, and the XY wants help to negotiate a change in the XXs' mode of communication.
Spun that way, it's the kind of thing that happens frequently
here in AF, due to the inherent complications of ND/NT communication. And we don't attack our own, even if they could be the likely source of the issues.
I'm in favor of assuming the best, not the worst, interpretation given what's actually written.
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Something I couldn't fit in above: I'm not in favor of everyone trying to do second-level analysis to somehow extract more information.
For example "why did they use "self-righteous" rather than "sanctimonious" or "smugly moralistic". Or the reverse - does the selection of the more secular "self-righteous" mitigate the general tone a little?
With a large enough vocabulary (or my method: some time and access to wikipedia
you can make anything seem unacceptable.
It doesn't lead to a good place.