How To Attract Women Without Saying Anything! 😎

[Rodafina]

Autistic women...at least from this small sample...seem to be polar opposite from nearly every neurotypical woman…

If this is true, it seems like valuable information for the autistic men here who are struggling to find a partner.

Go for the autistic gals! Don’t categorize us as second best.

I know that two autistic people in a relationship can run into unique challenges, but seeking another autistic person sure seems like a good idea to me considering the specific struggles that men here have shared throughout the forums.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

If this is true, it seems like valuable information for the autistic men here who are struggling to find a partner.

Go for the autistic gals! Don’t categorize us as second best.

I know that two autistic people in a relationship can run into unique challenges, but seeking another autistic person sure seems like a good idea to me considering the specific struggles that men here have shared throughout the forums.

Agree! 100%

Obviously, my wife and I have taken full advantage of our differences for the betterment of us both. I have mentioned more than once, we compliment each other...or jokingly...the two of us make one good person.

However, "considering the significant struggles that men here have shared throughout the forums" is exactly the response I would have come up with...you just posted it before I did. Perhaps there is something valuable to be learned here...and used for the betterment of two people trying to find "that special someone".

Perhaps...maybe...autistic women, in general, operate on a different set of values when it comes to a potential male partner in life. Perhaps...maybe...autistic men, in general, might be looking for love in all the wrong places and not paying attention to what's right in front of them. Food for thought.

 

[RemyZee]

So, if actor Henry Cavill (Superman, The Witcher, etc) or Chris Hemsworth (Thor, etc.) was interested in you, you'd turn that down. A lot of other women would be thankful for your rejection.

Perspective: People don't like rich people...until they are rich themselves and are living that lifestyle. Until then, it's pretty easy to prejudge and be jealous about things they might not understand fully.

Hmmmm...superman? DOn't think so. I grew up in a huge house with a marble staircase. My father a surgeon made lots of money. I started resenting, then despising my parents' wealthy friends and children from around 11 years old. I found them to be cruel, and stupid and despised how superficial they could be,. My parents would have big cocktail parties, where people wore suits and expensive dresses, there was decorum and all these weird expections about what people were supposed to wear and not wear, what you were supposed to talk and not talk about--no one considered not wealthy was ever invited. I never liked those things, in fact couldn't stand them, and as an autistic person there was no way to negotiate and deal with all the pretenses. I dreamed all the time about moving away to a place where I could belong (definitely didn't belong with wealthy people). Wound up working in homeless shelters for a few year--didn't have anything. Lived in a community of people who were in a commune, hippies. Now I live very modestly, wouldn't have any reason for hanging out with the upper class, and actually don't really ever meet rich peeople. But I like it like this. Superman? Nah. I don't like his tights.

 

[VictorR]

...bum lowest person on totem pole That's how guys measure each other. your position on the hierarchy...

Sorry for going off topic, but I'd like to note that the idiom is incorrect and for the First Nations of the Pacific Northwest, the bottom position on the pole was an honoured one, often considered the most prestigeous, for they held up the rest.

The Debunker: Is It Bad to Be the "Low Man on the Totem Pole"?

I understand that inaccurate portrayals and stereotypes of First Nations culture were quite common into the mid-20th century, and that it can take time to unlearn things.

I invite readers, in the spirit of reconciliation, to take the opportunity to learn more about other cultures so that you may have a better appreciation for them and avoid repeating inaccurate portrayals and stereotypes.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Sorry, not in habit of looking up idioms,

 

[VictorR]

Back on the topic, as @FayetheADHDsquirrel stated, everone is themselves, with their own personalities, and preferences.

Trying to change who you are in hopes of building a connection of any sort, that's just masking, and potentially building a connection on a foundation of lies, which will fall apart sooner or later.

In certain communities/demographics, certain traits may be considered attractive and result in someone getting attention without having to say a word. But what is attractive in one community may be unattractive in another. And even then, to loop back to Faye's point, a majority does not mean everyone.

Something that folks should consider is to be wary of projecting their own ideas of desirability onto others.

For example, when it comes to body image, "Women overestimated the thinness that men prefer in a partner and men overestimated the heaviness and muscularity that women prefer in a partner."

Source: https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/bjop.12451

It can be easy to forget in a media intensive world that the carefully curated looks we see are often unrealistic.

At the end of the day, most folks, whether romantic or platonic, are looking for someone who is caring, interesting, and able to care for themselves, however they may define those attributes.

 

[Judge]

Trying to change who you are in hopes of building a connection of any sort, that's just masking, and potentially building a connection on a foundation of lies, which will fall apart sooner or later.

When I discuss masking, in my own case it's always on a relatively superficial level. Simply to avoid controversy or misunderstandings. Not intended to deceive people or present myself as someone I am not. Just to make minor adjustments in a real time conversation to keep the peace and little else.

However I would look differently at a conscious attempt to accommodate and manipulate someone for romantic purposes over time amounting to a form of subterfuge, IMO.

From my own perspective, there are distinct differences between the two. Yet another aspect of life in 256 shades of grey, rather than black and white rationale.