shysnail
Well-Known Member
I have a friend who I haven't spoken to for almost a year now. When we were still talking, I was flaky and let him down a number of times. I feel really bad about this now. Sometimes it seems almost impossible for me to reply to messages people send me, but then I forget to do it entirely, and then too long has passed and it would be awkward to reply now. That whole scenario.
My friend is autistic, and has always been very open to discussing it. I am also autistic, but it's a very recent thing that I'm open to discussing it. I've never told him I'm autistic, but would like to do that now because he is the only autistic person who I know in my day-to-day life. My main problem is I know that he's a very reliable person and he's spoken badly in the past of flaky people (rightly so). To suddenly pop back up in his life now with just a friendly, "Hey, how are you?" doesn't acknowledge the elephant in the room, i.e. my past behaviour and how it may have affected/annoyed/upset him.
How do you send a message to someone you haven't spoken to in a long time, when it's entirely your fault you haven't spoken in so long?
My friend is autistic, and has always been very open to discussing it. I am also autistic, but it's a very recent thing that I'm open to discussing it. I've never told him I'm autistic, but would like to do that now because he is the only autistic person who I know in my day-to-day life. My main problem is I know that he's a very reliable person and he's spoken badly in the past of flaky people (rightly so). To suddenly pop back up in his life now with just a friendly, "Hey, how are you?" doesn't acknowledge the elephant in the room, i.e. my past behaviour and how it may have affected/annoyed/upset him.
How do you send a message to someone you haven't spoken to in a long time, when it's entirely your fault you haven't spoken in so long?