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What is Normal for us?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by DiverseWonderland, Jan 9, 2019.

  1. DiverseWonderland

    DiverseWonderland I can do anything!

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    So we know about the "Social Guidelines" and what is considered "Normal" These days but what i want to know is what do you all do that you consider "normal" for yourself or what do you do that most others don't do?

    For instance I will play by imagining something in my head but on the outside i'm just pacing around the area in a circle Or the way i talk and maybe even my posture/body language might not be considered the "Norm" (Or i'm just to dramatic sometimes or not dramatic enough) and some of my interests might not be what people my age are normally interested in. Anyways what is your Guy's version of "Normal" :) (Sorry if my question wasn't specific enough)
     
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  2. Tom

    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Special interests are very common for us and can be very specific or idiosyncratic. So if an Aspie's thing is push Vacuum Cleaners made between 1950 - Early 60's most of us wouldn't consider it unusual. Very active imagination is also widespread, as well as non adhesion to typical age interests or behaviors. We can be considered old or young for our age.
     
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  3. Nitro

    Nitro Admin/Immoral Turpitude Staff Member Admin V.I.P Member

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    To me, how I experience life is normal to me, just like anyone else would do.
     
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  4. china autie

    china autie friend to dogs and frogs and cats

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    I am my own normal.

    I judge my mental health on how I can function as my best authentic autistic self.
     
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    Pats Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    My normal is not being normal. I just like to do my own thing, not be interrupted, and not have to be around people often.
     
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  6. Autistamatic

    Autistamatic He's just this guy, you know? V.I.P Member

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    Normal is overrated, weirdness is wonderful. Whilst many of us have things in common and exclaim "me too!" when someone else highlights something we share, there is so much variety amongst us that there is no normal.

    I think the big unifying factor amomgst us is that people who believe in the concept of normal and consider themselves to be normal, very often think we are weird.
     
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  7. Judge

    Judge Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Normal?

    Don't know. Don't care.
     
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  8. inkfingers

    inkfingers 19 year old Aspie artist and Jesus follower

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    My normal is keeping to myself, avoiding social events (or avoiding people in general-they're a pain to talk to), collecting stuffed animals, reading, and binge-researching autism.
     
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  9. Progster

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    My normal is just being me. I may or may do do things that other people do. I eat, walk, work, do chores, sleep at night, drink, listen to music, watch documentaries online, use the internet - these are all 'normal' things that the majority of people do, human things. Things I do that not so many others don't do are: I obsessively collect music: digital, CDs and vinyl records, I speak several languages fluently, I can't stand eggs or tomatoes, I don't like sports or most TV shows, I can't stand TV commercials and refuse to watch them, so I almost never watch TV, I'm female but have no interest in fashion or 'girly' stuff, I have no idea about pop culture so don't get people's references, I don't play video games, I have a flat, boring voice and wear the same clothes all the time, I look and sound a bit different and have a silly sense of humour. All of these things are a part of my personality and are normal to me.
     
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    SusanLR Well-Known Member

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    Paul Simon's song says it best: ...a good day ain't got no rain,
    and a bad day's when I lie in bed and think about what could have been...Slip sliding away.
     
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    ftfipps Well-Known Member

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    I also loathe TV commercials! They are bar none my least favorite thing in life and I'm serious. I stopped playing video games back in the 90's. I have very little facial expressions and I wear the same clothes all the time. I am just now learning how to look like you give a crap through your physical appearance. I have a ridiculous, nonsensical sense of humor.
     
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  12. Mr Allen

    Mr Allen Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Define "normal"?! Contrary to popular belief, Aspies and full blown Autistic people are just as "normal" as NT people IMO.
     
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  13. Autistamatic

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    Mr Allen Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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