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AprilR

AprilR

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  • AprilR
    I am trying to not trust people too much even though it makes me feel alone
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Loneliness is better than being used
    AprilR
    I am craving french fries and onion rings so much.. But my diet..
    S
    Slime_Punk
    If your diet allows for it, you could always fry up some onions and potatoes in olive oil!
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I could try that maybe, (alas i have already ordered some chicken and fries)
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Lol. Onion rings, French fries, sign me up. Lol
    AprilR
    I can't do this any more. My employer is too angry at me and i feel like the only solution is to quit before things get ugly.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Sorry. Can you schedule a exit interview, damage control? Explain that you didn't have the needed resources to effectively do your job? My attorney was in trouble for not canceling expensive medical appt that wasn't needed. But he left firm and now is a first circuit judge. Good luck , try to center yourself, and get thru this.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    He also got in trouble for letting me sit in on a deposition. Attorneys are human.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Another coworker is quitting already so i might not be able to for a while.. Yet again.
    AprilR
    I cried at the office today. My employer was very angry at me, my coworkers noticed and tried to comfort me. I just burst into tears
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    Kavigant
    Kavigant
    The work environment, in which so many people get so stressed out, and in which there are so many insensitive people, can be such a mine field for ND people.
    It can be so hard to spend the day feeling buffeted by other people's reactivity.
    I hope that you are able to soothe and recharge from such a difficult day.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Thank you so much. I feel grateful for this job actually, i really learnt a lot. But no one understands how difficult it has been, and they misjudge my abilities
    Kavigant
    Kavigant
    In some ways, we ND folk live in a private world with secret challenges. That can be so hard.
    That's why I've been so thankful for this forum. The other folks here "get it" and I feel less isolated.
    AprilR
    The guy whom i thought was shy invited me to his home. I am angry at myself for even considering dating him. He is basically looking for a hookup
    AprilR
    AprilR
    And i explicitly told him i am NOT comfortable with meeting in a home environment
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Oh boy. That happens a lot l am afraid. That describes 75% of them.
    AprilR
    I feel very stressed at my job. Wanting to quit for the.. Nth time but idk how my employer will react
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Have you thought about applying elsewhere?
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Yeah its always at the back of my mind. If everything continues like this i will get fired anyway
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Then maybe consider applying elsewhere then you can feel better about this. Feeling helpless, and stuck, just keeps you in a rut. You can always apply and chose whether to accept. Sometimes my best jobs came because l was in a job l hated, that pushed me to apply elsewhere. :)
    AprilR
    People really don't understand how low social intelligence affects me and they expect me to be normal. I had enough of it
    AprilR
    I keep hoping i am wrong about people. If everyone is really as cruel as i imagine to be i am too scared to live in this world
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    When l think about things l have come thru with family, etc., it's incredibly shocking and disheartening. I have lost faith in the general public, because cruelty exists on more levels, and for many different reasons that l can comprehend. So now l try not to think about it.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I encountered a lot hatred towards woman in Florida. I never experienced this in Hawaii, MN, CA. In AZ, there was no rights for native American woman. Quite sad. In Mexico, there are numerous reports of woman and children being killed and dumped.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I feel too naive and dumb for this world as an autistic woman. I cant understand when someone lies to me and people's behavior is downright unpredictable to me. They get angry very easily.
    AprilR
    The guy who flirted with me a few weeks ago apparently sent flowers to my friend also. People sure do move on fast lmao
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I guess for these type of people these things are pretty easy. They seem like aliens to me and emotionless
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    He is a serial flirter. Some men just flirt with every female they meet, because they just need one yes.
    AprilR
    People's takes on relationships and attachment styles really baffle me. Some people can even like multiple people at the same time which is repulsive to me
    AprilR
    Why is it that i get hurt when someone loses interest in me when i know we are not even compatible with each other..
    AprilR
    My only friend understands nothing about me. People here dont seem to comprehend the idea that "social intelligence" exists and is a thing
    S
    Slime_Punk
    I definitely think this world would do a lot better if we focused on emotional intelligence over regular IQ as well. The way things are (and are measured) breeds a strange level of narcissism and ignorance that ends up ultimately hurting people
    AprilR
    AprilR
    That's true too but what i meant was, they think everyone has the same social intelligence they do. That they have normal friends, have relationships, can connect and make friends easily. They dont understand the difficulties we face bc we can solve math problems
    BobbiSueEllen
    BobbiSueEllen
    Understand that well. Autism is a weird thing: it reduces most of us to very few friends...or even one. And even they can have difficulty "getting us" at times. The saddest hallmark of autism is its biggest one: solitude...kinda like how Brain describes it on Arthur.
    AprilR
    I got lost yet again and i am so late for work.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    When i ask for the bus stop please direct me to a bus stop dont say "oh its so close you can walk" Because i get lost bc i have no sense of direction like you people
    AprilR
    The more i force myself to do things instead of overthinking the better i feel
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Feel like a sim sometimes. Wash the dishes/clean the house=positive feelings
    AprilR
    Once again disappointed with someone i thought i liked. People show their true colors pretty fast. I feel alone.
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    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Taking chances on connecting with people is so hard. Full respect to you for trying.

    Sometimes, it’s better to know early on instead of getting all caught up in things before you realize who you’re dealing with.

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    AprilR
    AprilR
    Thank you very much. You are right to say it is better to know stuff early on. The guy seems sexist and old fashioned as most men i know are
    elgat0verde
    elgat0verde
    I am sorry things did not work out, but it's just one dude, dude...

    There are 8 billion people in the world and one bad apple does not define a whole orchard

    The right people are out there and as @Aspychata said you ain't alone!

    You've got you :)
    AprilR
    My only friend might also like my crush. I can already see where this i going lol.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Hopefully i am wrong as it would be very awkward since she was the one who introduced us and tried to play matchmaker
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Oh dear. That's bizarre. What a twist.
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