Plumeria
Well-Known Member
Hi AC friends,
I haven't posted in awhile but I'm doing better -- I still miss my Aspie but I'm just letting time heal my heart and hope that one day he will still reach out to me. I've been wondering though … I've read a lot of books and posts about NT/AS communication. On one hand, NT's must be specific about their needs and wants to their AS partner but I also read that some Aspie's become overwhelmed or think that their parter becomes too "needy." At what point does asking for what we (NT's) want become too needy? I ask because NT's and Aspie's need for space and communication are different.
I know in an NT/NT relationship, constantly asking for what you want can be looked at as "needy." But we might have to do this in a relationship with an Aspie if he is not able to remember. Some things also considered needy are insecurities which requires the partner to "check in", constantly calling/texting, taking over your partners Facebook page, checking your partner's voicemails/emails, having to see each other all the time and discussing marriage too early. I'm sure these would be considered needy in any relationship. Some NTs thrive on having constant communication via text/IM/email/phone calls throughout the day….would that be too much to ask from an Aspie?
I'm hoping that I'll have another chance with my ex and if I do, I want to make sure that I am clear to him about my needs without becoming too "needy."
I haven't posted in awhile but I'm doing better -- I still miss my Aspie but I'm just letting time heal my heart and hope that one day he will still reach out to me. I've been wondering though … I've read a lot of books and posts about NT/AS communication. On one hand, NT's must be specific about their needs and wants to their AS partner but I also read that some Aspie's become overwhelmed or think that their parter becomes too "needy." At what point does asking for what we (NT's) want become too needy? I ask because NT's and Aspie's need for space and communication are different.
I know in an NT/NT relationship, constantly asking for what you want can be looked at as "needy." But we might have to do this in a relationship with an Aspie if he is not able to remember. Some things also considered needy are insecurities which requires the partner to "check in", constantly calling/texting, taking over your partners Facebook page, checking your partner's voicemails/emails, having to see each other all the time and discussing marriage too early. I'm sure these would be considered needy in any relationship. Some NTs thrive on having constant communication via text/IM/email/phone calls throughout the day….would that be too much to ask from an Aspie?
I'm hoping that I'll have another chance with my ex and if I do, I want to make sure that I am clear to him about my needs without becoming too "needy."
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