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Markness

Markness

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  • Markness
    Do I need to become a “bad boy” or “jerk?”
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    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You just need to up your charm. First learn to recognize body language and social communication. I now know that I was blind to such and could not recognize if a girl/woman was interested in me. Sorting things out I began changing when I once thought as you did but realized that I never acted to offer women a choice.

    S
    Slime_Punk
    It's really hard to be somebody you're not for an extended period of time. You have to make small changes gradually, otherwise your ego will slap you back down and make you feel ashamed for being the jerk you so desire to be when you do something that hurts someone's feelings.
    S
    Slime_Punk
    I don't recommend becoming a jerk, but if you dedicate yourself to it, you can change your entire persona and make it stick if you nurture the process.
    Markness
    I worry that I may be unlovable. :(
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    Gerontius
    Gerontius
    Markness, if you are like your online self in real life, the flood of self pity is not looking good on you. Ignore "detractors" and read Dale Carnegie
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I don't feel unloved by people I interact with. They are usually friendly to me.
    Judge
    Judge
    I'm inclined to think that someone has to really get to know you over time to make such a conclusion.
    Markness
    I want a better life but I am worried it’s too late for it to actually get better.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Same here.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    I want a better life, so I’m going to make it happen.

    I am no better than you, we just have a different attitude in this way.

    If you want it, do it. Never too late.
    Markness
    Do my detractors want me to hate myself?
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    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    NO, they do not, because they see that you have cornered the market in self hate, already.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    your "detractors" are likely only noticing your self doubt.
    tree
    tree
    Many of your so-called detractors on this forum, are in fact, fervent supporters.
    But you don't appear able to see that.
    Markness
    It’s so hot today. I don’t want to go back out until it gets darker.
    tree
    tree
    That makes sense.
    When I lived with my mother in Louisiana, I used to
    wait until late afternoon/early evening when the temp
    was 90 or less before going for a walk.

    The trees also shaded the road by then.
    Markness
    I feel blue again and tears are forming in my eyes.
    L
    Luca
    I’m having the same type of day. I’m sorry you’re suffering too.
    I’m here if you need to vent, as always.
    Markness
    I’m stuck on an assignment that is due tomorrow night.
    S
    Slime_Punk
    I'm usually against cheating, but is it something Chat GPT can help with?
    Markness
    Markness
    I don’t know. It’s a very specific research paper that requires quoting from official articles.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    I wouldn’t recommend cheating. Don’t waste your time cheating, just buckle down and do it. You usually get it done.
    Markness
    I don’t fit in even with other autistic people.
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    Markness
    Markness
    @tree I keep getting rejected or ignored when I attempt to socialize.
    tree
    tree
    I don’t have a girlfriend, I am not talented at anything, and I am a social pariah.

    One of those statements is a fact.
    The other two are opinions.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    @Markness I am not talented in anything. I can't sing. I tried to play the piano so many times and gave up everytime. Also I can never get a girlfriend either.
    Markness
    I feel cheated from my college experiences.
    Raggamuffin
    Raggamuffin
    Our expectations bruise the ego when life doesn't turn out how we'd hoped.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    My college then eventual dropout experience was the worst part of my life. I wish I could forget it.
    tree
    tree
    @Markness

    I expect you're talking about the unrealistic social expectations your
    family has regarding college? You don't mean your classes have been
    less than instructive, right?
    Markness
    Had to watch the front desk for an hour and some patrons got testy with me.
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    tree
    tree
    At the library I go to most often, the place to return books is right next
    to the front desk. Sometimes one of the people working the front desk
    immediately picks up the returns and takes them away, leaving the
    other person to mind the desk. There are generally 2 people at the desk.
    Markness
    Markness
    @tree The work area I am in became short staffed and the only other person who was still on the clock had to cover for someone upstairs so I was alone.
    tree
    tree
    What is a 'turn-in slot'?

    Is that like place near the front door or something?
    Our library has a built in drop area at the front door
    and a drop box (like a mail box) at the back door.

    And the wheeled shelf that sits next to the front desk,
    which I mentioned yesterday.
    Markness
    I did something against my better judgment.
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    tree
    tree
    You told yourself some familiar stories?
    Markness
    Markness
    @tree I did and the fact I am turning 35 makes the feelings even stronger.
    tree
    tree
    No, the fact that you'll be 35 on your next birthday doesn't make the feelings of inferiority stronger.
    The fact that you keep telling yourself that you're a loser does.
    Markness
    My social security deposit came in. I used some of it to get some of my credit card paid off, put some in my savings account, and will use some to get my car’s oil changed.
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    Markness
    Markness
    @Aspychata I also don’t want to keep getting stuck in corners.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I just wiped out my credit card this week.Two years ago, l wiped out 9000 dollars in credit card debit. I am a lot happier not sitting with so much debit.
    M
    Misty Avich
    And you call yourself a loser? I think not. You're a wonderful, intelligent, responsible, nice person. Just remember that.
    Markness
    I can’t see any options nor solutions for my struggles.
    tree
    tree
    Try one thing at a time.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Hey sorry to hear that. I could use a few solutions myself. We just keep moving forward - okay Markness?
    Markness
    *tears forming in my eyes*
    AdamG
    AdamG
    The main thing is, you cannot study if you are stressed. Do something else, stim or cry or eat or whatever. And then you can study faster and better than ever before.
    AdamG
    AdamG
    I like crying because it is both emotional, and the sobs are stimming to my body as I shake. But some people don't like to cry.
    Markness
    I’m probably going to flunk this college course.
    V
    VictorR
    Have you talked to your instructor and/or an academic advisor about whether withdrawing from the course might ve an option perhaps?
    tree
    tree
    @Markness
    Why are you thinking you'll fail this one?
    What's going on?
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