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Social burnout and tiredness.

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by Tony Ramirez, Aug 13, 2019.

  1. Tony Ramirez

    Tony Ramirez Christian with Asperger's Syndrome

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    I have not posted much here but lately I just feel tired. I still attend Church and the various social groups however lately I have been attending less events. There was a big one that I did not even bother getting out of bed for.

    Why because I am starting to get tired being around them. They talk easily to them self's. Then they maybe say two words for me mostly stupid questions like "How was your day?" again and again and again really annoying. I do answer to the best of my ability but then after a few words I am ignored again while they chit chat with each other with ease. Really this gets quite boring fast.

    So now after a bad even with on Thursday life group I stopped attending it was a complete social outcast also there small talk about there grudge with there bosses and coworkers gets really irritable so I am not attending anymore.

    The only life group I like is the Wednesday group as they are more laid back and we chill playing board games or the Nintendo Switch which believe it does not require much or any stupid small talk.

    Now as for this Friday I will be attending the prayer group but I know there will be a lot of annoying small talk and "How was your day?" dumb questions so will answer and a few words later they will mingle with each other.

    So I am going to still attend social events but now I feel so tired that I won't be attending all of them maybe half or less except for the Wednesday group.
     
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  2. tducey

    tducey Well-Known Member It's My Birthday!

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    It's easy to be involved. My advice is to cut back on your # of activities. Find the one you like the mot and devote yourself to that.
     
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  3. Tony Ramirez

    Tony Ramirez Christian with Asperger's Syndrome

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    That is what I am doing. What is good about the Wednesday and Friday group is that they don't meet every week. Sometimes only once or twice a month. As for the other groups I am dropping them.

    It is just I had so much energy and motivation but lately I just feel over tired not even wanting to get out of bed some days forcing myself to walk after and even enjoyable tasks like going on the computer have been boring me but I am walking through it. It also does not help I am off Prozac which gave me too much energy.
     
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  4. Southern Discomfort

    Southern Discomfort Smarter than the Average Bear V.I.P Member

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    It's funny. I have a girlfriend who thinks the world of me, I love her to pieces too. She is constantly asking if I'm alright and, "Are you okay?" It's frustrating. It's starting to rub off onto other people saying the same thing for me. I don't ever expect some sort of explosion of emotion from this, that's not me. But it's annoying.

    We have had discussions about this and she's doing it less. But I think it's like a build up of it. And it's hard now to get back to a normal level.

    So yes, I understand your issue with small talk. Never thought it would be a problem for me but apparently it's became one.
     
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  5. SDRSpark

    SDRSpark Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I feel you on this. I met 3 new friends this past weekend. Which is awesome. By Sunday night I was so burnt out I didn't even want to write in my journal. Just didn't want to put thoughts into words.

    I have social engagements the next two weekends and I'm dreading it because I didn't get a chance to fully recover yet.
     
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    Sherlock77 Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I have a reasonably active life, but even I try to know my limits... I have at least one friend who seems to be hyper active in all his activities, and almost seems to try to make me look bad, I don't think he means it... But is constantly messaging me about his local adventures, at times when I know I don't really want to go out, yet wonder what I'm missing all the same...
     
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    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    Yes, this is my experience exactly with social groups, and the reasons why I rarely socialise these days. It's boring and pointless. I used to go to such social events but now I'd rather stay at home.
    This is a good solution. I don't think you need to attend all these social groups to practise your religion. I find it a lot easier to attend social events based on an activity, such as board games, than ones where talking is the only activity.
     
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    Khendra Well-Known Member

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    What church do you go to?
     
  9. Tony Ramirez

    Tony Ramirez Christian with Asperger's Syndrome

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  10. Fridgemagnetman

    Fridgemagnetman I only have one V.I.P Member

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    I get a bit of that

    Asking 'how are you' us a bit like NT version of tourettes,only emotions based

    How are you?
    Ok,but how are you now?
    How are you really?
    You didn't sound like you're okay.
    Shouts I AM OKAY.

    don't shout at me.
    Argument...

    I keep meaning to put some word cards on lollipop sticks and out them in my pocket.

    OK.
    JUST DANDY.
     
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