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You have been offered innumerable suggestions, yet you are still in the exact same situation after . . . how many years?. . . I don’t know what will help.
I was constantly getting negative interactions at school as well as work and I was stuck at home whenever I didn’t have to go to either place since I didn’t have a vehicle.You've heard, but for some reason it doesn't stick.
You easily remember negative stuff and repeat that to yourself.
The idea that not saying negative things to yourself could be helpful,
that idea you forget. And you think people are telling you to *pretend to
They are much more peaceful now but I still don’t get invited to social functions nor interact with anyone outside of work.How are your interactions at work now?
2006-2009.This is written in past tense: "I was...."
What time periods are you describing?
From my experience this is so true! I have said here before that I had a period of existential loneliness (yes, existential!). Then I started living independently, living for myself, having successes in research and being published, and could follow my interests. I started putting together a good life and was involved in outings. Sure, it was hard being single, but I liked my life and its potential. Then I took a chance and was not looking for a relationship when I called a woman to car pool to a trail maintenance project. She evidently liked me and we started a relationship that has lasted for 45 1/2 years. Life happens when you are making other plans.In my experience and from what I've heard, you live a fulfilling, active life and you'll just encounter someone along the way. I've regularly encountered someone interested since I was fifteen, about once a year, lately every other year, but I have never sought out a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.
Apparently the past doesn’t define the future for an individual but I have read stories of men who were rejected by women all their lives. Even back when I was 17, those stories scared me. I also read multiple excerpts of the late Dr. Gilmartin’s book, Shyness and Love, at the time and that scared me even more.
Do your hobbies??? My hobbies and interests advised my activities. I was always out fossil collecting or going to street fairs, or museums. And then I discovered Stephen Sondheim musicals. And, guess what? My spouse enjoys outdoor activities and Stephen Sondheim. We do things like spending a short visit to NYC to see two Sondheim musicals, and Hadestown, and going to the AMNH and the New Museum that had a retrospective of the Feminist Artist, Judy Chicago. Our interests have given us an interesting life together.I understand you very much, and I understand that these tips like “do your hobbies” seem absurd, because it seems like an encouragement to stay at home and do your hobbies alone. I am a proponent of the fact that you need to look for a relationship if you want one. And you need to make as many attempts as possible to make at least friendly connections, you need to expand your list of contacts. For introverts, I think that communication and dating on the Internet is most suitable. Try using dating apps and chatting on sites based on your interests with an offer, for example, to draw together, we have a drawing club here where people gather once a week to draw together in a cafe, maybe you’ll find them there too. The main thing is not to distance yourself from people, but to make as many attempts as possible.