But I just can't help it. When you grow up like I did for all of your teenage and some of your young adult life with no friends. Then have fake friends for a few years, then of course you lose them. Then for 15 more years you have no friends. Then you start to make friends again you are going to get attached to them and start to want to be with them more and then once you get their contact number you are going to start to info, trauma dump on them until you know they are going to get tired. I think this is how I lost my first friend I made, Justin, but really, he never said anything really positive.
But what amplifies it and makes matters much worse is when I befriend women because of the way they treated me by ignoring me. This is the reason I think I should never get their contact number. I mentioned this way back, but there was this one-woman back pre-pandemic I got her number that I befriended, and I started to message. I was good at first, but then when the pandemic hit, we did not meet in church or in the group where we met. Not only that, but I was messaging her more to the point where after a few days she got annoyed and said to stop messaging her if she did not respond right away as she was busy. When I overshared something, she even said not to talk about it. So, I cut ties. I still talk to her whenever in church, so we are acquaintances but nothing else.
Now with this new female friend I meet at the coffee shop I am doing the same exact thing except she is much more tolerable. Really, she is. But I can just feel like she is on the tipping point, I know it. I once again messaged her four times last week which I should have not even though I said I would not. I don't know if it is me but when I talked to her at church today, she did not say much to me, felt more distant and then wanted to talk to my friend. As I said, maybe it was just me. She was still kind and even said I will see you next week. But I just that my over friendliness autism over sharing info trauma dumping self is ruining everything, and I just can't help it. It's all because of the way girls just like her use to give me dirty looks, walk away from me when I sat next to them, talk to anyone else and completely ignore me. Scarred me for life, now I do these things.
But what amplifies it and makes matters much worse is when I befriend women because of the way they treated me by ignoring me. This is the reason I think I should never get their contact number. I mentioned this way back, but there was this one-woman back pre-pandemic I got her number that I befriended, and I started to message. I was good at first, but then when the pandemic hit, we did not meet in church or in the group where we met. Not only that, but I was messaging her more to the point where after a few days she got annoyed and said to stop messaging her if she did not respond right away as she was busy. When I overshared something, she even said not to talk about it. So, I cut ties. I still talk to her whenever in church, so we are acquaintances but nothing else.
Now with this new female friend I meet at the coffee shop I am doing the same exact thing except she is much more tolerable. Really, she is. But I can just feel like she is on the tipping point, I know it. I once again messaged her four times last week which I should have not even though I said I would not. I don't know if it is me but when I talked to her at church today, she did not say much to me, felt more distant and then wanted to talk to my friend. As I said, maybe it was just me. She was still kind and even said I will see you next week. But I just that my over friendliness autism over sharing info trauma dumping self is ruining everything, and I just can't help it. It's all because of the way girls just like her use to give me dirty looks, walk away from me when I sat next to them, talk to anyone else and completely ignore me. Scarred me for life, now I do these things.
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