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I don't know.
I thought something similar, but managed to not
post it because I figured it would add nothing
of substance to the thread.
It's really kind of silly, the "virginity problem."
I did consider that this is a serious thread about a serious concern ... but I couldn't resist. I hope I didn't derail the serious conversation.
Not to mention all the people talking about how great and oh-so-wonderful sex is lying straight through their teeth.
No, you didn't.
If virginity did run in the family, there'd be no family.
You are a wise and consistent moderator. I try to follow your example, but base instincts get in the way. (No sarcasm, to be clear. Which is a good disclaimer on these forumsI don't know.
I thought something similar, but managed to not
post it because I figured it would add nothing
of substance to the thread.
I am not sure what is so funny, I did not write this thread as a joke.
I must reiterate that I am not offering to volunteer to say that I am a virgin randomly. Since this a help forum, of course I can state this when I type. But I do not talk like this in public. On a forum I am anonymous and no one here knows me personally--in meetups clearly people know me face-to-face and my real name and how I look. I think that some here are getting the wrong idea that I am the one who is actively going up to people and telling them that I am a virgin. That is not the case.
Where I live, there are four types of questions that you will almost certainly be asked, and often each meetup I would not be surprised if you were asked them a few times. These questions are:
1) What do you do? (i.e. what is your job)
2) questions about your sexual history
3) questions about your relationship history
4) What are you? (i.e. what race are you)
It's apparent that in this crowd, people are at least tentatively scouting for romantic/sexual partners. I see nothing wrong with that, but declining to answer should always be acceptable.
Well, your answer IS a little rude. But you already know you are going to be offended before you even go there.... so why keep going?"Why are you asking that? That is none of your god-damned business." he said how rude I was for not answering, and that it is a normal question.
So is your virginity problem more of a social one than a sex one? Meaning you don’t care about or necessarily want sex, you just want to be able to tell people you are not a virgin when they ask?
Well, your answer IS a little rude. But you already know you are going to be offended before you even go there.... so why keep going?
Instead of your stock response of being offended, or earlier in your life, answering honestly, what are some other ways to reply?
You could prepare a stock answer such as "38% Latino, 52% Asian, 100% awesome!" or some other joking reply. Same to the virginity question. "You virgin, bro?" - With a grin, "Why? You interested?"
I'm merely suggesting that you have options. Either avoid these people, or have a response to these questions that annoy you, one that is a little smoother socially.