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  • Is it normal to act a little bit different than you are to find a common ground with a friend?
    All-Rounder
    All-Rounder
    I notice you are acting for their sake, but where is the enjoyment for you? You will exhaust yourself and give up eventually if you don't take care to do enjoyable things for you with her. Worry less about her and take care of your needs in the friendship for now. Having friends should be fun and enjoyable for you.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Secrets are okay. There are somethings that are your business only and most friends are on a *need to know basis*. Sometimes we trust to easily, so a boundary of not over-sharing is important to our surival.
    Joshua the Writer
    Joshua the Writer
    The only friend I didn't to do this with when I wasn't open about my Autism very much was with my friend, Nate, who was in the same sped class as I was in middle school. I started to do this less as I began to accept myself more.
    Has thinking about what I asked made you panic less:*)
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I think i am able to block the panic either way, because if i don't drive the public transport situation will make me stressed. I will panic about having the virus and passing it to to my parents.
    Do you think thats enough to block out panic,it was for me it wasn't stressless though and I was 27 at the time
    I will start learning to drive in a week. I am so scared..
    Streetwise
    Streetwise
    The reason I tried to learn to drive was because my mother was paralysed, why are you learning to try to drive?
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Because when i start working i don't want to use public transport as it is too crowded/ risky.
    My parents are also getting older and i don't want to depend on them to take me everywhere.
    I can't sympathize with illogical people
    Karamazov
    Karamazov
    Undoubtably.
    My mother-in-law interprets everything she’s aware of in the world as messages from god to her and her church... Not very logical (and pretty obscene when it comes to wars and famines and so forth), but she’s happy in her own little world.
    Existence as a story book that confirms one’s sense of self-worth I guess.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I don't think being a religious person automatically makes someone illogical, but Yeah there seems to be a lot of religious people like that.
    Karamazov
    Karamazov
    No, religion in and of itself is not necessarily illogical, nor is religious belief required to be illogical... just the illustration that occurred to me in the moment. ;)
    I am soooo confused i feel like i am not capable enough for this job!
    AprilR
    AprilR
    They didn't talk about a trial period, and i am not sure if there will be someone who helps me. Although my cousin's friend does work there, and my cousin told me that he is a nice person.. But i still don't want to bother people.
    Oh and there is a cat in the office! This is one of the reasons i am seriously considering the position haha.
    BenderRodriguez
    BenderRodriguez
    LOL I hear you!

    Maybe it would be possible to ask them if they can assign someone to assist you in the beginning? Phrase it as not so much as needing help, but them being able to make full use of your abilities faster if someone gets you up to speed with things ;)
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Good advice! My cousin did say her friend can help me at first, and she would support me too. (she is also a lawyer)
    And the person who interviewed me also seemed very nice.
    They didn't call so maybe that's for the best..
    Karamazov
    Karamazov
    Have you had the call?
    How did it go?

    (It’s 7am Tuesday where I am... so in my head it should definitely have occurred ;p )
    AprilR
    AprilR
    The interview is scheduled for today there is literally less than one hour! I'll let you know how it goes.
    Karamazov
    Karamazov
    Ah! Okey dokey: good luck :)
    Why are some people unnecessarily mean?
    Karamazov
    Karamazov
    Yes: I was never directly bullied.
    What happened was I was told I didn’t need to attend meetings which everyone else was going to, and given “advice” on my projects that was actually sabotage.

    So, yes... always attend meetings, and never do anything on the advice of someone who may see you as competition for the next promotion that comes up.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Well, the law offices here are not really like companies. The offices i worked before had only 3 or 4 people and there were all lawyers. Some offices have a secretary and that's it.
    There are large companies that have their law department but they are very few, even if there is i don't think there are any people concerned with bullying.. .
    Karamazov
    Karamazov
    That’s about the same size as the construction design company I worked at: 4 technical designers, one financial secretary, one general secretary, one site manager, one engineering consultant and the manager/owner.

    It was only one of my fellow three junior designers who set to undermining me with those tactics.
    Trying not to have emotions. Emotions suck!
    tree
    tree
    Maybe pushed around by something that is hard to control. Like you are being manipulated?
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I am so in agreement. Sometimes l hate feelings. Too much muck. To much thinking.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    Yeah i sometimes logically understand i don't deserve to feel this way but can't help it.
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