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AprilR

AprilR

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  • AprilR
    The guy whom i thought was shy invited me to his home. I am angry at myself for even considering dating him. He is basically looking for a hookup
    AprilR
    AprilR
    And i explicitly told him i am NOT comfortable with meeting in a home environment
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Oh boy. That happens a lot l am afraid. That describes 75% of them.
    AprilR
    I feel very stressed at my job. Wanting to quit for the.. Nth time but idk how my employer will react
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Have you thought about applying elsewhere?
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Yeah its always at the back of my mind. If everything continues like this i will get fired anyway
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Then maybe consider applying elsewhere then you can feel better about this. Feeling helpless, and stuck, just keeps you in a rut. You can always apply and chose whether to accept. Sometimes my best jobs came because l was in a job l hated, that pushed me to apply elsewhere. :)
    AprilR
    People really don't understand how low social intelligence affects me and they expect me to be normal. I had enough of it
    AprilR
    I keep hoping i am wrong about people. If everyone is really as cruel as i imagine to be i am too scared to live in this world
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    When l think about things l have come thru with family, etc., it's incredibly shocking and disheartening. I have lost faith in the general public, because cruelty exists on more levels, and for many different reasons that l can comprehend. So now l try not to think about it.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I encountered a lot hatred towards woman in Florida. I never experienced this in Hawaii, MN, CA. In AZ, there was no rights for native American woman. Quite sad. In Mexico, there are numerous reports of woman and children being killed and dumped.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I feel too naive and dumb for this world as an autistic woman. I cant understand when someone lies to me and people's behavior is downright unpredictable to me. They get angry very easily.
    AprilR
    The guy who flirted with me a few weeks ago apparently sent flowers to my friend also. People sure do move on fast lmao
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I guess for these type of people these things are pretty easy. They seem like aliens to me and emotionless
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    He is a serial flirter. Some men just flirt with every female they meet, because they just need one yes.
    AprilR
    People's takes on relationships and attachment styles really baffle me. Some people can even like multiple people at the same time which is repulsive to me
    AprilR
    Why is it that i get hurt when someone loses interest in me when i know we are not even compatible with each other..
    AprilR
    My only friend understands nothing about me. People here dont seem to comprehend the idea that "social intelligence" exists and is a thing
    S
    Slime_Punk
    I definitely think this world would do a lot better if we focused on emotional intelligence over regular IQ as well. The way things are (and are measured) breeds a strange level of narcissism and ignorance that ends up ultimately hurting people
    AprilR
    AprilR
    That's true too but what i meant was, they think everyone has the same social intelligence they do. That they have normal friends, have relationships, can connect and make friends easily. They dont understand the difficulties we face bc we can solve math problems
    BobbiSueEllen
    BobbiSueEllen
    Understand that well. Autism is a weird thing: it reduces most of us to very few friends...or even one. And even they can have difficulty "getting us" at times. The saddest hallmark of autism is its biggest one: solitude...kinda like how Brain describes it on Arthur.
    AprilR
    I got lost yet again and i am so late for work.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    When i ask for the bus stop please direct me to a bus stop dont say "oh its so close you can walk" Because i get lost bc i have no sense of direction like you people
    AprilR
    The more i force myself to do things instead of overthinking the better i feel
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Feel like a sim sometimes. Wash the dishes/clean the house=positive feelings
    AprilR
    Once again disappointed with someone i thought i liked. People show their true colors pretty fast. I feel alone.
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    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Taking chances on connecting with people is so hard. Full respect to you for trying.

    Sometimes, it’s better to know early on instead of getting all caught up in things before you realize who you’re dealing with.

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    AprilR
    AprilR
    Thank you very much. You are right to say it is better to know stuff early on. The guy seems sexist and old fashioned as most men i know are
    elgat0verde
    elgat0verde
    I am sorry things did not work out, but it's just one dude, dude...

    There are 8 billion people in the world and one bad apple does not define a whole orchard

    The right people are out there and as @Aspychata said you ain't alone!

    You've got you :)
    AprilR
    My only friend might also like my crush. I can already see where this i going lol.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Hopefully i am wrong as it would be very awkward since she was the one who introduced us and tried to play matchmaker
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Oh dear. That's bizarre. What a twist.
    AprilR
    Is it crush anxiety i am feeling or regular social anxiety? I dont even know
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I want to see my therapist as soon as possible
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Do you get to choose what anxiety you want?
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I would prefer if its crush anxiety haha
    AprilR
    Going on a date on the year 2023 as an autistic woman in a third world country..
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Don't forget to have fun. Laugh, giggle, and tell stupid jokes. Lol
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I had a good time, he seems like a cute person. I dont see myself having a relationship with anyone though and it is making me confused
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You may not see yourself in a relationship, but I think your limbic brain (reptilian - the seat of emotions) is saying to you . . . "Gee, that was nice." I hope he follows up.
    AprilR
    Dating is hard when you have no idea what someone else is thinking
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    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Maybe just take it one step at a time and don’t run away just yet. I don’t really know… I’m not good at relationships. I just thought it might be worth a try to see where this goes.
    oregano
    oregano
    I agree with you, @AprilR. I don't like it when people recognize me. I don't want to have any relationships of most any kind because they quickly end badly. Not to mention the threat of physical harm when they do. I don't know anybody where I live, and I like it that way.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I pray to God that people dont harm me physically. I am emotionally damaged as it is
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