Does anyone notice that regular people will make a “promise” or say they are going to do something and then not fulfill it.. and act like it’s alright to make false promises to people?
So, for example, say a friend says “hey, will see you next week, how about we go out to Italios for lunch bat 2:30”... then you agree on it. The day comes around and it’s radio silence.. no message to say “sorry I couldn’t go” nothing. (I have an acquaintance that sometimes does this)
Another example is... I have been put on an Internship - I was told that they would be flexible. I have to book accomodation. The leader agreed to contact me on the 24th for dates that I would need to book.. the 24th comes round and what happens? I receive an email discussing about my interview with no mention of dates.He then states that he will tell me at the group meeting.
And i’m thinking “you just said that you were going to tell me dates on the 24th, but you haven’t and you are denying that you said you would? Why?”
If I personally commit to something you can bet your bottom dollar that I am going to do it. And if I don’t i’ll be contacting you to apologise.
I will not commit to something and go radio silent on you.
Yet according to several people i’ve talked to, it’s normal for NT’s to say they’re going to do something, fully knowing that they’re not going to do it at the time? So why commit to something if you know your not going to fulfill the promise? Nobody has asked you to make that promise so why lie?
Infuriates me so much! Makes me feel so gullible and naive for taking them at their word. Why can people not just say “sorry.. won’t be going to.. today” it just beyond disrespectful to do this.
So, for example, say a friend says “hey, will see you next week, how about we go out to Italios for lunch bat 2:30”... then you agree on it. The day comes around and it’s radio silence.. no message to say “sorry I couldn’t go” nothing. (I have an acquaintance that sometimes does this)
Another example is... I have been put on an Internship - I was told that they would be flexible. I have to book accomodation. The leader agreed to contact me on the 24th for dates that I would need to book.. the 24th comes round and what happens? I receive an email discussing about my interview with no mention of dates.He then states that he will tell me at the group meeting.
And i’m thinking “you just said that you were going to tell me dates on the 24th, but you haven’t and you are denying that you said you would? Why?”
If I personally commit to something you can bet your bottom dollar that I am going to do it. And if I don’t i’ll be contacting you to apologise.
I will not commit to something and go radio silent on you.
Yet according to several people i’ve talked to, it’s normal for NT’s to say they’re going to do something, fully knowing that they’re not going to do it at the time? So why commit to something if you know your not going to fulfill the promise? Nobody has asked you to make that promise so why lie?
Infuriates me so much! Makes me feel so gullible and naive for taking them at their word. Why can people not just say “sorry.. won’t be going to.. today” it just beyond disrespectful to do this.