Is my boyfriend in the wrong for ending our relationship because we don’t mentally connect?

[Matthias]

Yeah you are right. Even if I don’t tell them some people could tell I am different and mentally disabled then they ghost me. How come?

I think most people prefer relationships with others who are similar to themselves since it's easier to relate to people when you have more in common with them. Why not seek out relationships from others who share your mental disability?

 

[dancerxoxo123]

I think most people prefer relationships with others who are similar to themselves since it's easier to relate to people when you have more in common with them. Why not seek out relationships from others who share your mental disability?

That may be a good idea

 

[dancerxoxo123]

Some people who embrace diversity still want relationships with others who are similar to themselves. For example, I don't think anyone who is a genius would want a relationship with someone who is mentally disabled due to being too dissimilar even if they have nothing against it.

Why wouldn’t they want a relationship with them due to being too dissimilar?

 

[Judge]

Some people who embrace diversity still want relationships with others who are similar to themselves. For example, I don't think anyone who is a genius would want a relationship with someone who is mentally disabled due to being too dissimilar even if they have nothing against it.

Indeed- "some people". Just not necessarily most people.

Then again, If someone is truly a genius, they'd have the ability to determine someone is intellectually incompatible with them at the outset. Not after so many rolls in the hay.

In essence, I don't think her boyfriend is a genius any more than I think she deserves to be downgraded in society by a questionable one-time IQ score. Yet we all know such prejudices prevail nevertheless in society.

Sadly this also reminds me of two autistic couples who met here and got married. Marriages that didn't last long. Which leads me to believe that the perception of seeking one's own kind may not be a such an obvious metric in what truly determines compatibility.

Most of my relationships were with women who were not my intellectual equal. In hindsight, did it really matter to me? Was it a factor in why the relationships failed? No on both counts.

 

[Jonn]

Indeed- "some people". Just not necessarily most people.

Agreed.
Opposites attract, at times...

Sadly this also reminds me of two autistic couples who met here and got married. Marriages that didn't last long. Which leads me to believe that the perception of seeking one's own kind may not be a such an obvious metric in what truly determines compatibility.

Agreed.

However,
If two ppl have similar difficulties. E.G., ADHD, dissociation, or information overload meltdowns, there would be more understanding in the relationship.
I am speaking from personal experience here.

Most of my relationships were with women who were not my intellectual equal. In hindsight, did it really matter to me? Was it a factor in why the relationships failed? No on both counts.

Intelligence isn't the only consideration.
Life insight/experience is something else to consider, as an example.

 

[TheBooFace]

My boyfriend wants to end our relationship and take a break because we don't "mentally connect" and he says I talk at an elementary school level and he told me he wants to find someone who talks more at his level. It's not my fault I talk in an elementary school level because I have a disability that affects my communication such as my autism and borderline intellectual functioning so it’s not something I can change about myself. I don't want to be single for life because of this. Is he wrong for breaking up with me because of this and not just accept me for who I am?

No, he did the right thing; dragging you along any further would be the wrong thing.

 

[Jonn]

No, he did the right thing; dragging you along any further would be the wrong thing.

Assuming this hasn't happened, he could have had 2 "girlfriends", but he chose not to.