That is the one rule that I have found always works. It is absolute gold.
I often tell myself, "Okay, just be kind. Remember to be kind" when I'm going into a social situation.
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I use rules to understand the world. What framework do you use?
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That is the one rule that I have found always works. It is absolute gold.
I often tell myself, "Okay, just be kind. Remember to be kind" when I'm going into a social situation.
It's a solid one. Dad was & is wise. He appreciates reason, logic, and kindness, and insisted that I & the Sibling Unit both learn that as well.
One difference that I see with NTs & neurds (not all) is the priority placed on objectivity.
NTs are likely to value feelings (like acceptance) over objectivity.
Neurds still feel pain (like rejection), but value objectivity even more.
Maintaining both feelings AND objectivity would be the ideal, but sometimes they seem mutually exclusive.
NTs are likely to value feelings (like acceptance) over objectivity.
Neurds still feel pain (like rejection), but value objectivity even more.
Maintaining both feelings AND objectivity would be the ideal, but sometimes they seem mutually exclusive.
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LadyS
One eye permanently raised it seems...
One thing I'd add is not just what you say or do that's important in the NT world. Many of us are capable. But it's also about the TIMING that is very important and the HOW. If you don't say or do the right thing at the right time, it could potentially be glossed over or confuse others. And two people can say the same exact thing, but HOW you say it (i.e. volume, tone, body language, facial expression) makes the difference in how it is received.
So many factors to worry about for such little return.
So many factors to worry about for such little return.
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I may be misunderstanding this post and I may be confusing the intended definition of the term "rules". For me, understanding the world is through the laws of physics. The laws of physics is the construct of the entire universe. It is not subject to anyone's opinion or desires. It is an absolute.
Sorry if I've missed the point... It happens some times.
I do not believe society generated "laws" are valid in understanding the world, because they are created by someone's opinion to ensure a desired behavior. Understanding the world has little to do with opinion or desired behavior. Also, no one ever "disobeys" the laws of physics.
Sorry if I've missed the point... It happens some times.
