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Asperger's & Autism Forum
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Do other people with the same special interest intimate you?
I've honesty never met another autistic person with a special interest in meerkats. Well just meerkats. I know someone else who claims they may be autistic but also likes the other mongooses. But then I've never met an NT with even a casual interest in meerkats. I got cyber bullied on a Lion King fan fourm (my other special interest at the time), I kinda leaned just because someone claims to have something in common with me doesn't mean they actually do, or at least not to the extent I do. Meerkats have essentially become my identity. "Meerkat Queen" is actually my nickname among a few people who know me personally. Now I just need a signature clothing style set and Netflix series. -
New diagnosed teenager very depressed
Hi
My daughter got her official HF ASD diagnosis just before xmas , she is 13 , we knew it was coming for the last few months , she has had noticeable mental health issues since eleven years of age . She masks a lot , struggles with school interactions and has been missing a lot of school . But since her diagnosis she has shut down , hasn't left her bed in days , won't talk about it , can't sleep , won't even interact with her family and is suffering anxiety and dizzy spell . She hasnt left the house all xmas . Keeps saying she wants to move country or die .
I am sick with worry . She is seeing a therapist . I want to know how to help her . Is this normal on the back of a diagnosis ? I know I can't push her but I need to help bring her out of this depressive episode . She is not interested in reading about her condition or engaging in with others on forums . She doesn't really have any real friends or special interests . She use to read a lot but stopped that when pandemic... -
Is my friend avoiding me?
Hello I’m new, and I’m having a bit of a crisis. I feel very confused and quite upset as I don’t know what to do. I know that this year has not been great for everyone, and I do understand that maybe my friend (disabled but NT)whom I have known since first year university may also be feeling overwhelmed by what the year has brought into her life but... I feel like she’s been avoiding me.
We haven’t had a proper conversation...as in she’s constantly active on the computer for most of the day due to her being house bound,,,and more so now because of the More stringent lockdown in her country. Nothing really has changed that much for her as she doesn’t work and only socializes online even before Covid.
I understand that maybe she has things to deal with herself. But...when she’s been online she’s not responding to my messages, and when she does it’s been pretty sparse. It started to decrease in activity from July, and then sporadically until the last message I received from her... -
Not sure what to make of this.
Throughout my Christmas with my parents, my mother could literally not go two minutes without making commentary about how much she wished I would shave my beard off. I keep my beard well groomed and well maintained, but she made it perfectly clear that she wants me to be her Ken doll and that she believes I should not have a beard at all.
Earlier today, I told her I would not shave it off. She replied by saying that I was the only person who was making a big deal out of it. What a narcissist she is.
There is no way to talk reason with people like this. They reject reason when it gets in the way of what they want. I cannot confront her about anything she says or does, because she will respond with lying to my face and telling me I remember things differently than they actually happened. I cannot win with her. -
Evolution of Asperger, Bipolar people and psychopaths
Hypothesis: Modern humans use the emotional mechanism that was originally developed to regulate the behavior of children versus adults to regulate the behavior of people in hierarchies. Aspergers are to emotionally adult to fit in.
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I am a bipolar women– I have strong emotions which switch back from very happy to very sad. I have a high IQ too. I know from my friends that the Asperger can focus much better and especially longer on a task than me. So if there is someone interested in evolution I wonder if he could help me to order my thoughts and find error?
I have some hypothesis of how the difference between Asperger, bipolar people and primary psychopaths roughly came about in evolutionary terms.
My main intention is to stop the psychopaths because I think they represent an unfavorable (and pretty dumb) line of evolution that is unluckily winning now.
When it comes to Aspergers I have the opposite instinct, although I really don't understand them very well yet.
I made a... -
Does anyone else here actually ENJOY some social interaction? [Warning: A NOVEL]
OK, I know this thread is gonna seriously call my "Aspie cred" into question, and in some people's opinions, may even disqualify me from being on the spectrum altogether. But ever since I was diagnosed in 5th grade and started researching this enigmatic condition more thoroughly, I've gravitated toward almost all traits that comprise Aspie-ness. The scientific community loves to slander people on the spectrum as being physically incapable of empathy, but in my case this couldn't be further from the truth. Recently, I've come to reconcile my identity as an autistic person with my own ambitions (and growing ability, I'd like to think) as an increasingly-independent and socially involved adult.
In other words: I crave contact with my existing friends and meeting new people, yet still consider myself an Aspie. I never asked to be "big man on campus", but nor do I think it's realistic (or even healthy) to be an absolute lone wolf. I certainly don't want to be considered part of... -
Why is not wanting friends a bad thing?
I never really cared about making friends. Other kids typically annoyed me and the only humans I were ever close with were my mother and older brothers. Human beings my own age confused me and I probably confused them. When I realized a friend wasn't someone I could lecture to about my special interests, I had no interest in these friend things; at least ones of the human variety. My dogs, horses and bearded dragon were my best friends. Humans were also mean for no reason.
But not having human friends was always looked upon as a bad thing. Most of my friendships are online with autistic people of similar interests in zoology or veterinary medicine. Once the interest is over, usually so is the friendship. -
Early reading and social skills
Are there any diagnosed auties or aspies who read fiction as children and could socialise and tell people's intentions?
I ask because I feel really guilty.
I learnt to read at two.
As I was a an early talker and bright, out of nappies at 1, and a late walker, my Dad used to focus on my shortcomings.
It wasnt his fault, he had a sadistic streak and narcissism from early abuse.
I gave up reading, which made my mum really sad.
In my early life at two when reading, I remember loving nature, and my mum being empathic and loving.
Not once did she bully or pressure me into reading, she was proud and though I was gifted.
Part of narcissism is that you cannot be outshone as it is too painful for you, which is why my Dad belittled me and talked about my shortcomings.
This is why I gave up reading.
Had I of kept reading, I knwo I would still be autistic as I Was born with it, but I would have had the intuition to know what he was up to, if reading gives autistic kids cognitive empathy.
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Advice Appreciated
Hi,
This is my first time posting, in any forum ever. I appreciate advice from anyone, as I do realize that a lot of what I am asking is very general, and not necessarily tied to his condition. English is not my first language, so sorry for any typos, and if any clarification is needed, please let me know. Thanks in advance to anyone that might have any advices for me.
I am a 24 year old NT woman, who met a 24 year old man with high functioning aspergers. He told me about his condition himself. I don't know when he was diagnosed, but he is very high-functioning. We dated for 6 months. I have to admit that I did not really do any research on his condition in the beginning, because the signs were totally absent for the first months. After roughly 3 months of him being extremely intense, I started to feel like he lost interest, but I never had the courage to confront him about it. We just stayed a little less in touch, and I usually initiated small-talk. He continued to ask if we... -
Dietary deficiencies and supplementation
I know a lot of us have somewhat restricted (or very restricted) diets. My diet sucks, because I tend to only eat one thing per meal (such as an entire box of mac & cheese that's intended to serve 4 people as a side dish) and in general just do not have a varied diet at all. (I eat out a lot because of the pandemic...doordash almost every day. Which might be marginally better but not much lol.)
I've tried to fix it a few times...eating healthy becomes my special interest which I get bored with after a couple weeks or maybe months, and I'm back to not really wanting to put in the effort for food and eating something crazy like...an entire bag of frozen peas (and nothing else) for dinner.
Lately I've realized I'm probably deficient in a lot of stuff, and that's screwing with my mental health (neurochemistry and how the body creates neurotransmitters and what it needs to do so is my new special interest right now lol. So I realized I'm probably deficient in both tryptophan and B...
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