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Is my boyfriend in the wrong for ending our relationship because we don’t mentally connect?

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dancerxoxo123

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My boyfriend wants to end our relationship and take a break because we don't "mentally connect" and he says I talk at an elementary school level and he told me he wants to find someone who talks more at his level. It's not my fault I talk in an elementary school level because I have a disability that affects my communication such as my autism and borderline intellectual functioning so it’s not something I can change about myself. I don't want to be single for life because of this. Is he wrong for breaking up with me because of this and not just accept me for who I am?
 
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dancerxoxo123 said:
Is he wrong for breaking up with me because of this and not just accept me for who I am?
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No. It is the right thing. It would be a very unhealthy relationship for you both if he stayed with a partner who does not meet his needs because it would make him deeply unhappy. When one partner is deeply unhappy, both are. (Experiencing some of this myself at the moment.) He did you a favour, really. Hope you can understand and feel this at some point in the future.

Sorry to hear of the situation, it's a hard one to be in and you have my sympathies.
 
velociraptor said:
No. It is the right thing. It would be a very unhealthy relationship for you both if he stayed with a partner who does not meet his needs because it would make him deeply unhappy. When one partner is deeply unhappy, both are. (Experiencing some of this myself at the moment.) He did you a favour, really. Hope you can understand and feel this at some point in the future.

Sorry to hear of the situation, it's a hard one to be in and you have my sympathies.
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So he doesn’t accept me for who I am?
 
dancerxoxo123 said:
So he doesn’t accept me for who I am?
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Most likely it sounds like he probably always had such issues.

Frankly I think that was made rather clear in how you described him relative to your relationship with him. Having someone break up with you is seldom a happy or amicable situation. However under the circumstances it sounds like it's for the best for you.

Most importantly you want to find someone who appreciates you for who you are. Not who they want you to be.
 
Judge said:
Most likely it sounds like he probably always had such issues.

Frankly I think that was made rather clear in how you described him relative to your relationship with him. Having someone break up with you is seldom a happy or amicable situation. However under the circumstances it sounds like it's for the best for you.

Most importantly you want to find someone who appreciates you for who you are. Not who they want you to be.
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Yeah you are right.
 
Couples breakup. l think he could have been a tab more sensitive and said that maybe it wasn't a match. Sometimes guys just are looking for one thing, and then they move on. I am being very honest. You deserve someone that respects you, and gives you the happiness you are looking for. People that are perfectly matched in intellect, maturity, can still breakup. People can even fall out of love. That's relationships, they are very hard to predict. So this isn't anybody's fault, it doesn't mean you are a bad partner. It just is not a match. Sometimes the timing is wrong, sometimes maturity just isn't there, sometimes the relationship is toxic, l can go on and on. You maybe sad for awhile. Don't let him come back, unless he agrees to be fully committed. Sometimes you need to walk away from a relationship because they aren't all in it.
 
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Is he wrong for breaking up with me because of this and not just accept me for who I am?
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Most relations ultimately fail simply because of an unfortunate mismatch.
I am speaking from experience.

Both partners need to complement each other, and that sometimes doesn't work either.
 
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