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Is there someone you could be with non-stop?

manca

manca

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Without feeling need to escape somewhere, to be left alone for some time? Family, friend, partner? Is there anyone that you don't need to "refill batteries" after hanging out with them?
I can stay with some rare people and have fun while I'm with them, but even in case when they left soon enough, before I wanted them gone, I still need some alone time after. If they don't leave soon enough, well....
Other days I just can't stand any people around me in first place. Anything they say, if they try to touch me, everything is so annoying and unbearable.

I feel like this today and I think my mom is hurt by that a lot. She just doesn't understand I need to move away from everything sometimes. Lately I need to do that much more often than I used to. She keeps coming in my room, offering my favorite food if I come down, saying it's too cold in my room, etc.
Maybe she thinks I'm depressed, but I really feel quite happy today. Just not ready to communicate with people in person, or by telephone.
 
No one comes to mind... .but I think there's people I can be around for longer periods than others. I had a friend over last night (whom I hadn't seen for a while) and we spent about 9 hours hanging out without having the feeling of "I need alone time". My girlfriend is a bit of the same I guess. I also remembered when I went to raves with a friend... we always went by train up north (since there's nothing like that in my area), and we left at 8 in the evening and got home at 10 in the morning. That's 14 hours kinda stuck with him... I think that's kinda pushing it already for me, no matter how good my friendship/bond is with someone.

I should mention; I live at my parents house, but everyone is so private and busy with his own stuff, I can easily not see and speak to my mom and dad for a day and no one is bothered by it. We value privacy and personal space.

I think, this entire notion of being with someone... there's more to it than just "being with someone". If there's a plan and some activities we can do, I guess it's fine. To do longer stretches. But that kinda focusses my attention to said activities and not to said friend.
 
Anyone with four legs absolutely. Two legs? That might be a stretch...but I suppose it's possible.
 
I've never gotten tired out from being with my best friend.
Other people, yes, definitely I need breaks. Definitely.
Except with babies and very young children. With them, it is different.
 
I married her! I even told her that she was special to me because being with her was as good as being alone.

She is also the only person I have ever truly missed, and couldn't stand to not have around. Good thing she felt the same way!
 
No one comes to mind... .but I think there's people I can be around for longer periods than others. I had a friend over last night (whom I hadn't seen for a while) and we spent about 9 hours hanging out without having the feeling of "I need alone time". My girlfriend is a bit of the same I guess. I also remembered when I went to raves with a friend... we always went by train up north (since there's nothing like that in my area), and we left at 8 in the evening and got home at 10 in the morning. That's 14 hours kinda stuck with him... I think that's kinda pushing it already for me, no matter how good my friendship/bond is with someone.

I should mention; I live at my parents house, but everyone is so private and busy with his own stuff, I can easily not see and speak to my mom and dad for a day and no one is bothered by it. We value privacy and personal space.

I think, this entire notion of being with someone... there's more to it than just "being with someone". If there's a plan and some activities we can do, I guess it's fine. To do longer stretches. But that kinda focusses my attention to said activities and not to said friend.
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It's the same thing with me.

But it's nice to hear it's possible to find someone...

Anyone with four legs absolutely. Two legs? That might be a stretch...but I suppose it's possible.
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Pets are easy to be with for me too, I wonder if that has something to do with not having to be on guard all the time, and basically they won't demand your attention all the time. They are quite happy with just being beside you.
 
manca said:
Pets are easy to be with for me too, I wonder if that has something to do with not having to be on guard all the time, and basically they won't demand your attention all the time. They are quite happy with just being beside you.
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That's probably why I like babies and little children. (I mean, one does need to pay attention to them for their sake of their safety, but that's not the same thing as them demanding your attention) I know that some people act as if one needs to be constantly cuddling babies, but sometimes that's because of the adult's decision, and the adult's choice. Sometimes the baby is quite happy exploring his world and doesn't need you in his face. Raised by my daughter: My wife and I are having a fight and we need YOUR help And even when he does want attention, it's different than with adults. Adults want attention, and they also expect you to act in a certain way when you give that attention. Babies often want attention, but they don't have expectations about how you should act when you give it, they are happy with you just being there.
 
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Yep. My DSSW (Dear, Sweet, and SEXY Wife! :)
 
No and I'm so glad I'm not alone in wanting to be alone. Though as much as I need to recharge, when I need to be around someone, I need it like RIGHT NOW. So cats work best for me. People.... I'm working on it.
 
Maybe not quite 'non-stop' but I enjoy being around my one cousin a lot. He does not hover around me, is laid back, has the same sarcastic, dry humour, loves reading/researching/learning as much as me and usually similar things and best of all: he is comfortable sitting in the same room (not crowding) and doing his own thing while I do mine and socialising is not deemed ESSENTIAL and an hour or two can go by without any pressure to interact/talk much. After, we return to whatever topic we'd left off at and it's effortless. :D
 
I can barely stand to be around someone for a short time, so being around anyone non-stop would be my worst nightmare!
 
I don't think so.

There are people whose company I enjoy, and who I like spending time with, but I can only handle so much interaction at a time. If I've had a long day being around people, like on Mondays, when I go straight from university to work, all I want to do for the rest of the evening is be alone.
 
Myself. That's the only one. Me and Waldo even get cabin fever during the winter months and during vacation time when I'm at home more.
 
I know a few people I could be around indefinitely... if we didn't have to talk the entire time. They're laid-back people who are hard to offend, so I don't have to worry about anything except being outright mean. I think that contributes to not being drained.
 
I have to say no.

Closest one would be my daughter, who is more like me than any living person I know and we understand each other better than anything. But even the two of us need our alone time.
 
I can easily spend vast lengths of time with my partner without feeling the need to retreat and have alonetime, but he makes me feel more comfortable than I have ever been in the presence of another human, and interacting with him is never draining/exhausting/distressing, like other social situations tend to be. In addition to this, we are both also quite happy to spend time in each others company whilst doing our own things - so there is no pressure or obligation to interact aaall the time. :)
 
I can't imagine that I could; at the very least it's nobody I've ever met.
 
Heck no! There are people I love dearly, and would probably give my life for, but if I were to have to be around them constantly? I would probably go nuts--and drive them nuts in the process. Understand, please, this is not a reflection on them as people. I suppose I am naturally just a loner...I need my "me time"...and honestly, I don't think anyone, Aspergers, NT or otherwise, could respond to this question with an emphatic "YES!" Everyone needs their space. :)
 
I could spend all my time with my wife. We met as teenagers and like to grab any moments we can to be together. Not always easy whilst bringing up kids and having jobs etc
 
One friend comes to mind. We don't speak for months on end and then suddenly we'll meet up and spend entire days together and I'll stay at his place or he at mine, and then we'll hang out for a few hours in the morning before parting. I think the only reason I'm able to do this is because he is always as energized as I am and we don't feel the need to talk to eachother all the time between the days we hang out. He's also a very positive influence in my life.
 
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