There's 2 types of "PUA experts". The good looking ones, and the ugly ones that falsify everything. Multiple PUA experts (all unattractive ones) have been caught doing this. The good looking ones have success simply for being good looking, and they all seem to have very good style and present themselves well.
I didn't recommend consulting PUA advice. I suggested dating and relationship advice. There's a big difference. Like the stuff I listed above, which is consistent with a lot of what's been said here.
Yes--it's important to dress and groom well. But it is possible to be good looking and not be successful with women, especially if you've got confidence issues. And since you can't control how good looking your face is compared to other guys, yes, present yourself well. Doesn't hurt to work out, either.
This is also the story of success among guys, it's not so much the "techniques" as it is that talking to 100 women as an attractive guy will have 30 of them interested in a date. The only real kicker is that you cannot be excruciatingly weird, which is why when there are videos of guys that have done 100 approaches with no success, it's quite obvious why. These guys would need to be a hot as balls male model in order to have any success... and even then probably not because women would suspect he's a psycho.
If being excruciatingly weird is a turn-off for women, then behaviour
does matter. Indeed, you don't want to be a psycho. Or a loser.
Once you approach, you've got to build a connection. You want her to feel that you're a good guy, and you want her to know how awesome you find her. You've got to build up to getting her number or taking her home. As you say, you can blow it you act stupid, or weird, or gross, or off-putting.
I am not saying there are no things that you can do that will put icing on the cake and make a woman go bonkers over you within 10 minutes of meeting, but it's not so much a specific thing but more of generating a certain vibe or feeling. None of the "experts" explain this correctly, instead making it more of a cold series of actions. It's not necessary for success, however. And the important thing is, if you are not physically attractive to a woman, nothing is going to turn that "no" into a "yes".
Absolutely--it's about generating vibe or feeling. And yes, there are experts out there who explain this correctly, including the two I recommended.
Sure, there are exceptions, but it's generally better to feel good than to feel bad.
That does not mean there are no things that you can do that will improve your attraction, but if there's no attraction it cannot be created (and attraction is based on physical appearance). If you are a good looking billionaire the right behaviour will make you even more attractive, but if your name is George and you are unemployed and live with your parents then the best shot you have is being honest. Great advice: approach an attractive woman and tell her you find her attractive. If she seems interested you say "My name is .... I'm unemployed and I live with my parents".
Your example contradicts your suggestion that women's attraction to men is based
only on physical appearance and cannot be created (unless that's not what you meant). In that fictional example, George made that work because he approached directly, had a good opener, and said it confidently--the opposite of what he usually does. And he's not exactly the best-looking guy around. You never know, though--some women are into short, stocky, bald guys. Gotta try your luck!
Look at Henry Kissinger and Aristotle Onassis. Not physically attractive men, but they dated/married beautiful, famous women because they were powerful, charismatic, and charming.
Women are into different kinds of guys. Some go for brainy guys, some go for jocks. You never know until you try. But you're right--looks certainly make a difference!
Female dog shields are also a figment of PUA perception. If a woman finds you attractive, and you are normal and show interest there will be no female dog shield. If she does not find you attractive, but she finds it fun to talk to you then the female dog shield goes away.
All that means, really, is that when you approach a woman and she puts up resistance, don't just cave and walk away. Be confident and play it off in a fun way. Like you say, if she finds it fun to talk to you, the shield goes away. (If not, move on!)
Fecal tests... I am assuming we are not talking about that awful TV dietician. I do not believe I ever ran into one of those. I don't actually think they exist.
Multiple definitions here; your examples are more like "female dog shields". I was referring to something else. Basic principle is that if you're in a relationship, it's better not to just supplicate to a woman if she asks you to do something you find unreasonable, like if she doesn't want you hanging out with your friends--and man, that sh*t happens sometimes. You don't want to come off as weak, and it's all right to stand your ground. She may lose respect for you if you don't. If she's really controlling, you probably don't want to be there (depends on the situation, obviously).
Determine what is acceptable to you, and do that. Do not feel forced to use gimmicky touches or lines or do things in a manner opposite to your nature. Honesty and bluntness works if a woman finds you attractive, in fact it works very well and completely gets rid of all the nonsense.
Confidence! Takes confidence to be honest and blunt. And don't be a phony. Just like the good dating experts recommend.
Yes, being good looking is a big help, but once you've dressed and groomed, it's good to focus on being confident and socially appealing (i.e. having fun), and communicating that you're interested.
(Yep, the text wall is how I roll, too!)