I have a date that has a good job and we seem to have some things in common, kind of.
His mother lives with him though, and she needs to be taken care of. It feels kind of weird that someone with their own place won't be able to have me over. When I try to bring this up, it's indirectly answered that his mother lives with him.
He also told me he's open to all kinds of food and comes off like a foodie and he told me that he loves sushi. So, when we went for sushi (and sashimi)i, he seemed particularly bothered by textures and it was too hard for me to gauge what he liked of sashimi if anything.
He seemed surprised that I would torture myself to eat stuff even if I didn't like it because it's respectful of culture and sustainability. If he doesn't like it, he feels that one should not finish or eat something. I pointed out that there are some people who hate all vegetables. Does that mean they should not eat any at all? He agreed that people have to try to figure something out.
I also pointed out that the more open you are about different foods, the less concern you might need to worry about if you're getting certain nutrients in your body. What might be more concerning is the quantity of food one takes in.
I am a foodie like a Bourdain but more like Zimmerman.
After that conversation, he was like "I was just testing you." First few times, I thought that response was funny, but now it is getting old. I feel like a child and I don't like that feeling. (I don't remember if he told me he was "just testing me" after this particular context, but comparably quality contexts he would make such a dull comment. It's supposed to be funny and lighten the mood, but I feel it's impractical and can get in the way if we have to deal with real problems.)
We have only had one date so far. I've determined and with talking with a friend as well that I want to continue dating him and see what happens despite some of the frustrations.
His mother lives with him though, and she needs to be taken care of. It feels kind of weird that someone with their own place won't be able to have me over. When I try to bring this up, it's indirectly answered that his mother lives with him.
He also told me he's open to all kinds of food and comes off like a foodie and he told me that he loves sushi. So, when we went for sushi (and sashimi)i, he seemed particularly bothered by textures and it was too hard for me to gauge what he liked of sashimi if anything.
He seemed surprised that I would torture myself to eat stuff even if I didn't like it because it's respectful of culture and sustainability. If he doesn't like it, he feels that one should not finish or eat something. I pointed out that there are some people who hate all vegetables. Does that mean they should not eat any at all? He agreed that people have to try to figure something out.
I also pointed out that the more open you are about different foods, the less concern you might need to worry about if you're getting certain nutrients in your body. What might be more concerning is the quantity of food one takes in.
I am a foodie like a Bourdain but more like Zimmerman.
After that conversation, he was like "I was just testing you." First few times, I thought that response was funny, but now it is getting old. I feel like a child and I don't like that feeling. (I don't remember if he told me he was "just testing me" after this particular context, but comparably quality contexts he would make such a dull comment. It's supposed to be funny and lighten the mood, but I feel it's impractical and can get in the way if we have to deal with real problems.)
We have only had one date so far. I've determined and with talking with a friend as well that I want to continue dating him and see what happens despite some of the frustrations.
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