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Featured Parents of autistic child restrained by Police to sue

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by SimplyWandering, Aug 14, 2018.

  1. SimplyWandering

    SimplyWandering Well-Known Member

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    https://www.yahoo.com/gma/parents-s...ly-pinned-151609948--abc-news-topstories.html

    Found this to be an interesting story, with all the issues going on with the police (for those living in the US, I am sure other countries have similar issues.) How would you deal with your autistic child being disruptive at school? Clearly the police and school system were in the wrong.

    First and foremost was the responsibility of the school staff.
     
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  2. pamelaperejil

    pamelaperejil Non-player character

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    Wow. Just wrong.
     
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    Why did I click on the comments section for that story? I knew it was just going to be all forms of hatred towards people with autism. And yet I dared hope.
     
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    "seemingly" held down and handcuffed?
    I sense a bias.

    At least they've trained him to be calm, sometimes, in handcuffs;
    A valuable talent for Any American, these days.

    Maybe we've been wrong, all along;
    There most definitely seems to be treatment.

    smh
     
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    Sad, Ignorant, and terrible.
     
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    The question is how do you deal with your disruptive child at school?
    Parents, please understand, that society does not understand your child’s sometimes violent, aggressive, loud, screaming meltdown behaviors. Even though you might have given a de-escalation plan to the principle, or his teacher, that does not mean that all staff, or security/police, or bus drivers/attendants, or anyone else has the coping skills, knowledge, or experience to deal with meltdown extreme behaviors. The expectation that society should know what to do, or how to behave during a child’s extreme behavior is unrealistic. Sad and disturbing, of course.

    The chain of people your child deals with daily just do not have the education, patience, nor skillsets that you the parents of autistic children do. It’s easy to say how bad and abusive the people in these kinds of stories/videos are. Of course it’s heart breaking. But I listen to staff people that deal with autistic children, tell their stories all the time. School and bus attendants. Bus drivers. Teachers. How they get punched, kicked, bitten- and observe that happening to the other children - by the meltdown child too! I myself have been bitten badly by a 12 year old autistic female.

    Staff dealing with groups of children are on high alert all day long for the entire group of children. That’s the nature of all jobs involving cpkids. Your child might need a single person that is with him solely. A staff person who can watch for the first signs of discomfort before the meltdown. A staff person who knows your child and is not distracted by having to deal with 14 or more other kids too.

    No staff should expect to go to work and get screamed at, punched in the face, slapped, kicked, or have objects hurled at them. You might have years being used to it. You have had a long time to learn coping skills. If you have any ideas how to teach every single person he has to deal with daily (teachers, classmates, school bus drivers/attendants, cafeteria staff, etc about your child’s needs, please share.
     
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    AloneNotLonely Well-Known Member

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    Schools are re-education gulags.

    Guess they didn't get the memo.
     
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    The name Autism Speaks is difficult to attack on purpose. You can't call it Autism Reeks, because it looks anti-autism. Clever moniker there.
     
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    It seems to me a simple "Hey, go easy, the child has autism," on the part of the school staff should have sufficed.
     
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    That is impossible once the meltdown has begun, and staff or other children have been injured, or property destroyed. I mean in theory, you are correct, but humans have emotions, and things happen very quickly.
     
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    Ezra Comfortably Numb

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    If a parent did this to their kid, they'd get arrested.
     
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    Mary Anne: No such thing happened. He was hiding in a cubbyhole. They dragged him out. I'm going to quote part of the article:

    If the situation had been as you described, you would have much more of a point. But it just wasn't, as far as I can tell. Not remotely.
     
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    Matter of fact, leave autism out of it, it was simply unacceptable to have handled this this way, for ANY child under those circumstances. Autistic or not.
     
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    I was speaking COLLECTIVELY of all these types of incidents continually reported here in the forums, as well as ongoing in the media. Also, the original poster posed a question not inclusive of this article.
     
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    The OP didn't say anything about assuming the child involved was violent or endangering others.
     
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    We do not ever know the entire story. Media could not report it because schools are not allowed to divulge the entire story. So even discussing it, as with any child story in the news, is not getting all the facts.

    Besides, We need to discuss these ongoing incidents collectively, as they keep happening everywhere around the world.
     
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    If this was much of Britain I'd trust the police on balance to be fairer, but who knows?
     
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    There are police /autism incidents in Britain that are disturbing too. You can google them.
     
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