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Feeling like I dislike most people?

Butterfly88

Butterfly88

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My mother and I were having a conversation and she thinks I don't give new people a chance. But I am not the average person so I don't like hanging out with everyone. Does anyone else feel like they dislike most people?
 
I've had this sensation a lot in the past. Now, I try to look past it, but I still don't meet many people I actually like, and even when I think I have I still run up against a deal-breaker. I content myself with the belief that it's mainly the local culture--afterall, I'm a gayish-bisexual autistic in a town that politically matches up with Lindsay Graham--but sometimes I wonder if it actually really is me.
 
It isn't so much that I dislike most people, it is that I am good at picking up patterns of behavior that I know will lead to antipathy and/or dislike between us, so this can come across as dislike or not giving people a chance. Sometimes I still try to give people a chance, but 99% of the time, my initial correction is correct and I find that I would have been much better off without a particular encounter.:confused::(:mad:
 
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I find the most time progress in my life, the more I have dislike with people. I learn to accept I don't agree with most of society views and interests. It can be very lonely but something I have to accept.
 
I find most people annoy me in some way, in terms of their attitudes or opinions. So it's sometimes hard for me to like people. But at the same time, I like most people. It's confusing.
 
I do not know if I would call it dislike so much. I just do not want to associate with people who are not anything like me. That includes most everyone that I have encountered. There are only so many Aspies around and I do not know any(other than my youngest son). I will say that if I dislike everybody, I am not prejudice about it. I dislike everybody equally.
 
It's not usually people I dislike, but their behaviour, but sometimes there are personality clashes, too.
 
I think we are a bit right to not like so many people because so many people are very cruel and selfish, and maybe even us for at least one of those things too ironically. However, it is up to us to assimilate enough so that we can survive in this ugly world we live in too.
 
It's not that I dislike people per se, it's just that I don't have much in common to speak of with most people. When that is the case, all that is left to talk about is mundane chit chat, and that runs my patience thin rather quickly. The reason that I do not care for the small talk is that it serves no real purpose for me, and distracts me from doing something productive.
 
OrSomething said:
I find most people annoy me in some way, in terms of their attitudes or opinions.
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Most people believe they're often right and forget that what they believe is only an opinion, not fact. But that doesn't stop them from telling you that this is bad or that is good or that you should try this etc. I rarely trust someone who is said to be a really nice person because every 'nice' person has an ugly side of some kind. I rarely get into arguments (that I see so many others easily fall into) because I'm always willing to give the benefit of the doubt, show basic respect and do people favours, I'm never really nasty but obviously lack something to be considered a friend by many.
It becomes all too easy for me to dislike others (women especially, in the romantic sense) and most efforts to establish friendships end quickly.
 
I often feel angered by the priorities other people have, which seem so messed-up to me. I don't understand how they can do things that are hateful and feel justified in their actions. Also how hypocritical they are, saying something is important and then acting in the opposite manner. The people I like are ones whose values aren't at odds with my own (they don't have to be the same, just not in direct conflict) And who are willing to try to understand me, because I put forth so much effort trying to understand others and it's really discouraging when the effort isn't reciprocated. I think that's what I really dislike, not the people themselves but their confounded behaviors and all the effort I have to expend to try to comprehend it all.
 
Butterfly88 said:
My mother and I were having a conversation and she thinks I don't give new people a chance. But I am not the average person so I don't like hanging out with everyone. Does anyone else feel like they dislike most people?
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It's not a question of disliking someone but I know pretty early on when meeting someone if there is a potential for any kind of connection . If I don't feel it , I don't engage with the person much unless I have to such as with a coworker .
 
I often feel the same - that I don't really like most people. I'm ok with people having different views or beliefs, but would agree with the comment from tfwo that I have no patience for the mindless chit-chat most people seem interested in. It's hard to find anyone who I feel a true connection with. Then again, maybe it's me that just doesn't give anyone new much of a chance to get to know me. Just meeting new people is a challenge in itself, as attending social events are my worst nightmare. As a result, it can certainly be a lonely world.
 
I've been there before. I got some wise advice from my therapist. He advised me to think of things that I am grateful for. I don't love myself when I have a hardened heart. I just become bitter and cynical. I find that focusing on things in my life that I'm grateful for makes me feel less inclined to dislike.
 
Humans are scary. Enough said.

One on one individuals can be great but not all of them. As a group, no thank you, I don't like humans in general, they scare me. Get mobbed by them one too many times and, you'll understand, not a good thing.

I mean yes I love my fans but, come on, there has to be a way to teach personal space boundaries to crowd mentality.
 
IDK, I guess I'm afraid of people in general, more-so in a public environment. I'm somewhat comfortable around family, close friends, and my church family, but if I do any group things, it has to be a small gathering (ideally, between 5-10.) But for the most part, I don't like people in general.
 
I can definitely relate to not really liking people very much. I guess it's more like indifference than contempt.

Recently I've been trying to force myself to be more sociable, mainly for networking with other local musicians within my own age range... I am already fed up with it and I've only been out to one open mic night so far.

The main problem with the open mic night was, my friend who was running the sound for the event introduced me to one of his female friends (honestly, I don't know what he was trying to accomplish but he introduced me as the "handsome and supremely talented multi-instrumentalist, singer/songwriter and teacher"), who then kept following me around involving herself in every little interaction I had with anyone else and responding to things I said to other people as if she thought I said them to her, which was so annoying I had to leave within about 20 minutes...
 
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