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Lou Laurinen

Lou Laurinen

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  • Lou Laurinen
    Sounds like there are (military?) helicopters flying around outside, I wonder what the heck is going on. It's 4am. But weird stuff happens here all the time, like some of you probably remember when I posted about having to report a small private plane that was having difficulty landing. Par for the course when you live near a major international airport, I guess.
    Lou Laurinen
    I've been experimenting with my webcam for the past couple of hours. Turns out that when I speak on video, it's just verbal diarrhea, much like my long, sometimes chaotic posts on here. Oh well, at least it gives me a reason to practice talking.
    Judge
    Judge
    Better you than me! I hate the sound of my own voice. Always have...
    Lou Laurinen
    A question for the tech wizards on here: Do any of you know how to use the built-in webcam on an Asus VivoBook 17? I tried all the basics, like disabling/enabling it, installing drivers, etc. But nothing worked. It's not a big deal because I have an external webcam at home too but I'm just annoyed that it isn't working.
    Lou Laurinen
    Wow, I have been here for a year and a half! Thank you all for welcoming me into this community, and helping me to learn and grow and make friends, which I will continue to do! Hopefully I've been helpful and taught you things as well. One of my biggest missions in life is to show that no dream is truly unachievable, and I will keep being that annoying driving force of hope and positivity until the day I die lol
    Outdated
    Outdated
    Everyone gets what they give in life. You will never be without friends.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Thank you! That means a lot to me. If I'm being honest, I have made more meaningful and memorable connections with some people on here than I have in real life. You will never be without my friendship either @Outdated
    Lou Laurinen
    I don't get how people can watch true crime content without crying. I try to avoid it because it overwhelms me with sadness. But I'm definitely just really sensitive in general, since animal rescue videos make me sob too. Like I've said before, I have such a big heart that it overwhelms and hurts me sometimes. I know it's good to be empathetic and I wouldn't want to *not* be empathetic, but it can be painful.
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    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    I don't watch true crime (or animal rescue for that matter) as I'm not really into it, but as a fellow empathetic person, I can watch and read about distressing issues or events by dissociating, and going into "analysis" mode.
    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    Some stuff is bad enough to get through that however, like long form interview with people who have suffered terribly or lost people dear to them. Of course the quality of the interviewer (or writing if they are divulging their experience directly) matters a lot in terms of emotional engagement.
    Judge
    Judge
    I majored in crimes at the highest level. Totalitarian systems and mass authoritarian movements. Where the number of dead can be staggering. What really gets to me though isn't so much the history of such events, as that they are still happening in the present.
    Lou Laurinen
    The actual 5k was unfortunately postponed, so I took all of my dogs for our own 5k walk today. It was a very warm and sunny spring day so it was perfect.
    Lou Laurinen
    I’m scared to post this but I’m being brave because I always want to be 100% authentic with you guys. So this is what I look like with makeup washed off, no filter, after a shower and getting ready to go to bed. It’s good to be yourself!!
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    Lou Laurinen
    I braided my hair and it didn’t come out terrible (for once.) It helps to have long hair even though not all of it is my natural hair. I probably have over a foot of actual hair but my extensions make it 28”
    Lou Laurinen
    Okay, I’m back. I needed a couple of days to recalibrate. I’m feeling much better now and hopefully I can continue to be helpful to everyone here!
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    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    But just to be clear, it's great that you are feeling better and I'm always happy to read your posts. I just don't want you to put unneeded pressure on yourself.
    Atrapa Almas
    Atrapa Almas
    Hugs. I hope your medics will help you recalibrate with the adecuate dosis of hormones/medicines. Sometimes we are not aware how much of our thinking and emotions depends on chemicals.

    Meanwhile, I wish you to be on the safer side and do a lot of self care. Its perfectly ok if you focus on yourself untill you feel better.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    You were never gone from the kind thoughts of your friends.
    M
    Luca! Luca! Luca!
    Lou Laurinen
    I'm sorry for posting anything in the last few months that has offended or triggered anyone. Don't take anything I say too personally right now, since I had a hysterectomy in October and I'm going through both sudden menopause, and HRT. My emotions are completely out of control. Sometimes I cry or get angry for no reason. Obviously not an excuse for me to say anything offensive but I'm struggling emotionally.
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    Atrapa Almas
    Atrapa Almas
    And even if you hurted someone like I do from time to time, you must compare how many people you help vs how many people you hurt. So if I (not always so) accidentally hurt someone for every 100 people I help, well, Its not like the end of the world. That hurted person may recover the next day or push the ignore feature.
    Atrapa Almas
    Atrapa Almas
    We all have some real life problems to face. One wrong line written accidentally by Luca cant ruin our days. You are giving too much credit to your "hurting others" capabilities. You are actually a helper.
    Kisa the tea
    Kisa the tea
    You've never posted anything bad from what I've seen on my short time here. You seem to be a very nice and caring person. Please try not to put all the blame on yourself for how you feel.
    Lou Laurinen
    Still not feeling up to posting a lot, but I started with a new therapist today and it was extremely productive. I think I will be able to get a better handle on my anxiety and emotions.
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Like fungi. I keep growing. Lol
    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    Your therapist's advice sounds very useful. I am pretty skilled at dissociating my emotions from what I'm seeing, but going too far in that direction can also present problems. I hope you'll find a good balance.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Thanks Luca. We struggle but we keeping marching forward. Warriors all alone fighting our battles.
    Lou Laurinen
    I need a couple of days to cool off but I will be back. I’m sorry. I know my emotions get the better of me a lot. Being overly empathetic and sensitive is a curse. Every time someone’s feelings (or my own) are hurt it feels like a stab in the heart and I take it way too personally.
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    Mr. Stevens
    I was just coming to post that I hope you're okay. I hope the break helps :)
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Do what you need to do, Luca. You are one of the people here who I see as strongly advocating for themself, so it comes as a surprise that somebody has broken through the strong-willed woman I see. Take care of yourself. Know that there are people here who value you.
    AprilR
    AprilR
    I hope the break helps you also. For the record, you seem very sweet and kind and i can't imagine you saying or doing anything that hurts someone.
    Lou Laurinen
    I will keep my private messages open but I’m taking a break. Possibly a very long one. I have a lot of stuff to think about. I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone but I need to work on finding in-person support, and I need to find a community of other LGBTQ+ people. If anyone wants to stay in touch, I will still be responding frequently to PMs. But I’m exhausted.
    Lou Laurinen
    It is 4am and I’m wide awake because I am suddenly in pain for no reason. Why does this always happen at the worst times?
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Not that there is ever a good time to be in pain lol but it always happens in the middle of the night…
    Atrapa Almas
    Atrapa Almas
    Wish you to recover soon. I sometimes have breathing issues at nigth. So I go to sleep very early, to have extra sleeping time just in case.
    Lou Laurinen
    I’m done making discussion threads. I will stick to media content and commenting on other topics from now on. I always end up doing the wrong thing somehow. This is absolutely my fault, I’m not pointing the finger at anyone.
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    Loren
    Loren
    I rarely speak my mind, but, in doing so, I inadvertently may have caused this. Unrelated to comments regarding children, my disheartenment was with the person's judgement of the shoppers. Every walk of life in this world is valid, and shouldn't be spoken about in such a way. I could not see his comments and say nothing. I am sorry if this is what you are referring to, here/ what upset your thread.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    It’s not your fault, Loren. You have not done anything wrong and we already discussed this. You’re fine :)
    I just don’t ever want anyone’s feelings to get hurt.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Think just start your post with a request, ***l would like to stay on topic with this post, thank you in advance**People can always start their own post instead of going south with your post.
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