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"Oh you're just faking it!"

It did make determined to never treat anyone like that... ever.
It did make me determine to become the best version of me that was possible. It made me determined to become as intelligent as humanly possible and become something they couldn't dream of becoming.

That is absolute poetry!

My mother, though. When she gets upset with me she accuses me of having gotten "more autistic" on purpose since the diagnosis. "That is not what it was for!" she told me. I have cut all contact with my stepmother and most of the contact with my father, so they don't really have a chance to smugly inform me that they think I'm faking every little thing I do anymore.

Sadly, the right thing to do.
 
Yep. I have been there, done that, got a pile if tee shirts. Fortunately, I love my relatives, or they would be in trouble. An ex-friend said that, along with more comments in the same spirit. Scratch one friend.

Well, Alaska, it was their loss, I bet you would be a great friend. :)
 
Frankly I think one must be autistic to be able to determine who is "faking it" and who isn't. The rest is likely just an assumption usually based on insufficient or bad information.

LOL....sort of reminds me of an old movie about the first woman to be put to death by lethal gas in California. As she enters the gas chamber, one of the guard tells her to take deep breaths so it will be easier. And of course the condemned, Barbara Graham snaps back at him yelling, "How do you know?" ;)
 
Yeah, I had a housemate who said I just faked being autistic just to get away with doing whatever I want. My best friend bitched him out for saying that though, so I just ignored him after that.

He said my friend faked having trouble with English for the same reason, which is stupid.
 
I got called retarded as a little girl too. :( I hate that word. It's a horrible slur. People treated me terribly as a kid. The worst offenders being boys who took advantage of the fact that I missed social cues and often didn't know how to respond to stuff to torment me. I still don't entirely trust neurotypical men, even though I get along with them. The guys I knew as a girl had the mentality of hyenas, tearing apart anyone with any form of weakness or vulnerability.

I often sound bitter but that's because it's only in these recent years that I've come to terms with the idea that I've been treated wrong. I used to think I deserved everything I got as a kid. It's kind of liberating being angry when I used to be sad and self-hating.
 
Yeah, I had a housemate who said I just faked being autistic just to get away with doing whatever I want. My best friend bitched him out for saying that though, so I just ignored him after that.

He said my friend faked having trouble with English for the same reason, which is stupid.

Jerks tend to have a lot of different prejudices. I can easily see ableism and xenophobia based on English skill going hand in hand.
 
Way back when I was first diagnosed, I was looking up the condition on various websites, and someone from a US based wrestling forum I was on at the time found my posts and proceeded to post my personal; info all over the site without my permission! Hence my general disdain for Americans, because they started calling me retarded, said "I lived in a Bubble" and all that crap.
 
Being in the midst of diagnosis I get either end of the spectrum (no pun intended) of reaction. I haven't told a lot of people for this reason. I get "oh you're fine, this has to be something else. Just something other than, how could they have missed this for so long"....to incredibly understanding people, usually closer in age to me and closer in level of friendship.

I will say this for my generation, for all of the flack we get, there is an incredible love and acceptance that comes.

I have been trying to make my way in this world for almost 32 years. Through many bumps in the roads...not quite ever understanding myself and how I function. Finally starting to get somewhere and if anyone wants to down on that or not take the time to understand me in this time, then that's on them. I'll get through this on my own thank you very much...like I have been doing all this time without assistance.

There are going to be and are people who value you @AustinFrom1995 ....as you can see from this post. The ones that don't...well they can continue to travel down their NT road , lacking in knowing who we are and all the wonderful things we bring to people's lives...I like our road just fine. It may not have been the simplest, but it's ours. And people who take the time to get to know us, know that.
 
Never been told that about my autism(but it's kind of obvious because of my rather severe OCD)but I have about my depression. Ironically , that actually makes me more depressed. I am diagnosed with major depressive disorder. Plus bipolar. And usually a remark like "your just faking it" is met with a variety of "special" words that even a professional sailor/mechanic/construction worker wouldn't dare utter.
 
I have a so called "friend" who repeatedly complains about many of my traits and keeps saying that I do them on purpose, E.g. shouting (when I think I'm talking normally), going on about things / repeating, not listening to him (he says I'm deaf, but it's not that it's aspies), talking when he is watching something (he's watching something most of the time, even if it's just Youtube). I tell him it's Asperger Syndrome and he tells me to stop using that as an excuse. Yes it's not pleasant, but he still keeps inviting me round.
 
Have any of you other Auties ever been told that you were just "faking it" to get attention? Because recently someone told me that I wasn't really Autistic ("I'm too old"), and that I'm just "going through a phase and am just doing it for attention." This was, obviously, very hurtful, as I am actually autistic and have been diagnosed as such.

Yes, I love being rejected and thought weird. I am faking because I would just hate being in a loving marriage and have a nice job and friends. SHUDDER. I am faking all my troubles because wow, having a teeny weeny check that makes it so I have to live in a smelly room with a person who wants me to watch porn, wow.......sure. How it would SUCK to have a nice house and to be warm and have no anxiety about having enough food. No, this is the best.

TRULY, the stupidity of NTs makes me want to cry and puke at the same time.
 
Yes, I love being rejected and thought weird. I am faking because I would just hate being in a loving marriage and have a nice job and friends. SHUDDER. I am faking all my troubles because wow, having a teeny weeny check that makes it so I have to live in a smelly room with a person who wants me to watch porn, wow.......sure. How it would SUCK to have a nice house and to be warm and have no anxiety about having enough food. No, this is the best.

TRULY, the stupidity of NTs makes me want to cry and puke at the same time.

