Younger son had fun yesterday, I came out to him too

[Aproudmom]

Younger son had yesterday, he had a male to female makeover done and I got his ears pierced. He loved it trying on different looks keeping the wigs and clothing starting of his female wardrobe. Now have a part time daughter named Erika. I even came out to him, told him I came out as bisexual at his age and he now knows he is no longer alone. Told him I have LGBTQ friends he would love to meet whom would accept him in with open arms. Told him one is my friend Tracy whom is a pre op MTF transsexual that grew up having Autism diagnosed at age 8. I called her to come over and she came over telling her story to him and was relieved he has someone to talk to now. He even asked me how I knew that I was bisexual. Said it was discovery knowing I liked boys and girls at age 15. Both of my parents did not accept it at first and took them time to realize this was me. I told him he will always have my support.

 

[oregano]

Great, we all need to have our parent(s) behind us. I personally would worry about accidental misgendering, especially if he's still on the fence about his gender ID. I think you can buy "pronoun buttons" on Ebay that he can wear so that everybody knows how to gender him correctly. I find that it can be difficult to know how to gender people especially in Ashland where there are lots of gender fluid people due to the presence of the university.

 

[Matthias]

Younger son had yesterday, he had a male to female makeover done and I got his ears pierced. He loved it trying on different looks keeping the wigs and clothing starting of his female wardrobe. Now have a part time daughter named Erika. I even came out to him, told him I came out as bisexual at his age and he now knows he is no longer alone. Told him I have LGBTQ friends he would love to meet whom would accept him in with open arms. Told him one is my friend Tracy whom is a pre op MTF transsexual that grew up having Autism diagnosed at age 8. I called her to come over and she came over telling her story to him and was relieved he has someone to talk to now. He even asked me how I knew that I was bisexual. Said it was discovery knowing I liked boys and girls at age 15. Both of my parents did not accept it at first and took them time to realize this was me. I told him he will always have my support.

I'm glad you accept your son and had a good time with him. However, it sounds like your son might be suffering from gender dysphoria, which is a form of self-hatred (hating one's gender specifically). This self-hatred often drives people with gender dysphoria to pretend they are the opposite gender. In extreme cases, if left untreated, it can even lead to a delusion where one believes they are the opposite gender.

Science has shown that self-acceptance is very important to mental health and that pretending to be someone you're not is very harmful, such that people with gender dysphoria who don't learn to accept themselves for who they are (meaning their God-given gender) have a very high rate of suicide. Therefore, I urge you to seek out a good therapist who can evaluate him for gender dysphoria. If he has it, try to find someone who is skilled at identifying and treating the root cause of this self-hatred so he can overcome this disease before it ruins his life. Too many people with gender dysphoria hated themselves so much that they mutilated their own genitals or tried to kill themselves to cope with their emotions. That's why therapy, from a therapist who is both accepting and honest, is essential to reduce the risk of these complications.

I wish you and your son the best.