Updates the fire, my grandmother, our apartment, life

[Jenisautistic]

Hi everyone

Just wanted to say that things are not too well I am losing the apartment. I lived in it since I was a baby and for my grandmother's since the 70s although I do feel like this is the right move even though I have no choice I still think it's the right move. The thing is they took all of the stuff that was left on the fire in the apartment I guess and they threw it in storage also my grandmother is not doing so well. I know that soon will be the end and it's hard because not only am I losing her. I'm losing all that it's related to me and her if I cannot get my stuff or even if anything important or such as left, I don't even know how much damage was done

On the bright side, I'll hopefully be going into a different place. Maybe even by myself I don't know.

I'm still on the board and I'll be going to a few events there soon
I still working with my health and my doctors and stuff and there's an event from the CP center in October

I thought because I lived there and I have a disability I would be able to at least go in there to see damages and stuff, but they said the lease was only in my grandmother's name so I didn't even get to see the aftermath or choose anything to go back to me or the storage or whatever they just took it out and put it in there I am distraught, but I am also hopeful for a new life..

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

Oh no. I am so very sorry.

I am sending you a private message.

 

[Aspychata]

That's very stressful, your grandmother and your home. Oh boy, l wish l could send you a huge teddybear to comfort you. My grandmother was my mother, she was the closest thing to a real mother. Feel free to DM me. It sounds like some life changes coming up for you.

 

[oregano]

Lighting the candle of St. Jude for you. He is the patron saint of hopeless situations and those who have no hope. I'm not Catholic per se but I do find comfort in a few saints. I recently bought a US Army ammunition box and went through all my stuff which I had already winnowed down and chose what I couldn't bear to lose in a fire. It was surprisingly not that much stuff. Lots of people lose everything in fires, I'm in California so wildfires are common here and a good chunk of the population has lost their lives to fire, from the poor to famous celebrities. Most people find the strength to go on.

 

[Mary Terry]

@Jenisautistic - Can't your grandmother authorize the storage facility to give you access to the building so you can retrieve the things you want?

 

[Jenisautistic]

@Jenisautistic - Can't your grandmother authorize the storage facility to give you access to the building so you can retrieve the things you want

Unfortunately, I can’t as my grandmother is in a nursing home
And she is very sick they would say she is incompetent.

 

[Judge]

Unfortunately, I can’t as my grandmother is in a nursing home
And she is very sick they would say she is incompetent.

Reminds me of when my mother passed away and I had to retrieve her property in storage. They made me "jump through numerous hoops", but I was finally able to access her property and close the storage account.

But then as the trustee of her living trust, it afforded me a certain legal status that allowed me to overcome such things. Had she still been alive it would have complicated things considerably.

Makes me wonder if you can do some research to determine if your grandmother has any such legal conditions such as Power of Attorney in writing or an address and phone number of her attorney that might aid you.

 

[FayetheADHDsquirrel]

I'm so sorry.

 

[TBRS1]

I also am sorry. That is so hard.

 

[Aspychata]

Is it possible to get power of attorney once they are deemed as incompetent? You have to call in the expert at the forum here , @Mary Terry

 

[Aspychata]

I am sorry about your grandmother. From what you discussed here, she seemed like a beautiful supportive influence in your life.

 

[Mary Terry]

Is it possible to get power of attorney once they are deemed as incompetent? You have to call in the expert at the forum here , @Mary Terry

I'm no expert but I understand that grandmother must have mental competence to surrender her rights to someone else. If she lacks that, then a court can appoint a conservator or guardian to handle her affairs.