I never been asked out by a girl or been on a date. The only woman who approach me are married or in an relationship so they are an waste of my time.
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so they are an waste of my time.
For me I prefer activity in small groups of say about six to eight persons. It's like if there are other ppl around then I can be more myself. I like walking alot. Ladies like walking for exercise. I'm not much interested in men. Ladies like good hygiene. Ladies like feeling safe. Ladies like being listened to before they are lusted after. Ladies like men who are healthy. Ladies like men who talk about the character of the people they admire. Ladies like being able to help someone. Ladies like hearing about what you are grateful for. Ladies like knowing that you have a sensible plan for your life. Ladies love to help you go shopping for gifts for the people that you admire and respect. Ladies like hearing about POSITIVE stories from your life.You do not mention that you have ever pursued inviting a woman on a date. Do you always wait for a woman to make the first move? What do you consider a date? Often friends just meet up for coffee then go from there. Do you have friends? Sorry to sound harsh but what do you have to offer that someone would be interested in? Why would someone want to be around you? What are your interests? Can you find others with the same? What do you want out of the dating experience or do you just think this is something that you have to do?
Dating is kind of old fashioned these days. People hang out together. They do activities together such as hiking, bike riding, canoeing, etc. They meet up in informal settings. Be open to possibilities.
So very right! It took me getting my head out of my a** to recognize that just as I was very shy and inexperienced there are women as shy an inexperienced as me. Looking back from that perspective let me realize the opportunities I missed in getting to know somebody who may have been fascinating. But then, besides being shy I had the double whammy of being unable to read social signals.I'll bet you $5000 that there have been women who were interested in you, but they were waiting for you to make the first move.
Still does not explain how only couples approach me.
I'll bet you $5000 that there have been women who were interested in you, but they were waiting for you to make the first move.
So, why aren't you working to gain them as friends and looking to get in their good graces? You would not be the first man to have a couple as matchmakers.Still does not explain how only couples approach me.
Wonderful!But I do have an ability to communicate with other people (other women) via the camera lens... Today after work (it's the weekend! ), I treated myself to a coffee and a walk downtown... During a brief pop up concert spotted this lady in just the right light, asked if I could take a photo... We also had a brief chat, maybe one day the camera lens will lead me to a future partner... In the meantime it's simple self confidence to even approach people like that...
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That's something I tried but could not do. When I sit alone then couple will approach me which now annoyed me enough I don't want to talk to them.