Kayla55
Well-Known Member
I have twins and I've worked so much to get framework of house fixed, everyone in own school, twins finding own identity. Maintaining the routine with extra murals and friends.
I thought by having fairness, open communication and generalised good standard to raise children I had it figured out. But my NT son won't listen to when turn wash dishes, being cheeky. I vaguely realise that I'm lacking rat system in house,
Discipline is revoking priveledges like TV game
Rewards are based on achievement at school etc.
I think it's difference in thought patterns, and I can't seem to change way I operate to a rat system whereby I constantly feed rewards as I seem to just do certain things that must get done without this (not sure if I'm saying what I mean)
When I say disrespect, it's my nice us a weakness or I don't sit in front couch hogging control and enforcing dominamce - it's as though I'm just living in la la land.
I lack motivation to go out and bother with socials anymore. Even if it's volunteer for school cake sale or PTA or anything,
I never bother to smile or talk to people anymore,
Maybe I'm just beyond tired of taking reigns and having zest I had when I was younger. I'm tired of coming up with solutions and being disrespected. I just prefer to be alone.
I thought by having fairness, open communication and generalised good standard to raise children I had it figured out. But my NT son won't listen to when turn wash dishes, being cheeky. I vaguely realise that I'm lacking rat system in house,
Discipline is revoking priveledges like TV game
Rewards are based on achievement at school etc.
I think it's difference in thought patterns, and I can't seem to change way I operate to a rat system whereby I constantly feed rewards as I seem to just do certain things that must get done without this (not sure if I'm saying what I mean)
When I say disrespect, it's my nice us a weakness or I don't sit in front couch hogging control and enforcing dominamce - it's as though I'm just living in la la land.
I lack motivation to go out and bother with socials anymore. Even if it's volunteer for school cake sale or PTA or anything,
I never bother to smile or talk to people anymore,
Maybe I'm just beyond tired of taking reigns and having zest I had when I was younger. I'm tired of coming up with solutions and being disrespected. I just prefer to be alone.