Spiller
Just.. WEIRD!
I was wondering, with many Aspies and Auties finding difficulty in making eye contact with others, if there is any correlation with our individual ability/priority to feel emotion and empathise. From other threads here on AC, I've noted that some of us are highly empathic and emotional (the Deanna Troys), myself included, whilst others don't see these traits as particularly important or, indeed relevent at all, preferring logic over feeling (the Mr Spocks).. my sister, who's also an Aspie would tend toward this way of being.. I've never micky-taken and called her Mr Spock though
I find eye contact difficult with people I can't form any emotional link with, my eyes begin to hurt and I have to look away to rest them.. with many people I don't have much of a problem.. but with a few, who I feel an empathic/emotional bond with, I want to maintain eye contact and enjoy the greater level of personal connection it engenders.
I'd be interested in others' thoughts on this issue, so here's a poll..
For purposes of definition:
(For those philistines who don't watch Star Trek.. I know, right? )
Deanna Troy - empathic/emotive.
Mr Spock - logical/rational.
Adequate - (in)sufficient to pass as acceptable within your culture.
Also, I've allowed the option to make two selections, as I'm a 'Deanna Troy' who can make eye contact, but it also depends on the person.
I find eye contact difficult with people I can't form any emotional link with, my eyes begin to hurt and I have to look away to rest them.. with many people I don't have much of a problem.. but with a few, who I feel an empathic/emotional bond with, I want to maintain eye contact and enjoy the greater level of personal connection it engenders.
I'd be interested in others' thoughts on this issue, so here's a poll..
For purposes of definition:
(For those philistines who don't watch Star Trek.. I know, right? )
Deanna Troy - empathic/emotive.
Mr Spock - logical/rational.
Adequate - (in)sufficient to pass as acceptable within your culture.
Also, I've allowed the option to make two selections, as I'm a 'Deanna Troy' who can make eye contact, but it also depends on the person.