If thats a real description of your life I am very sorry you are in that situation... It makes me sad to be unhappy, but I also get sad to know that other people are living in a nightmare they would change in a heartbeat if possible... Some how some way it has to get better...

I finally got off to myself most all day today. It was the first time in what seems like a very long time.
No rain, no storms, no people, no need to go anywhere.

It was just a relief to not have anyone bothering me. I turned my phone off and just worked on my car and mowed the yard, cleaned house and did just tons of small things that I usually cant do... Thats all I need to find some peace and a state of happiness. I never ask for much, so when it all lines up its just like this tiny sliver of LIFE being right. I want that for you too... : )
 
I used to hang around a forum filled with similar types online due to a shared interest. They had me convinced that I could do anything I wanted, so I tried and failed. Their response was simply to cuss me out and tell me to try harder. Eventually they just banned me. Soon after that they apparently broke into cliques and went for each other's throats. (That seems to happen a LOT on forums peopled by really nasty NT's for some reason.) The forum no longer exists.

When I was in junior high the teachers thought I was an attention wh*re who loved to manipulate people to see their negative reactions. (For some reason, AS is frequently mistaken for psychopathy by NT's.) When they couldn't make me stop my "negative attention seeking" they perceived it as willful defiance.
 
If thats a real description of your life I am very sorry you are in that situation... It makes me sad to be unhappy, but I also get sad to know that other people are living in a nightmare they would change in a heartbeat if possible... Some how some way it has to get better...

I finally got off to myself most all day today. It was the first time in what seems like a very long time.
No rain, no storms, no people, no need to go anywhere.

It was just a relief to not have anyone bothering me. I turned my phone off and just worked on my car and mowed the yard, cleaned house and did just tons of small things that I usually cant do... Thats all I need to find some peace and a state of happiness. I never ask for much, so when it all lines up its just like this tiny sliver of LIFE being right. I want that for you too... : )

Thank you, Chance. You are a fount of kindness! You really are. I hope your wife comes to her senses and I predict she will.

Yes, I find great comfort in my books and family members who care about me and love me. When I go out and have to rub shoulders with NTs who are just plain stupid and can only partake of fly by relationships, I get upset.

I go to a place daily that i need to go, where the music is FULL BLAST and you cannot even hear your own music. You can't complain because people love it. It makes me so upset. And all the interactions are all "Hey!" "How are you?" And they do not want a response.

I decided just to be nice because I like people and want to make them happy. It makes me happy as HELL when I do SOME TINY THING and it makes one of the smile. And that is because I am not NT. If I know they have had a trouble, I think about it and want to help, but rarely does someone want my help. I figured it out. They just want to light smile, a funny laugh, a brief but pithy greeting, an upbeat HELLO and life is so good!

It is partaking of the shallow that pisses me of the most. Good lord, we live in such a complex world and all they want is bad music, a donut, and therapy.

THAT makes me upset.

But let me talk about Aristotle and the meaning of the word εὐδαιμονία and wow, JOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Thank you, Chance. You are a fount of kindness! You really are. I hope your wife comes to her senses and I predict she will.

Yes, I find great comfort in my books and family members who care about me and love me. When I go out and have to rub shoulders with NTs who are just plain stupid and can only partake of fly by relationships, I get upset.

I go to a place daily that i need to go, where the music is FULL BLAST and you cannot even hear your own music. You can't complain because people love it. It makes me so upset. And all the interactions are all "Hey!" "How are you?" And they do not want a response.

I decided just to be nice because I like people and want to make them happy. It makes me happy as HELL when I do SOME TINY THING and it makes one of the smile. And that is because I am not NT. If I know they have had a trouble, I think about it and want to help, but rarely does someone want my help. I figured it out. They just want to light smile, a funny laugh, a brief but pithy greeting, an upbeat HELLO and life is so good!

It is partaking of the shallow that pisses me of the most. Good lord, we live in such a complex world and all they want is bad music, a donut, and therapy.

THAT makes me upset.

But let me talk about Aristotle and the meaning of the word εὐδαιμονία and wow, JOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Aristotles description of humanities highest good... : )
γνῶθι σεαυτόν is one of my favorites and most everyone already knows this...
 
Yes, I love being rejected and thought weird. I am faking because I would just hate being in a loving marriage and have a nice job and friends. SHUDDER. I am faking all my troubles because wow, having a teeny weeny check that makes it so I have to live in a smelly room with a person who wants me to watch porn, wow.......sure. How it would SUCK to have a nice house and to be warm and have no anxiety about having enough food. No, this is the best.

TRULY, the stupidity of NTs makes me want to cry and puke at the same time.

I'm sorry to hear that. :( Why does that person want you to watch porn? Don't they know porn is nasty? :eek:
 
I'm sorry to hear that. :( Why does that person want you to watch porn? Don't they know porn is nasty? :eek:
Haha, To each his own, I say, but no I do NOT watch and I cannot stand even that garbage they like on TV...I hate tv anyway and do not even own one!
 
Haha, To each his own, I say, but no I do NOT watch and I cannot stand even that garbage they like on TV...I hate tv anyway and do not even own one!

Cable TV is a joke nowadays, I get no argument from me about that. :) I just use streaming sites.
 
Ironically aspergers is the only thing in my life that I'm not faking. Small talk, socializing, enjoying peoples company, being polite, smiling, having emotions. All of it, constant faking!

Logically, when people say things like "they're just doing it for attention", I think it says more about them than you. Typically when people insult other people, it's their own insecurities talking. If a girl at school bullies someone and tells them they are ugly, chances are that on some level the bully feels that she is ugly. So when someone says "faking it", chances are they either they are crying out for attention or they want to believe you are faking it. Either way, it's probably more about them.
 

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