RabbitHeartedGirl
NT girl formerly dating Aspie guy
I'm NT dating an aspie for about 7 months, although we've known each other for years as friends. I understood there would be challenges dating him, however even having been friends with him and knowing his tendencies couldn't have prepared me.
To start, the beginning of our relationship was quite full of sex and intimacy. He is probably a bit more comfortable on this level than some aspies (at least as far as I've read so far). He fell into a pretty heavy depression several months ago that has spiraled pretty severely the past couple months. No sex, which is mostly fine, but then now no cuddling. He'll allow me to cuddle him but doesn't really reciprocate. He's been pretty deep into video games as well, which I'm really understanding about and rarely ever ask him to deviate from that unless i've specifically asked for plans otherwise ahead of time.
So even knowing as much as I know about aspergers and him and his behaviors in general, I'm having a really difficult time with his recent withdrawal. He's typically really direct and honest, so when I've asked if there is something wrong with the relationship and he says no, it's depression, I'm inclined to believe him.
My issue is I have no idea how to exist within the aspie world that heavily overlaps with depression. He has been conditioned to bury his depression and not burden others with it. Any advice on getting him to trust me more and open up?
To start, the beginning of our relationship was quite full of sex and intimacy. He is probably a bit more comfortable on this level than some aspies (at least as far as I've read so far). He fell into a pretty heavy depression several months ago that has spiraled pretty severely the past couple months. No sex, which is mostly fine, but then now no cuddling. He'll allow me to cuddle him but doesn't really reciprocate. He's been pretty deep into video games as well, which I'm really understanding about and rarely ever ask him to deviate from that unless i've specifically asked for plans otherwise ahead of time.
So even knowing as much as I know about aspergers and him and his behaviors in general, I'm having a really difficult time with his recent withdrawal. He's typically really direct and honest, so when I've asked if there is something wrong with the relationship and he says no, it's depression, I'm inclined to believe him.
My issue is I have no idea how to exist within the aspie world that heavily overlaps with depression. He has been conditioned to bury his depression and not burden others with it. Any advice on getting him to trust me more and open up?