aspieandconfused_87
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Hello All,
So there's this girl at work I was crushing on pretty hard, shes pretty, nice to talk to, actually seemed interested in what I had to say, and would even come to me and talk to me out of her own will, and I felt a connection with her, we have chatted off an on here and there. I couldn't tell if she was just being friendly or was actually interested in me in anyway, or just bored and I occasionally kept her entertained now and then, and truth be told now that I think about it the only time she really ever talked to was when she was bored.
Anyways one of my coworkers told me recently that she was newly single as he went to school with her in the past and follows her on social media, so I was like ok this is my chance to maybe get a little closer to her and see if anything could happen, a few weeks back I was trying to arrange for me her and maybe 1 or 2 coworkers to go out to lunch together, I was trying to talk everyone into a noodle place but she didn't feel good from drinking to much the night before (tells me she likes to drink to much sometimes and party, not really my thing) and was really wanting Pho (Vietnamese noodle soup for anyone who doesn't know what it is) and I already knew I didn't want Pho as it wasn't good to me.
Anyways so she started talking to one of the other guys that is apart of my team when I was trying to make plans, once she said she really wanted Pho he was pushing the idea presumably because he likes it as well I looked at the menu and nothing looked good so I decided that I wasn't going, I guess she wasn't getting that I had no interest in going and before they left she asked me if I was ready to go and I informed her that I wasn't interested, she seemed a little disappointed and they left.
Anyways fast forward to yesterday and she is basically sitting on his desk I overhear them chatting and I caught bits and pieces and she goes "yeah lets take a walk" and they get up and leave together, then I looked out the window a few minuets later and they are getting in his car and leaving, they where gone for an hour or more, when they finally came back she had something in her hand looked like either some kind of tea or maybe Japanese Kit-Kats not sure, and then this morning she comes in a a little while after he does and had just came down from getting breakfast I presume and walks straight up to him and offers him some food, and then this evening they seemed to be leaving together, she again came straight up to him and waited for him and he asked her "are you waiting on me?" and she happily says yes, and she hung around and waited like 10-15 minuets for him and they left together, so yeah pretty sure they are in some way seeing each other, and they are being pretty damn obvious about it.
She as usual tried to say hello to me this morning, obviously she would, why would she feel the need to act any different as I doubt she was even aware I liked her or had any interest in her beyond a work colleague/friend, I didn't really look at her and coldly said "sup" and then basically didn't pay any attention to her the rest of the day and she must have felt something as she didn't really make any effort to talk to me the rest of the day, then right before her and the guy left tonight she kind of paused and said bye and in a hopeful friendly way, I again coldly said bye, I assume she turned around and looked at me but I didn't look up at all, I know I am being a little immature, it's not her fault I never said anything or that she is possibly seeing someone else in my department, and I mean he is more confident, and attractive then me, so its only natural that she would be attracted to him, plus they are both asian so he already had an advantage. But I don't know that is just how I deal with stuff, I will get over it eventually, but I think it bothers me more that she is seeing him specifically cause he is the typical douchey extroverted bro-y type that girls seem to like, especially younger women, so I am not surprised but a little disappointed and annoyed and what is worse is that she and him are not really making any effort to keep it on the DL and being pretty blatant about it.
So why would I want to talk to her or be friendly? Why so I can watch you hang on someone else? Nah I am good, I would rather just pretend you are just any other stranger off the street, I will help her and be cordial when needed but I am not going to be her friend or have casual conversation with her anymore, I just do not see a point, she is just like every other girl and no longer anyone special in my eyes.
Sorry for the book lol I like to give a lot of detail,
Your feedback is welcome.
So there's this girl at work I was crushing on pretty hard, shes pretty, nice to talk to, actually seemed interested in what I had to say, and would even come to me and talk to me out of her own will, and I felt a connection with her, we have chatted off an on here and there. I couldn't tell if she was just being friendly or was actually interested in me in anyway, or just bored and I occasionally kept her entertained now and then, and truth be told now that I think about it the only time she really ever talked to was when she was bored.
Anyways one of my coworkers told me recently that she was newly single as he went to school with her in the past and follows her on social media, so I was like ok this is my chance to maybe get a little closer to her and see if anything could happen, a few weeks back I was trying to arrange for me her and maybe 1 or 2 coworkers to go out to lunch together, I was trying to talk everyone into a noodle place but she didn't feel good from drinking to much the night before (tells me she likes to drink to much sometimes and party, not really my thing) and was really wanting Pho (Vietnamese noodle soup for anyone who doesn't know what it is) and I already knew I didn't want Pho as it wasn't good to me.
Anyways so she started talking to one of the other guys that is apart of my team when I was trying to make plans, once she said she really wanted Pho he was pushing the idea presumably because he likes it as well I looked at the menu and nothing looked good so I decided that I wasn't going, I guess she wasn't getting that I had no interest in going and before they left she asked me if I was ready to go and I informed her that I wasn't interested, she seemed a little disappointed and they left.
Anyways fast forward to yesterday and she is basically sitting on his desk I overhear them chatting and I caught bits and pieces and she goes "yeah lets take a walk" and they get up and leave together, then I looked out the window a few minuets later and they are getting in his car and leaving, they where gone for an hour or more, when they finally came back she had something in her hand looked like either some kind of tea or maybe Japanese Kit-Kats not sure, and then this morning she comes in a a little while after he does and had just came down from getting breakfast I presume and walks straight up to him and offers him some food, and then this evening they seemed to be leaving together, she again came straight up to him and waited for him and he asked her "are you waiting on me?" and she happily says yes, and she hung around and waited like 10-15 minuets for him and they left together, so yeah pretty sure they are in some way seeing each other, and they are being pretty damn obvious about it.
She as usual tried to say hello to me this morning, obviously she would, why would she feel the need to act any different as I doubt she was even aware I liked her or had any interest in her beyond a work colleague/friend, I didn't really look at her and coldly said "sup" and then basically didn't pay any attention to her the rest of the day and she must have felt something as she didn't really make any effort to talk to me the rest of the day, then right before her and the guy left tonight she kind of paused and said bye and in a hopeful friendly way, I again coldly said bye, I assume she turned around and looked at me but I didn't look up at all, I know I am being a little immature, it's not her fault I never said anything or that she is possibly seeing someone else in my department, and I mean he is more confident, and attractive then me, so its only natural that she would be attracted to him, plus they are both asian so he already had an advantage. But I don't know that is just how I deal with stuff, I will get over it eventually, but I think it bothers me more that she is seeing him specifically cause he is the typical douchey extroverted bro-y type that girls seem to like, especially younger women, so I am not surprised but a little disappointed and annoyed and what is worse is that she and him are not really making any effort to keep it on the DL and being pretty blatant about it.
So why would I want to talk to her or be friendly? Why so I can watch you hang on someone else? Nah I am good, I would rather just pretend you are just any other stranger off the street, I will help her and be cordial when needed but I am not going to be her friend or have casual conversation with her anymore, I just do not see a point, she is just like every other girl and no longer anyone special in my eyes.
Sorry for the book lol I like to give a lot of detail,
Your feedback is welcome.
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